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ORIGINAL: EvaLass
The submissive does need to feel that she can call on the Dominant for a few days after play if she is feeling depressed or isolated.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: EvaLass
The submissive does need to feel that she can call on the Dominant for a few days after play if she is feeling depressed or isolated.

Not all subs needs that.  And not all doms are or should feel they need to provide that. 

The sub AND dom need to communicate what they need- before, during and after a scene and make sure everyone is in agreement to reasonably ensure a positive experience for everyone.  This may or may not include aftercare of any sort.

And the sub needs to be willing to provide aftercare for the dom as well if it is communicated and agreed upon.

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ORIGINAL: Rover


 
It reminds me of the Dominant/Top that coaxes a submissive/slave/bottom to their home, leaves them bound and gagged, and then gets on the internet to brag to their online friends.
 

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
. I also agree with MrD, anyone requiring a whole entire support network(outside of their partner, their dog or cat and maybe a close friend) to get through sub drop should probably not be playing. That kind of need suggests that something more is going on.

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ORIGINAL: EvaLass

Sub drop does not mean that a submissive is emotionally unbalanced. It is a common event, and many submissives experience sub drop. A submissive who experiences sub drop and who wants to play needs a safety net and techniques to deal with it. Sub drop is a biochemical  and emotional experience in which the body and mind are struggling to reach equilibrium after play. It can happen up to 72 hours after a play session. The body has been flooded with endorphins, which cause a natural high, and the submissive's mind may be reeling from the powerful and intimate connection that she made with the Dominant during play.  I believe that a Dominant could do everything right in and after play, and the submissive could still experience sub drop. I had a great play session with the Dom I mentioned, then three days later I was in sub drop. He took great care of me, but I still went down.  For me, it is like falling down into a very deep well. Even though  it has happened to me nearly every time I play, I still didn't realize it until the submissive I met on CM once again said, "Girlfriend, you are in sub drop." When I reach sub drop, I tend to feel angry at Dominant who exposed me to such intense experiences.  One of the articles I read said this is very common. He finds this behavior confusing, so I am educating him. We get through it, I return to normal, and then it happens again after play. For some, sub drop may be a minor glitch. It affects me and some others who posted on a related forum topic that I ran. In some situations, the submissive needs some kind of support network beyond the Dominant she is dating.

I was merely suggesting that those who face sub drop might like to know that they can email or write someone in a network. It was really an informal idea to build community connections. Just a suggestion, that's all. I do have a social network and I feel blessed that it includes some wonderful people in the local community who will be there if I need them.

Regardless of whether or not people are interested in a support network, it is important for the submissive and Dominant to understand sub drop - why it is happening and how it manifests itself.  The submissive does need to feel that she can call on the Dominant for a few days after play if she is feeling depressed or isolated. The Dominant does need to understand that providing support for sub drop is part of aftercare. Some submissives may get everything they need from the Dominant while others may require a more extended support system beyond him that they can rely on if needed during sub drop. Everyone's needs and experiences are different.

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ORIGINAL: texancutie

Not sure if you were replying to MrDiscipline44 or not.  I certainly don't think subdrop or domdrop means someone is unbalanced.  Just thought the joke domiguy told was funny.