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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 7/29/2007 7:25:24 PM

MzMia

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Aswad and daddyprop, great points!!
Many people take sexual addiction as some sort of "good" or "fun" addiction.
In reality, a sexual addict is just that, an addict.
Sexual addicts normally have very low self esteem and are compelled to engage in
sexual activities, often with little to no enjoyment.
It is a sad addiction, and often real sex addicts have serious issues that they need to
deal with.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 7/29/2007 11:20:07 PM

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Yes I would if only to teach her control over it and her

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 7/29/2007 11:33:33 PM

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That's a fairly difficult thing to do, from what I have read, and not something one would be likely to succeed at without being a licenced professional or having assistance from one, again from what I have read. Part of the reason being that prescription drugs may be required in some cases. For PSAS in particular, hormonal or psychotropic drug therapies appear to be common. Taking on someone for the exclusive reason that one wants to act as their therapist seems odd to me, and more than a little iffy.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 7/30/2007 12:52:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

Okay, I just read the thread about the Dominant woman that is pissed off,
because a female slave approached her indicating she wanted a sexual relationship.

Okay, Masters would this be a problem for YOU?

Seriously, would you consider a submissive that really was a sex addict?
If she was a great submissive over all, but she had, well that little problem?

I know it would be a tough job, but someone would need to take her in, and look
after her.

Hello MzMia. No. No drug addict either or anyone who does not have their "pathology" under medical control.

If you mean sex crazed hot women? Of course, I got ear plugs for when the begging gets too loud. RL.

Edit: missing a word

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/1/2007 1:04:56 PM

MzMia

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No sex addicts or any other type of addict for me.
I might consider a Mia addict.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/1/2007 1:51:32 PM

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Hello MzMia. Who would want the cure to that addiction?!! :-) RL.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/1/2007 2:54:57 PM

MzMia

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You are so sweet RL.....
Your wife is lucky to have you.
I like sweet Dom's.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/1/2007 3:30:12 PM

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Would I consider a sex addict as a submissive?

Having experienced the very tiniest tip of that iceberg when it first really hit me how much stronger Aqua's sex drive is than my own, no. She's not a sex addict, and I'd still be worn down to the bone if we fucked every time that she wanted to.

Having dealt with an addiction of my own and seen firsthand how difficult it is to cope with, I know that I'm personally not strong enough to be able to handle an addiction in someone else. Hell, I still have relapses of my own addiction sometimes... I'm definitely not in the sort of position to be able to help someone else overcome.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/5/2007 6:20:35 PM

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This is the very thing that turns me off as I once was asked if I would consider a submissive who only wants sex. I had to turn them down because if that is the only reason they are in this lifestyle, they would be better off sticking to the vanilla world. Besides, sexual gratifaction through intercourse alone is not suitable in a D/s relationship, but this is solely my own opinion.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/5/2007 6:36:20 PM

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I would be concerned. Addiction implies that it controls them, and while the concept of a perpetually horny slave is alluring, I don't want her desires usurping me. If, however, it's simply a great desire and not a medical addiction it would be another story. Her desire for sex can then be used as a tool to control her.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/5/2007 7:20:46 PM

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I like sex, but it is not the focus of my relationships. I can be satisfied with very little sex and a lot of closeness. Now I am lucky that I don’t have to, and I do have a healthy drive as well as my sub. Taking on a sub who had an issue being a sex addict would be to much for me. It would put the focus in the wrong aspect of the partnership for me. Also I take into account a number of other things. I can effectively handle two people at the same time. More than that and I loose consistency, so I wont take on more than two people at the same time. Phoenix is my only sub right now, and as such I will consider her feelings regarding adding any person to our life. Having someone who always needed sex would mean I am having way more sex with this person than her. I believe this would probably foster feelings of jealousy, and make her feel like she was inferior in the bedroom.

For all these reasons I would have to decline taking on any person with a sex addiction.
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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/6/2007 9:15:59 PM

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Genuine nymphonia is rare. It's a serious psychological condition that impairs daily function. I'm sure many people would boast they'd love it, but it would get old quickly I'm sure. Plus the focus would be on sex so much that everything else - submission, dominance, emotion - would be overshadowed.

If you're using the term sex addict loosely like everyone seems to, it would be no problems finding someone out there to match large sex drives. There's plenty of us out there, trust me.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/6/2007 9:28:59 PM

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Being a sex addict usually would come with some other baggage as well. I might play with a sex addict, but never have a relationship with one.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/6/2007 9:33:05 PM

MzMia

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Good call, I sure would not want one for a submissive.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/7/2007 1:15:48 AM

CaliCat

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when i had a master, i'd ask him every time i wanted any sexual gratification, a problem because i have a very high sex drive and have been told by a few people that i'm like a sex addict. when i would ask him, if he said no, it sort of killed my drive. in my mind it was that he said no and that was all that mattered. i suppose it's a question of what is a stronger influence, the sex or the submission.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/7/2007 4:47:38 AM

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quote:

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There is a lot of sexual energy, but what if she has TOO much sexual energy?

Define too much.... An addiction can be controled, it takes time and effort on both sides. Such wouldn't bother Me so long as other, frankly more important factors where right.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/7/2007 8:58:36 AM

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It comes down to whether this person is willing to have their addiction treated, whether by me, or by a licenced professional, and whether they are fine with the notion that the association will end if they refuse treatment at any point, or if it cannot be controlled should treatment fail. From what I've heard, it's pretty hard to deal with without either drug treatment, conditioning, or other kinds of "hard" therapy.

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RE: Masters? Would you consider a sex addict as a submi... - 8/7/2007 12:06:49 PM

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This is a serious question? I think I could work with a sex addict.

Oh yea.

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