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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
Honesty is only useful when you know how to apply it effectively anyway.

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ORIGINAL: wwwkevinww
I rather be happy in a dump than miserable in a mansion.......I'm not super interested in material possessions ( moving sucks when you own more stuff) and I really hate moving.  I'd be willing to move under the right situation (yes, I'm a dom, gasp), but I can't live off of someone else, I don't think its ethical.  In the same token, I don't take kindly to someone trying to live off me.  I basically think they are lacking something critical...

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I had a money dispute with my gf/sub, where I went to visit her spend time even though we are local to each other, in a special circumstance, and probably should of talked about it ahead of time but thought we had a basic understanding....appearantly not, she wasn't even willing to cover any expenses....so me going out to meet her cost me money.  The idea I had about her helping cover expenses for me visiting fell flat with her....I basically paid for everything, and made me think she really wasn't right for me, too materialistic.  I know alot of women are materialistic, and its a major turn off....

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ORIGINAL: cjenny
I plan to move to a city where I know no one. It's going to be a seriously awesome adventure. Once I sell this house!

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ORIGINAL: MASTERHAWG

Sounds like you're loaded with "material" things. Why would you even run a profile? You're obviously the "ruling" force in your life.
But, not EVERY sub is in your successful situation, Maybe some of the others would like to achieve such things, too!

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if you treasure possessions more than relationsihps, seek mental help.....

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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl



So because I have successful life that I'm attached to, and a good stable job to support my retirement years , I have no right to love and romance? Keep in mind, I'm not a  slave, I'm a sub/bottom. I give control over CERTAIN areas to a dom...not all of them.
 
My financial stability and support network is NOT something I'll give him and I sure as hell wouldn't give up the passion of my life, which is my horse farm! Now if he owns a huge horse farm somewhere that me, my family, and my friends can go live on, then I'm all for it!

 I have every bit as much right to search for a kinky partner as anyone else. I limit my search however to local people who won't expect me to give up the things important to me, because whether he lives 1000miles away or 10miles away, my butt is staying right here at the address I'm at now.  The way I see it, no man who really loved me would ask me to give up the things that make me happy!



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I'm attached to my house and 5 acres too...not because it's a material thing but because I can have my 8 dogs and 10 cats here...most dominants don't own rural property and wouldn't have a place for my babies to live. It's about my relationships with my fur-kids, not the house itself.

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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

Why does it seem that most Doms want their potential sub/slave relocate to them and not the other way around? Why can't some Doms/Dommes be willing to relocate to where ever their sub/slave lives? i've talked to a few where they were either a Dom/Domme and it shows "willing to relocate", but than when talking to them they say no thier not and that their sub/slave has to go to them. Please help me understand this possible misconception that i have.
  Thank you

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ORIGINAL: mstrjx

Hello, I'm Jeff, and I'm a Dom (Hi, Jeff.)

My box was checked, but even so I didn't know if things would go that way if/when I met someone interesting.  Well, I met someone interesting, and unless certain circumstances occur, I'll be leaving my nest and job in the next few months and heading to be with my submissive partner.

The reason why I have that box checked is that I work in an industry where jobs are relatively plentiful (although I wouldn't want to necessarily do what I used to within my industry).  I have a decent, steady income and a position as manager now.  I have no idea what sort of job I'll get and no clue what sort of money I would be making.  We've established that I would be working at 'something'.  And that's it.

Answer your question?

Finally a Dom who was willing to relocate. Only my what?? 2nd Dom that's told me that he'll relocate?

Jeff

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ORIGINAL: Rover

Seriously, I'm not judging the choices you make in life, nor in your relationships.  But I can't help to wonder if the irony of this statement escapes you?  You're complaining about money, and she's the one that's too materialistic? 

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

heh... I have a great job, a nice place, and I love my neighborhood but..
Heck.. I'll beat you daily if I can build a place on your property.  :) I love animals.
LOL
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: MercTech

Employment dynamics.  A Dom may have a career that can't be picked up easily.

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ORIGINAL: MercTech

Employment dynamics.  A Dom may have a career that can't be picked up easily.

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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

Most normal people, dom or otherwise, are quite reluctant to relocate.

That's because most normal people have jobs, families, friends, homes, etc.

The lack of these things, or the ability to competely walk away from them, is one that would give me pause when considering a potential partner, as I would question his sense of loyalty and devotion to those around him as well as the stability of his personality in general.

I am fiercely devoted to my family, friends, career, and home. There's not a man on earth worth losing those things and I would expect my partner to have similiar values.

Hence the reason why I am adamant about dating local men only (I tried the long distance thing and found it very disturbing on many levels.)