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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 9:23:33 AM

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Pardon my intrusion; I must say, I agree with you; and it goes as well as for the men. Devote 19 years to a relationship, only to discover, all the while you thought you were building, working for a family, you were NOTHING. Nothing but a fool for believing so, an idiot.

The job thing...oh yes, you are so right thre; however, it's not just the way life is...it is the exploitation that openly prevails. Maybe, that is what life always has been, exploitation of another.

I could never do what has been done to me, yet, I think, why not, it seems to be the universal method of operation. But then.....

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 9:44:43 AM

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For me, Biology is the more limiting factor than some arbitrary number (I'd like more UMs).

And just to add for the OP, some women only want men in their 20's. Some women only want men who are older than them. Some women prefer men who are younger than them. Find the right group of women and select from there rather than lamenting about "those who got away".

Straight guys could use the same lament for all of the lesbians who "got away", but it's more efficient to admire the pictures and then hit the "Hide User" button.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 9:54:17 AM

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For me it has nothing to do with maturity.

One reason is that I find it mentally difficult to associate being submissive with a man who could be my son. If it isn't something I would do with and for a son - it more than likely will not happen with you.

Second reason is conversation. There is nothing like watching a history documentry and saying - you remember this, it happened at such and such time. Ahhhhhhh - I wasn't born yet. Old age slaps you in the face yet again.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 9:58:01 AM

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Sorry that others are so closeminded to you. To me, part of the age is "impulse control". Anyone can "wail away" on a sub, but older men tend to be patient, wait for the moment, and then know how to strike. You may be the rare example to this. Good luck in Your search.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 10:03:27 AM

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Age a deciding factor..?

hmmmm... well, my mom interfere's in my life with this "premature expansion of consciousness" spewage, but then she, prolly like all mom's, believes she owns my pussy.

Actually, the deciding factor for me is virtuosity.

It's how accomplished, strong, fierce, daring she is... I value a bareback rider in a circus (who lives in a shed), far more than some attorney chxx whose pussy smells like clorox and whose face is frozen with the beauty toxin because she's too weak to break the media hold from her mind.

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I can ASSURE you that your mom is just concerned about you and loves you and wants you to be safe and happy.....

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 10:09:05 AM

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Of course, as well as the afore-mentioned items on her agenda.

Edited to add:

Seriously, I was speaking to possession. And mom's do seem to believe they possess their daughters... of course you all seem to deny this and respond with your deep and abiding love and concern for us. And yet, after reading the post where you asked about the corn in the poop of your daughters dates, I wonder why you would expose her to ridicule at scholl when it will inevitably make the rounds that so-and-so's mom has a really gross mouth.

Consider, this, do you ask your minister this? How about any of the males you deal with? Does your daughter ask them this on YOUR behalf? I'd say prolly not. But then she prolly doesn't view YOU as her possession that she can do with as she pleases.

I'm not trying to insult you, I'm trying to make you recognize your inherent belief that your daughter is YOUR property.

< Message edited by peepeegirl5 -- 6/14/2007 10:40:24 AM >

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 10:15:47 AM

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It's all about the odds. The chances a person has the life experience and skills needed are directly proportionate to their age.
The math being what it is there are exceptions, but if you play the odds you look where you are most likely to find the targets.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 10:24:10 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: peepeegirl5

Age a deciding factor..?

hmmmm... well, my mom interfere's in my life with this "premature expansion of consciousness" spewage, but then she, prolly like all mom's, believes she owns my pussy.

.....

I'm quite sure you are going to tell me I'm full of it, but thinking you are ready to have sex and start exploring at 18 doesn't mean you actually are. Your mom probably doesn't think she "owns your pussy" but wants to prevent you from going down a sad road. It's commendable and while I know firsthand it's frustrating, love her for wanting to protect you. She will probably loosen up when you grow and demonstrate more adult qualities and seem better able to handle it.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 11:40:09 AM

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I have always been attracted to older males. At 10 it was someone 14, at 13 it was someone 18. When i married at 19 it was someone 24. Not a big difference. My crushes have always been 10-25 years older than me. I have alot off friends both male and female who are considerably older. It works for ME. I do have a general rule about anyone closer to my daughters age than mine is very unlikely to be someone i will be interested in. I just don't see them that way. So when i glance at a profile and see an age below what i have experienced i pause. I may give them a chance, but it has yet to work out in a sexual attraction way. Let's be honest, my daughter has some yummy looking male friends 16-22 but when i look at them, my brain goes to how they would look with her

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 12:28:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: peepeegirl5

Of course, as well as the afore-mentioned items on her agenda.

Edited to add:

Seriously, I was speaking to possession. And mom's do seem to believe they possess their daughters... of course you all seem to deny this and respond with your deep and abiding love and concern for us. And yet, after reading the post where you asked about the corn in the poop of your daughters dates, I wonder why you would expose her to ridicule at scholl when it will inevitably make the rounds that so-and-so's mom has a really gross mouth.

Consider, this, do you ask your minister this? How about any of the males you deal with? Does your daughter ask them this on YOUR behalf? I'd say prolly not. But then she prolly doesn't view YOU as her possession that she can do with as she pleases.

I'm not trying to insult you, I'm trying to make you recognize your inherent belief that your daughter is YOUR property.

wow, i'm sorry that is what you took away from that....i had and have a very good and comfortable relationship with my kids, and now that they are grown its even sweeter. We laugh at all the crazy stuff we have done and said to each other though the years. We had a blast for the most part and there was always this sense of love and concern... my kids always knew i would lay down in traffic for them...i believe this is why they also knew my motives for the rules and such we had. My kids do not resent me today because they know i wasnt being possessive. They dont owe me anything...and i NEVER made them feel that they were anything but their own person.......i was being their mom.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 12:36:56 PM

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Aqua...you were MUCH more eloquent then i....Thankyou for your insight. I always enjoy reading your posts.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 12:50:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: imthatacheyouhav

Aqua...you were MUCH more eloquent then i....Thankyou for your insight. I always enjoy reading your posts.

Thank you. I'm looking forward to what she has to say in a few years though.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 6/14/2007 12:51:43 PM >

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 12:54:44 PM

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I have never thought that age was important....I have always considered my self to be a little more open minded than the majority of men....I mean I like stretch marks and saggy tits....Cellulite rocks my world....Crows feet bring 'em on....I love a dumpy ass. It's fun to date go out with someone whose kitchen counter space is made up of two browning bananas and bottles of Celexa, Lexapro, Luvox, Paxil, Prozac, Zoloft, Ativan, Dalmane, Klonopin, Halcion, Librium, Restoril, Serax, Tranxene, Valium and Xanax.

I guess some people are just shallow....I pity you lost souls.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 12:58:20 PM

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I know what you are saying, but you're only 27 yourself and I don't think you have any kids. That's not to say that I don't respect your opinion, but just that it MIGHT change when you get older or if you have kids. My kids don't really have a say, but at their age, they are embarassed at everything parents do. I don't need to give them ammo...LOL. Yes, it's personal preference, on my part anyway. I simply have nothing in common with someone much younger. I dated a guy 15 years younger than me once and we simply didn't have much in common.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 1:14:07 PM

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personal preference definately

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 1:18:37 PM

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I simply have nothing in common with someone much younger.

I understand not having enough in common with people you've met that you couldn't really establish a personal relationship with them- but how many people on these boards are that much younger and you've engaged in the same topics and share the same perspectives, gone to the same places?

I think it's just an overstatement.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 1:25:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

I have never thought that age was important....I have always considered my self to be a little more open minded than the majority of men....I mean I like stretch marks and saggy tits....Cellulite rocks my world....Crows feet bring 'em on....I love a dumpy ass. It's fun to date go out with someone whose kitchen counter space is made up of two browning bananas and bottles of Celexa, Lexapro, Luvox, Paxil, Prozac, Zoloft, Ativan, Dalmane, Klonopin, Halcion, Librium, Restoril, Serax, Tranxene, Valium and Xanax.

I guess some people are just shallow....I pity you lost souls.

I spose I'm just shallow that way.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 1:27:44 PM

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Wow, I didnt think this post would get this many replies. I appreciate all of your responses and various viewpoints. All are helping me to rethink the original parameters of my question and look at it from different angles.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 1:31:33 PM

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I have to admit I never understood allowing your own kids have that sort of say in who you are with- they can't respect you, your choices or someone else just because of age? Does that really teach them to respect diversity, respect you as an adult? Obviously the person you bring in MUST be a respectful person and fit well in the existing family, but I don't see how age is automatically a big deal for that.

Nor do I think one needs to date someone very different in order to teach someone about diversity or respect- I simply don't see how it necessarily causes a problem either.

And I've never understood the "I've got a daughter your age, so I can't be with you" issue either.

I think it tends to be more the parent are unable to separate relationships than anything. Perhaps because I'm polyamorous and I understand forming very unique simultaneous relationships which respect eachother that make it difficult for me to understand.

Now, plain personal preference I completely understand.

Well, I have no problems separating relationships. My children come first. My Master comes first. They share that position in varying degrees based on who they are. But since I am a member of my family and have people who aren't all adults to be concerned with, I keep things as "normal" as possible. This means my interest in bdsm is mine and mine alone. It means my interest in swinging is mine and mine alone. I do not allow either of those interests to touch upon the lives of my children as much as I possibly can. And as I am a single mother in a community of largely married couples, I try to fit in around here as much as possible.

I'm even looking forward to when my youngest graduates from high school so that I can change my name back to my maiden name. Until then, I won't do anything because it's not my children's responsibility to "explain" their mother to anyone - and that includes my last name and theirs, as well as the men in my life.

And I really don't think I have too much to worry about regarding their "diversity training." We are a diverse family as it is. However, explaining why mom has more than one man in her bed or why mom is dating someone a couple of years older than her son is more diversity than I'm willing to venture into.

Why is that so difficult to understand? I'm an adult. I don't give a rat's ass who fucks who and how much or how often. My children get to make their own choices in this life. This is a kink we live and while I find it normal for me, I don't presume it's normal for my children.

I know how much kids talk amongst themselves and deal daily with children whose parents are not making good choices in terms of what's right for their children. Personally, I just really do not need to fuck and be beat enough to make choices that are a detriment to the people I have the responsibility of caring for, My children are not going to be a part of that crowd of largely dysfunctional teens if I have anything to do with it.

To the original poster, if dating someone twice your age is so darned important to you that you can't understand why it's not important to me, well then, just stick around. My Master has promised to release me on my 102nd birthday. He says then I can go rob the cradles of all the nursing homes. We can make a date. How's that?

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/14/2007 1:31:37 PM

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Oh absolutely, LA. I find that, as far as opinions or perspectives go, age has nothing to do with it. But that's online. In face to face, I haven't found it to be quite the same. I read different books (not every book, but some). I'm well established in my career. I doubt that I would have the same tastes in movies, etc as someone a lot younger than me. Now, if I looked, I could prolly find someone that I would be compatible with, but since younger doesn't do anything for me, why would I look?

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