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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/3/2007 5:11:08 PM

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Simple really...they don't want to. What business is it of anybody's who they are owned by, or who they own.

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/3/2007 5:36:50 PM

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It's like saying I have a sister! Who really cares what her name is anyways. I actually have 4 half sisters. If I was to make a post using their names, and one of them come on this site they might want to kick my ass for it! Who knows my Dad just might find this website. LOL... but seriously.   Names are not really that important. Sure I had a Dad, a Mom, one half brother and 4 half sisters.

It's simply a matter of privacy. There have been a few times when I have unintentionally typed out the first name of somebody from a previous relationship. Personally, I try to refer to xxxxxx as the "Girl Next Door"... The names are really not that important to share. I often come up with my own little pet nicknames for people I meet online too.. such as "Bullwhip girl" ot "Death Metal Girl".

This allows me to post about 'em without them knowing or realizing I'm refering to them should they read the MB post about 'em. LOL...

If every sub/slave on the otherside listed their Dom/me username, this could be an open invitation for Drama.   There will be those that the sub/slave turned down, blocked or had a hard time dealing with. Some of these people did'nt like NO as the answer and will go out of their way to cause problems.   Invitation for trouble of sorts.

All and All names are not as important.

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/3/2007 5:42:56 PM

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We have in our profile that we own a boy already, he has in his profile that he's owned ... I'm relatively certain that names are not mentioned in either profile. Why? because it's no body's business but ours unless a relationship begins to develop. When we are talking to a new potential, and we feel it's appropriate - we share the boy's screen name so that they can see a little more of what they would be getting into (in terms of the personalities in this home). Otherwise, it doesn't matter.

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RE: Why do you not mention a Dom by name? - 7/3/2007 5:47:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: spankmepink11
As Aileen stated (thats not your real name!!!) .

Hahahaha. Nope. Although my real name does start with A.

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RE: Why do you not mention a Dom by name? - 7/3/2007 6:04:26 PM

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My Dom isn't on this site, isn't on any site, isn't interested. He's a r/l hands-on kinda guy. And he doesn't have some cute nick. He knows I come here, he's enjoyed some of the tips I've learned here, but it's not his thing.

I've put in my profile that I have a wonderful Dom and I'm definitely not looking for anyone else. I don't need to give a name. Who cares what other people believe - if they choose not to believe it's their problem. Maybe if you're both on the site it helps to give the information so people know who's connected, but it's your choice.

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RE: Why do you not mention a Dom by name? - 7/3/2007 6:04:56 PM

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The outing of relationships can create drama. I think that is one reason why people prefer to keep it a secret or just let a few select people know. I don't see a problem with people wanting to safeguard their relationship.

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RE: Why do you not mention a Dom by name? - 7/3/2007 6:19:18 PM

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excellent point kitten!

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Status: online </image/blank.gif> What i don't understand is when the sub DOES mention the Dom's name and how much she loves and adores him, so you look up the Dom's profile, there is not even a mention of a sub any place in his profile....

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RE: Why do you not mention a Dom by name? - 7/3/2007 6:26:48 PM

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My dom is my dom...not my partner. He visits the threads from time to time. Looks at my posts. For all intents and purposes... I call him my dom. Does he call me his sub? Not really sure if he really considers me that. We are in a non commited relationship. He talks to others, I talk to others. Whether he meets them, tell them about me, plays with them, or does none of these things is really none of my business.

If he were to find one, that he wanted to be with, it would mean things would end between us. As long as we part on good terms, and still talk from time to time, I would be okay with that same goes for if I found someone else. Though, as my loyalty and faithfulness can sometimes be a fault, I doubt I will find anyone to be serious with while his. I have already told him, that I do not plan to meet anybody in real life for any thing other than friends only relationships.

So it is not in my profile that I am owned--cuz really I am not. And therefore, no needs for names to be involved.

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RE: Why do you not mention a Dom by name? - 7/3/2007 7:20:04 PM

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While it's obvious I don't hide who my Master is, I can understand people who have privacy issues. When I was going through my divorce, I had to be very careful about my online activities as my ex threatened to 'out' me continuously for over 2 years. I did not even join here to post in the forums until everything was completely said and done. I am extremely blessed to be owned by NChaka and I am thrilled I am finally able to openly say, "I am His."

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/3/2007 7:29:47 PM

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One reason is to contact other dom's who actually have living breathing bottom's (to cover all types). I like to meet those who are living this lifestyle.

This is one of the reasons that M does not particularly wish his name to be batted around. He is a very private man and not overly social. That's why he has such social butterfly slaves - we keep him from holing up from the rest of the world.

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/3/2007 7:37:47 PM

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Because they and their Dom see no need for notariety.

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/3/2007 8:52:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: dogobedience

My name is Tiger, the only name I have been called since birth ( Japanese mom thing I guess), it is not a made up one, though not my legal one.
Dogobedience, is how I feel toward those in my charge.

from what i have experienced in my 13 years of being on the internet,...most if not all people think your name is umm your name...not how you feel towards anyone...otherwise i would name myself dipshitdumbmofo in half the places i frequent to remind myself that i am not that bad...btw by frequent i mean go in once a month for 2 minutes...
if you have such a big problem with people calling you dog...change it?

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/3/2007 10:39:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: dogobedience
Why do somepeople say they have a dom, but do not list there name on there profile.

I use 'MJ' in lue of His name. My page says I am in a relationship and my journal entries talk about Him on and off site, I think that works. If MJ asked me for something more substantial, I would be happy to oblidge. MJ has a profile on here, if He wanted people to know who He was, He can put my sn on His page {an if He asked, I would put His sn on my page}, its not a big deal, as long as His page says He isn't looking or at least His journal and He doesn't look; I'm cool with that.

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/3/2007 11:40:57 PM

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Privacy and no one else's business.

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/3/2007 11:56:04 PM

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I don't see that it is anyones business who my Master is. I for one am not looking for anything from the site and am here only for the fora. He has a profile here but does not use it that much so I see no reason for state his name on mine. I / we have nothing to hide by doing that. People that know us in real life know who we are and that we are together which is the important thing. We are unlikely to ever have real life contact with anyone from this site so what does it matter?

You have to remember that at the end of the day this is online and not real life!

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/4/2007 12:13:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: susie

You have to remember that at the end of the day this is online and not real life!

holy crap! its not?! dang it...

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/4/2007 12:23:03 AM

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I have Janus' name in my profile and signature. I am very proud of Him and being with Him. However, if I ever wanted to put something else in my sig line that took up more room, I would take it out and not think twice about it. That certainly wouldn't mean I have stopped having pride in our relationship.

Same with the profile. It's mostly there so the really funny trolling Doms who contact know who to bother next. Me and Janus routinely have laughs over the silly mail I get and other Doms asking Him for permission to use me with reasons like, "She needs a Dom while you're away or she will lose her obedience and submissiveness."
If I ever had something else I felt should be there instead, I would take it off. Or if He left this site and deactivated His account.

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/4/2007 1:20:51 AM

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Like me, MM is new to the lifestyle, he's not on the forums, so why would I want to give anyone any more information than MM, which is a shortened version of the sn that he uses on other 'nilla fori.

Who am I to "out" him? If he wants the world to know who he is he can tell them.

In the end why does anyone else need to know any more that that? I actually find it quite sinister that people want to know this. I like my privacy and want to keep it that way.

Trolls should respect that I say I'm collared and not need any more than that.... it's academic anyway as they clearly don't read profiles to start with!!!

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/4/2007 3:20:14 AM

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There is also the fact that not all dynamics are the same. If someone has a problem with the behaviour of a girl I Own (Or as currently, have under consideration) they are free to refer the matter to Me so there is a point to My name being on her profile. If in anothers dynamic it is a matter for her to sort out herself then there is no need for His name to be there and the fact she is Owned should suffice.

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RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? - 7/4/2007 4:35:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: dogobedience

My slant, I am proud to own kali, and have no reason to not let everybody it. So my profile and hers state it. Nothing to hide, not married to someone else, attempting to search without her being cognizant(others would quiclkly see my name or hers on the profile), currently president of the planet :), or whatever.

I ask for a myriad of reasons, and will expand as replies continue.

Are you saying that those who dont post their partner's name, as you do, aren't proud but trying to hide something, are married and searching without the other being cognizant? Wouldnt that be assuming something about someone you know nothing about? What effect does it have on you whether or not someone posts their partner's name, just because you might do so? What ever happened to personal preference, rather than do as I do or you must be up to no good?

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