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RE: Serious Question. - 7/4/2005 9:19:09 PM

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haha, it all sounds so good doesnt it?
I'm a guy who just got told that he's never going to have sex ever again.

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RE: Serious Question. - 7/4/2005 9:43:59 PM

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The other issue that I really had when I was in your boots was that the harder I tried, and the more I focused on it, the worse it got. Once, I was actually physically ill over it. e had made me a lovely dinner, and the music was going (jazz sax..whp can resist..) and then we got to "that" point and I went running for the bathroom as soon as his jeans came off. You're going to be okay..As I pointed out in my previous thread, intimacy does not have to equal sex....It does get better. As I mentioned, it took me a year to get straightened out. I was only on that horrid shot for a round of three, so 9 months. You were on it for 3 years I read? Its going to take some time to get straightened out. Some of the herb Damiana helped to get it adjusted as well. Be aware that I did my research on the herb, I knew what it was for, and exactly what I was putting into my body. I am not "recommending" it, I am stating what I did. The biggest factor is going to be getting the root of why you feel the way you do. However, as I said, the more it is dwelled upon, the worse its going to be.

Karbon-e sends his sympathy. he understands where you are at as well. he said to tell you this-"Its hard, but its not the end of the world. The biggest mistake I made was thinking that 'If she loved me she would just snap out of it and give me sex.' and also to settle into the mindset that sex and love were the same. It sucks, but be patient. Oh, and invest in some astroglide."

We have been there, and I do not envy your position. I hope that it all works out for you.

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RE: Serious Question. - 7/4/2005 10:52:15 PM

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well the results are in.

The doctor told her that everything looks normal.

Indigo and Karbon

The fact that the tests came back normal does NOT mean that everything is normal. It only means that the levels of what they tested for are normal. Roughly ten years ago I got sick (details unimportant). Over the space of five years I had 13 specialists testing every part of the human body they could. Each and every test came back normal and each doctor told Me that they could not help. Each of them also told Me that I was very ill and getting worse. The bottom line is that there is a chemical imbalance in My brain (cause unknown) and they do not know how to test for it and do not have a solution for correcting it. They cannot even identify what is wrong.

What I am saying is that even though the tests show normal that does not mean it is psychological. The human body is a lot more complicated then that. Do not give up hope.

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RE: Serious Question. - 7/5/2005 5:27:29 PM

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but no sex. . . .ever again, i'm only 19

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RE: Serious Question. - 7/5/2005 11:37:07 PM

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but no sex. . . .ever again

Hee hee...

That lasted long.

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RE: Serious Question. - 7/6/2005 12:43:43 AM

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I know I said this in an earlier post, but depo can really really mess up your sex drive, after I got off the shot it took me a long while to get any sex drive back at all, in fact just the idea of sex was a total turn off for me while my hormones were working themselves out, I went to a doctor too to find out why sex had suddenly because the worse idea known to man, they said my tests were all normal too..if you think about it, you had this shot three years, it could take a while for your body to right itself out agian, on the upside, when my hormons started working agian, no man or toy was safe! Your time will come, just try to be patiant with eachother and in the mean time, think of all the extra cash you can earn making that furniture!

I'm wishing you the best,
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RE: Serious Question. - 7/6/2005 4:49:04 AM

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Well now I'm just confused lol, cause guess who had sex last night? On her initiation

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RE: Serious Question. - 7/6/2005 5:10:36 AM

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Woo hoo!! See how sometimes it's just a matter of time?

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RE: Serious Question. - 7/6/2005 7:16:38 AM

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but no sex. . . .ever again, i'm only 19

Such a dramaqueen!

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RE: Serious Question. - 7/6/2005 8:11:32 AM

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*warm smile* congratulations to the both of You

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RE: Serious Question. - 7/6/2005 10:26:43 AM

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I have found that at times its the change in the dynamic that gets missed---you were having vanilla sex I assume, initiated typically by the "male" which by society is you--the "female" waits for the signals--most times---however--- in the D/s relationship you are buillding, She takes the role of the initiator--and that often is a hard sociological change that women need to make--TAKING it, DIRECTING or COMMANDING it, not sitting back and waiting--oncs She realizes you are Her playtoy--the sparks should ignite to mutual benefit.

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RE: Serious Question. - 7/6/2005 3:32:51 PM

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LadyAngelika: Well I'm not too sure whats going on completely, but Its good. That much I know.

Oumae: See how you act in that situation, but for now please keep quiet. Thanks.

GentleLady: Thanks alot, having friends to support you is always a plus :)

MH00314: We weren't having Vanilla sex. In the begining of our relationship it was quite vanilla, but I was a virgin untill meeting her. Steadily we grew into our natural selves, and for both of us, that meant a "Less-Vanilla" sex life.
But we hadn't gotten the opportunity to really get into it.

We did a bunch of research into the lifestyles, and stuff in order to hopefully re-spice up our sex life, after it started slipping away. Though it didnt really seem to work too well lol.

I just want there to be no pressure on her, she's got enough on her plate right now.

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RE: Serious Question. - 7/6/2005 3:42:07 PM

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Oumae: See how you act in that situation, but for now please keep quiet. Thanks.

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I just want there to be no pressure on her, she's got enough on her plate right now.

I was teasing you about being the dramaqueen not your Lady and it was meant in a lighthearted way.

Do you think this whole post might be pressure?

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RE: Serious Question. - 7/6/2005 4:06:10 PM

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