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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 1:29:25 AM

BossyShoeBitch

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I very rarely cry in front of other people. Many think I am trying to be stoic. I'm really not.
I want to cry. I cry alone when I miss my mom. I cried when my husband and I decided it was really, truly over between us. That's about it. It actually concerns me sometimes and I worry that I am a stone cold bitch.
Then SM gives me a hug and it's all better.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 1:29:47 AM

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I think I cried in '72, I fell down and skinned my knee.

lol Joking, I have cried.

I fell down just the other day and skinned my knee.

haha

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 1:41:21 AM

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I think male or female you should have the right to be human, and it is good to show emotions. Some men and women think if they talk arround and about the emotion it is enough. I like to see honest emotion in a person, whether they are a friend or a lover, I do not have much time for cold fish. On the other hand I respect the individual choice to deal with your emotions how you see fit but no one has the right to sit in judgement of how annother chooses to show or not to show their emotions only the right to walk away.

Just my opinon

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 2:35:21 AM

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Is it wrong or " sissy or childish" for men to show emotions or to cry? Do you think men should always be the strong type and not show this to anyone? Or not?

No, it isn't wrong, it's human. Nothing wrong with it at all.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 5:23:57 AM

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But the answer was cry.

I spent much of today crying.

The stress of being in extreme pain from a work accident, trying to get the workmen's compensation insurance company to do their f***ing job, and general emotional stress of being a caged panther in my apartment.

Trapped. Unable to leave. Unwilling to drive on hard-core pain pills.

Grumpergy

*gentle almsot hug*

I hope you feel better soon!

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 5:34:17 AM

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I have no problem with a guy who cries at life trauma.
But I'm outta there if he gets teary eyed at a romantic movie. I would view him as a pussy in that situation and I'd never be able to see him as quite as masculine as before he started whimpering.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 5:42:42 AM

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A pussy to me is someone who whines and cries all the time over nothing.

Someone who can get a little cloudy eyed is someone who has feelings.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 5:55:26 AM

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Note to self....When in Aine's company might get a BJ by tearing up over Sophies Choice....

When sharing the companionship of Aileen...."Accidently" drive nail through left hand with nail gun...Hold it up...say, "Damn...don't see that every day."...And in one fluid motion ..dab lone tear away with right hand, then shoot it over to grab a handfull of her hair and introduce the back of her throat to an angry domidong.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 5:57:39 AM

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Now, that sort of thing has got to bring tears to a fellers eyes.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 5:59:28 AM

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Note to self....When in Aine's company might get a BJ by tearing up over Sophies Choice....

When sharing the companionship of Aileen...."Accidently" drive nail through left hand with nail gun...Hold it up...say, "Damn...don't see that every day."...And in one fluid motion ..dab lone tear away with right hand, then shoot it over to grab a handfull of her hair and introduce the back of her throat to an angry domidong.

Now that's friggin hot!!!

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 6:02:52 AM

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Ron....When was the last time you had a good cry?

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 6:07:52 AM

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I want him to feel he can cry, when he does, I know I have reached the very depths of his being.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 7:25:13 AM

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I have seen tears form in my Master's eyes when He is so very touched by something that's said or done between the two of us. It made my heart swell up with even more love for Him to know that He is sensitive to such things and not afraid to let me see it. I only felt more respect and admiration for Him after such times.......luci

Ditto here Luci...i too have seen my Master tear up because of intense emotion. I felt like He was /is a strong man for it too, and i feel closer to Him because of it.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 7:36:32 AM

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I cry if I feel like crying. It doesn't happen often. But I'm not afraid of it if it happens.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 7:42:18 AM

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Sinergy,
I can relate to some of what You are going threw. I am having surgery in November to get a titanium rod in My back and the pain currently causes tears to flow with no warning. I hope things get better for You.
LordVelvet

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 8:11:12 AM

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Yes, I cry. Though I cannot recall the last time it was from phyisical pain. I believe that when we cry and laugh in that uncontrolled way, the spirits are coming through us and are opening up our deepest self.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 8:35:00 AM

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I do not associate crying or emotions at all to be "self pity". I think emotions are exposed at times humanly when needed, and to analyze human emotions, such as crying is not necessary. I find sensitivity and humaness in anyone a big plus for me. It means you are being human and reacting to what is natural, and not blocking it.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 8:44:43 AM

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I tend to be quite uncomfortable around men who show such (tearful) emotions. Unless it is a death, which I have not actually had the experience of witnessing. I have though seen men who break down discussing their former spouses. Big turn off lol. I have known a man who carries his ex-wife's love letters to another man in a briefcase and he pulls them out with the old 'oohh geez, forgot those were in here' act to eventually break down and cry in my lap.
I was fairly disgusted and let him dispose of his tears and said nothing. I was in shock lol. I couldn't believe he even burdened me with it. (I told him to burn them and move on).

Sounds mean, but, maybe I have never been emotionally attached to someone other than my lil ones (who are now big ones lol) and I have little patience for a grown man crying.

I do, I do prefer a spock type. Sorry.

If this were a typical example of a man crying I would too. This is a special kind of asshole moment, wow.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 10:51:09 AM

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" What is something 87% of men do at least 16 times a year? "

That means that 13% cry less than 16 times per year, and 86% cry more. I have to figure that the upper 10% of men would be real crybabies, and I would have a very hard time dealing with them, just as I would with a woman who breaks into tears if her pantyhose runs or her hair won't curl just right, or if her boyfriend forgot the anniversary of their first date.

I think crying is a very necessary outlet for major loss or stress. I also think happy moments like weddings and graduations (your own or your very close family) are a great occasion for tears. Even the occasional sad movie, fine. This is speaking of both men and women.

But if someone tears up at every argument and disappointment, or dissolves into tears whenever the going gets rough, I would quickly get exasperated. It has been my experience that when one person becomes "the sensitive one" in a relationship, an increased burden is placed on the "stronger" one, who may in fact not be any stronger, just better at reserving their breakdown until the crisis is over.

Now, if this is what the couple wants, and it is emotionally satisfying to both to play protecter and damsel (or lad) in distress, then that is great. But for me, if the balance swings too far and I find myself being the strong shoulder too often while my own heart is hurting, I will lose respect for this person as a capable adult, and will find my feelings transforming into caretaker role, rather than submissive or partner. And if I am caretaker, that means that I am the dominant one. That does not make me a happy camper, in the long run.

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RE: Showing Emotions(men) - a good thing or not ??? - 8/8/2007 12:05:39 PM

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If this were a typical example of a man crying I would too. This is a special kind of asshole moment, wow.

oo grl good observation. Did you meet him too? LOLLL You might recognize him, briefcase, sad face, beer in hand. Yep, that would be the same asshole. LOL

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