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RE: Personels messages - 8/4/2007 2:04:42 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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ORIGINAL: angelic

Where has CM's favorite Troll been hanging out?  i miss 'seeing' his smiling face.  :(
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RE: Personels messages - 8/4/2007 2:12:47 PM   
Aileen68


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ORIGINAL: CLASSnKINK

lol, yep, thats what i thought, lol. you know they have icons with bigger women depicted. just a suggestion...


I bet you're inbox is gonna be brimming after this.  You'd be surprised how many people lurk in here just reading.  First impressions, ya know.
And by the way...I thought you were in your sixties based on your picture.  Perhaps you could find an older looking avatar???

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RE: Personels messages - 8/4/2007 2:15:17 PM   
MHOO314


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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

quote:

ORIGINAL: CLASSnKINK

lol, yep, thats what i thought, lol. you know they have icons with bigger women depicted. just a suggestion...

And here you show your true colors.  Really, a woman of any size isn't generally attracted to a gentleman who has to be ignorant like this.


MisPandora, with all due respect this is no gentleman.

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RE: Personels messages - 8/4/2007 3:06:40 PM   
CutieMouse


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Status: offline 		As mentioned, your emails could be getting automatically sorted into bulk mail, based upon the criteria a lady set for such things, and they'd never even see it in order to open it. Beyond that, it's what, 30 emails? Do you have any *idea* how many emails women on this site get flooded with? Particularly the ones who meet your physical criteria/age range? (I'm presuming you mostly email women based on their profile picture, BTW... something tells me that's a big part of what makes you decide to send an email...)  When I was looking, I had 30 emails in the first 3 hours; if I didn't check email for a few days, it would take half the morning to slog through it all, much less answer each of them.

(I started to offer constructive criticism, but I changed my mind.)

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RE: Personels messages - 8/4/2007 3:13:01 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		You are no novice, but youve only sent 30 mails. And if enough of them havent been answered.. yeah, that makes you a pro at CM communication. Sorry for that oversight.  Since you are so expert then why are you here asking for help and advice, then being such a jerk to some of the members?
If I see a name i dont know, I look up the profile before I open the mail.  I am sure I am not the only one who has done that, and with such a charming attitude I cant imagine why they arent lining up to meet you.
Come now, insulting people makes you look VERY petty and small. All we did on here was tryand help you out, and you dont appreicate it.  If you ask for a hand on here, realize that your profile DOES have to do with why you arent getting answers. Otherwise, why would it be there?

Good luck, you wil probably need it.  Hope none of your new contacts read this forum.

DV


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RE: Personels messages - 8/4/2007 3:33:09 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		DV, I was just thinking the exact same thing!
 
To the OP's actual question, no, I haven't experienced the phenomenon.  In the entire time that I've been here on CM, I don't even think I've had 30 emails that were unread/unresponded.  Maybe I just have a knack for emailing people who are polite, are interesting, witty, or any other criteria other than just what they look like in their avatar.  Try that approach.  It might work for you.  Then again, after this thread, and the exposure it's received, My real advice would be, change your name and your profile and completely start over.  The submissive's here are pretty smart, and they sure have a good memory!

Edited for a typo that I obviously made while laughing.

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RE: Personels messages - 8/4/2007 3:34:46 PM   
dawntreader


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CLASSnKINK

michael, whos that?


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RE: Personels messages - 8/4/2007 3:44:31 PM   
SeeksOnlyOne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CLASSnKINK

i see you read what you wanted to read. bbw possibly? im sorry you didnt see or read what you needed to, but again this really isnt a post asking for a review of my profile


well heck....i had read ya profile after reading her thread, and thought he is saying what he wants.....many may not feel they live up tp those expectations, but at least he lays it on the line.....

and then i read where you ask if shes a bbw for making her comments, which made sense and were her opinion, and suddenly you dont sound like an honest man stating what he wants up front, but an egotistical one.  you could have just as easily said youre not apologizing for what you want, and i would have still bought that class part of your name.....

and yeah, im a fat chick......im sure that makes my opinion mean nothing to you

good luck finding what you seek.

edited to add i should have read the entire thread before posting.....but now i see im not the only genius on collar me-lol-seems he has gotten a lot of the same advice

< Message edited by SeeksOnlyOne -- 8/4/2007 3:47:10 PM >

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RE: Personels messages - 8/4/2007 4:36:05 PM   
MasterNdorei


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Status: offline 		i did not see anything terribly offensive in the OP's profile. If people prefer one body type to another, and prefer to wait for that, i prefer to know it up front so i can keep moving if it does not fit me.

The bottom line with a profile, in my humble opinion, is that if it is not bringing in the kind of results you want, no one else's opinion really matters.

As far as your mail not being read, it could be any of the number of things already suggested. You can always pull up their entire profile and see the last date they were logged on... if they allow it to be viewed, that might give you an answer.

The avatar comments are making me a little nervous... laffin

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< Message edited by MasterNdorei -- 8/4/2007 4:37:58 PM >

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RE: Personels messages - 8/4/2007 11:03:59 PM   
losttreasure


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Status: offline 		I'm with dorei on this one; I didn't see anything particularly wrong with CLASSnKINK's profile.  Of course, he's very clear on what he's looking for and not everyone is going to be his ideal.  Many of the subs here, myself included, might not meet his criteria, but it's his pergorative to seek what he wants.

I also agree that CLASSnKINK's further comments here haven't put him in a very good light, but I think some here started out being unnecessarily critical and appearing touchy, to say the least.

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RE: Personels messages - 8/5/2007 4:33:07 AM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		Maybe it is the content of the mail.  If you send 30 mails in one day or week, were they copy/paste nonsense? Even with a little bit of personal dribble added in (YOUR profile was awesome, YOUR picture was great bla bla) most around here can probably sense these type of mails.  I personally know which are rambles of me me me with my name filled in on occasion to make me supposedly feel 'special'. Maybe actually read profiles with or without pictures and send 3 (at most) heartfelt mails that take the time to make it seem actually personal???.

On a side note, to me, a pic with a guy and half of his ex wife? ex gf? sister's face cut out is a big no no LOL. Cheezy.

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RE: Personels messages - 8/5/2007 5:24:20 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		If you sincerely want to know why people may not be responding to your emails one reason could be your classless choice in your profile photo.  i have never understood the posting of a picture of a "couple" with the (most commonly) the woman artlessly cut off.  Unless you are part of a couple seeking, why not just show a recent picture of yourself?  Sorry, but this is most often found in Dom's profiles as though it is some kind of proof that yes indeedy He has been in the company of women.

Someone who feels the need to display his former relationships smacks of someone dispite all the huffing and puffing is deep inside an insecure person.

just my opinion, which from the sounds of things is worthless since i too am outside the parameters of what the OP seeks.  i'm still confused as how an opinion has to come only from the physically perfect but then i'm blonde so i'll use that as a convenient excuse.

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RE: Personels messages - 8/5/2007 5:35:54 AM   
mnottertail


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

You are no novice, but youve only sent 30 mails. And if enough of them havent been answered.. yeah, that makes you a pro at CM communication. Sorry for that oversight.  Since you are so expert then why are you here asking for help and advice, then being such a jerk to some of the members?
If I see a name i dont know, I look up the profile before I open the mail.  I am sure I am not the only one who has done that, and with such a charming attitude I cant imagine why they arent lining up to meet you.
Come now, insulting people makes you look VERY petty and small. All we did on here was tryand help you out, and you dont appreicate it.  If you ask for a hand on here, realize that your profile DOES have to do with why you arent getting answers. Otherwise, why would it be there?

Good luck, you wil probably need it.  Hope none of your new contacts read this forum.

DV



If they start out---

Do you read newspapers...........

That could be some of it right there.

Just a thought,
Ron


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RE: Personels messages - 8/5/2007 7:01:28 AM   
feastie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CLASSnKINK

I was wondering if other DOMs/MMEs have the same experience I have here when posting?  I have sent out over 30 introduction inquiries with my peronal (personal, perhaps?) and pic attached with a note requesting a short yes or no regarding any interest. Not only have I not gotten any responce (response), I notice that for months the messages have gone unread. not (Not, but I'll give you this one as a typo) a month, ....months.. Now I've been around enough to realize alot are just trolls seeking whatever trolls seek, but for the life of me I can't understand why they don't even take the time to delete the mail? Is this common practie (practice, but again, a typo) here I wonder? Also I notice that alot of people change their names in the chat areas, is that common practice too? Just curious and frustrated I guess. sorry about the rant.


30 at once?  Did you just send your profile or did you take the time to make the "intro" personal and reflective of her profile?  By the way, from your profile, the word is "appreciate, not appriciate.  As a side note, the correct pronunciation is with a long "e" sound, as in "tree", not a short "i" sound, as in "it".

quote:


i see you read what you wanted to read. bbw possibly? im sorry you didnt see or read what you needed to, but again this really isnt a post asking for a review of my profile


Now this particular reply is not indicative of a gentleman of any class or distinction, nor is it indicative of someone who is not prone to bursts of anger.  Interesting.

quote:

lol, yep, thats what i thought, lol. you know they have icons with bigger women depicted. just a suggestion...


And once derailed, the train continues to slide off the track ...

People do look at profiles when they receive mail.  I do. Although you are very specific, you may be too specific in your email.  You make it seem as though you are unwilling to talk about or compromise on any issues.  The word "micromanagement" will turn off a lot of folks, but still not all.  You probably should change the profile picture to one of you and only you.

All in all, I find that your profile is not horrid and probably not off-putting to potential submissive women.  I think the problem is far more likely one of emails going to the recipients' bulk folders or they simply gave up on collarme.

In the end, understand that no response is a response and move on. 

Your responses and attitude here, however, give me serious pause.  Preferences are fine, but assuming someone is something, such as a bbw and using it as a form of attack is completely classless.  You're supposed to be a big boy, you should act like one.




< Message edited by feastie -- 8/5/2007 7:02:35 AM >

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RE: Personels messages - 8/5/2007 7:23:11 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Ditto.

Here is another thought. I am also pretty picky about physical appearance. Not something I run around yammering about or attacking anyone that doesn't quite fit my interests. That would just be assinine and basically not who I am or what I am about. Just because a photo or physical description either interests or does not interest me does not mean they should be attacked or thought less of as a human being.

Now I know, not everyone, the OP included, has that mindset. However here are two points to ponder Mr Unclassnkink. The larger size women that you are not physically interested in may very well be good friends with the one that does fit your interest. Attack a woman's friend and you are sooooooooo screwed and NOT in a good way. My second point is this. Perhaps the women who do interest you also have some pretty picky and high standards for a man's physical appearance. I am not saying your the ugliest man I have ever seen but there are some on here that are far more attractive.

So now you are looking for someone that has all the interests you do, that fits your physical appearance criteria but yet has lower standards in the physical appearance that appeals to them. Oh, and has no friends they love, that fit the larger woman category you have bashed. Pretty small pool I would imagine.

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RE: Personels messages - 8/5/2007 9:32:16 AM   
dawntreader


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Status: offline 		LaTigresse,
i think you have said it best in your post! And to whoever suggested he would be better off with a "my size Barbie", you were right on~

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RE: Personels messages - 8/5/2007 9:45:56 AM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		I think the OP has run off, ya'll............(not the first time, nor probably the last....)

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RE: Personels messages - 8/5/2007 9:49:06 AM   
shyinini


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CLASSnKINK

I was wondering if other DOMs/MMEs have the same experience I have here when posting?  I have sent out over 30 introduction inquiries with my peronal and pic attached with a note requesting a short yes or no regarding any interest. Not only have I not gotten any responce, I notice that for months the messages have gone unread. not a month, ....months.. Now I've been around enough to realize alot are just trolls seeking whatever trolls seek, but for the life of me I can't understand why they don't even take the time to delete the mail? Is this common practie here I wonder? Also I notice that alot of people change their names in the chat areas, is that common practice too? Just curious and frustrated I guess. sorry about the rant.


If I were looking and recieved a personel message, I'd wonder if I were on the right boards....  Are you an employer looking for a domestic to employ??
 
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RE: Personels messages - 8/5/2007 10:12:24 AM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		I am looking for a submissive myself. However this is not the only place that I am looking. Several other sites,(even vanilla sites,:)) as well as the local BDSM community.  I agree, you might want to change your profile picture, having another woman in the pic is a little tacky, and your pictures in general are alittle fuzzy and hard to make out what you look like.  Hanging out and posting in the forums helps, (as well as not being acting like a jerk.) posts that show that you are smart, (both about lifestyle aspects and vanilla.) considerate and funny will win you alot of points.  And above all, have patience. I believe that there is someone out there for everyone.

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RE: Personels messages - 8/5/2007 4:49:01 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		i do know this person from adam or eve and for some steve. but i will say this. I just do not care what you do. there are all kinds of people on this site some good some bad. you can tell someone everything or nothing. I judge by actions.

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