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HeavansKeeper -> RE: I have a theory... (7/14/2007 3:14:30 PM)
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Palerose, I'll defend your theory. You seem to have a good idea of servitude, even though your theory is hinged on a few stereotypes. There are exceptions to every rule, and multiple forums have all taught me that if you don't protect yourself from these, you might appear unimformed.
The stereotypical middle-American vanilla guy is the one you seem to be talking about. While he's trying to romance his wife into sex, if he's lucky and she's in the mood, I could easily claim it from My Pet. This isn't to say I don't romance My Pet, but I don't HAVE to. Owning her is certainly a dream come true.
You have quite the advanced view on being submissive, even in light of your lack of experience. You realize the difference between being taken advantage of and being taken. Men and women can be dominant and/or submissive. Whether its nature or nurture, or can be forced upon them, or taught to them, is irrelevant now. Some men are submissive. Some women are submissive. Some men are dominant. Some women are dominant. The problem is, most of the world is closeminded to a d/s world. In a world where 'slavery' is seen as a bad thing, consensually owning someone is not well received. In the stereotypical vanilla relationship, there is little discussion of the dominant or submissive nature of the participants. Even if the lean one way out of the bedroom, it could be different behind closed doors.
There are many happy vanilla relationships. There are many vanilla relationships that are unhappy because two dominant people or two submissive people have found eachother AND don't know how to handle that.
Our relationship (My Pet and I, not readers and I) can work so well because of our power exchange. If there is a problem, she doesn't start yelling and sleeping around. She goes to Her Master. Her Mentor. Her Teacher. Her Lover. Her Rock. If I have a problem, I have no fear in telling her what I feel. I know is being trained to take news from me calmly, and digest it before making decisions. Her training is subtle, but going very well =).
Our power exchange (My Pet and I, not readers and I) can work so well because of our mutual understanding and attunement to one another. I can see what she's thinking. I can sniff the air around her and tell how her day went. I can read written words and tell her more about herself than her last vanilla boyfriend could at the end of their relationship. She trusts me like in a way she doesn't trust anyone else. She has given me the power of our love because she knows I willl use it for good. For her, for me, for us.
Relationships are work, that's not news to anyone. Work is always easier with the right tools, also, not news. In our relationship, her submission gives us the tools to work on our relationship. She learns to love (and more importantly SEE) the little things I do for her everyday. I learn to nurture and love her in a way I've never done before because it's my responsibility. A responsibility that I love to have. I am here to teach her. To train her to love me better, to make me happier, to gain even more happiness in pleasing of me. For better or worse, the good with the bad, tongue bathes and spankings, I love the way she loves the way I Love Her.
Palerose, you're a chauvenist pig, just like your master, and he probably loves you for it. =)
Concerning this forum: I've posted here a few times. The exact number can be seen to your left. There will always be people who misread your words, who assume things you didn't say, who nitpick on spelling and grammar, who comment more about themselves than your post (guilty), who defend the fact that stereotypes are dumb and don't encompass everyone, who feign knowledge, who hijack threads, who don't answer question, who make smart ass responses... The list goes on and on. The good with the bad. Some people here are very helpful and have given me insight and viewpoints I would not have had otherwise. I've learned a lot here.
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