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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:09:01 AM

Stephann

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ghita,

be fair, there's a lot you can do; just all of it will be battery powered, and in your head....

Brought to you by your local Energizer powered Rabbit

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:13:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cyntilating

quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

No one should ever curse anyone else out, online, in public, dominant or submissive. However, no one should ever feel a sense of entitlement due to his/her orientation, except with regard to a perosn who has agreed to submit to him/her.

feastie,
all I could think about when I read your words >" no one should ever curse anyone out in public" was that >>> You have obviously never driven on the highway in Atlanta....LOL groan...
...it brings out the worst in me at times : (

Cyntilating,

When you're driving, you're not in public, you're in the privacy of your car

. And I have driven in Atlanta. I'd rather drive in Houston, and Houston is horrible.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:14:10 AM

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OMG...I just perved panty girl....she's not allowed to be coughcough40somethingishcoughcough and have an ass like that! Now I'm blocking you, too!

Ghita, come to me....I'll show you a wet t shirt contest!

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:16:00 AM

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I own stock in Energizer...I get little stuffed bunnies and stickers in the mail...you know there is an energizer bunny fan club you can become a member of? Ok...so my mom bought me all that stuff back when I was a percussionist (politically correct word for drummer)...but its really funny, they send magazines and coupons for batteries and all sorts of fun bunny things.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:16:16 AM

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Welcome to the real world! Some people have manners and others don't and the ration between the two is getting worse!

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:19:08 AM

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(finding this all just ridiculous, but can't help throwing my two cents in)... I call my Daddy ...Daddy... everyone else either by their name, or if they don't give me one you are just Hey You... no sir or ma'am requirments for me in or out of chat... I think if I actually started siring and ma'aming people my Daddy would roll his eyes right out of his head LOL... as to differential treatment because you have labled yourself .... no... you don't get any of that with me either... everyone beyond Daddy is treated as an equal unless proven otherwise... the only way you will be treated different than an equal is if you prove yourself to be beneath me.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:19:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

There's no reason to treat someone differently because of their personal relationship orientation. Expecting others to treat you differently because of your orientation unless you have formed a specific relationship with them is wrong and rude in itself.

However, good manners should be applied to everyone, regardless of orientation. This is true of subs as much as dominants.

Yeah, what she said.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:20:28 AM

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You all should be fucking ashamed of yourselves....The op has strictly followed CM forum etiquette....She publicly announced that she was blocking LA prior to the actual blocking.....It is extremely important to make the announcement. The announcement is the critical part of the blocking process! Otherwise, how are you to know that you have been blocked? What were to happen if the op were to stroke out tonight?...LA would never know the course of action that the op had chosen to take....In my discussions with God, he has made it very clear...An announced block is a demerit towards reaching heaven, you accumulate too many "announced blocks" and you are pretty much screwed!....I'm fairly fucked at this point...But since Mz Mia has removed from blockage...and announced it..I can see a slight hint of light at the end of the tunnel.

There are plenty of Doms and subs alike that frequent this site that could use a good ass fucking...None of them happen to be me.

I simply don't understand why all of you motherfuckers that post here cannot find the ability to be fucking polite and conduct yourselves in an appropriate fucking fashion.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:20:59 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissSCD

I think MzMia is close to right on this one. The entire issue is cursing at another person.
LA, I don't know who you are or what your problem is, but you are now blocked.
Pretty soon, half of this site will be blocked on my list.
My slave was trained in NYC 30 years ago, and I can assure you that he can distingush between geniune and idiots. It is my rule for him to treat all Dom/mes with respect. Which simply means Yes Ma'am or Yes Sir.
I say Yes Ma'am and Yes Sir.

Regards, MissSCD

Now, now. You're forgetting that what's good for you and yours is not what others might subscribe to, or the fact that you do not get to decide what everyone else should do. Tsk, tsk.

You'd better go ahead and block me as well.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:27:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

You all should be fucking ashamed of yourselves....The op has strictly followed CM forum etiquette....She publicly announced that she was blocking LA prior to the actual blocking.....It is extremely important to make the announcement. The announcement is the critical part of the blocking process! Otherwise, how are you to know that you have been blocked? What were to happen if the op were to stroke out tonight?...LA would never know the course of action that the op had chosen to take....In my discussions with God, he has made it very clear...An announced block is a demerit towards reaching heaven, you accumulate too many "announced blocks" and you are pretty much screwed!....I'm fairly fucked at this point...But since Mz Mia has removed from blockage...and announced it..I can see a slight hint of light at the end of the tunnel.

There are plenty of Doms and subs alike that frequent this site that could use a good ass fucking...None of them happen to be me.

I simply don't understand why all of you motherfuckers that post here cannot find the ability to be fucking polite and conduct yourselves in an appropriate fucking fashion.

As I read through this thread I had built in my head a perfectly wonderful witty response. Then I got to this and *poof* it was gone.

Wiping tears of laughter from my cheeks. (thank god for waterproof mascara)

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:33:35 AM

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I'm just going to quote someone else's tag line.

quote:

The best index to a person's character is (a) how he treats people who can't do him any good, and (b) how he treats people who can't fight back. ~Abigail Van Buren~

And that's pretty much all I have to say about this thread and the subject of manners online. Yup... pretty much it. Emphasis mine btw.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:37:07 AM

beargonewild

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissSCD

I think MzMia is close to right on this one. The entire issue is cursing at another person.
LA, I don't know who you are or what your problem is, but you are now blocked.
Pretty soon, half of this site will be blocked on my list.
My slave was trained in NYC 30 years ago, and I can assure you that he can distingush between geniune and idiots. It is my rule for him to treat all Dom/mes with respect. Which simply means Yes Ma'am or Yes Sir.
I say Yes Ma'am and Yes Sir.

Regards, MissSCD

Yet what seems to be forgotten is the fact that even addressing a person by saying Yes is also respectful, without adding the Sir or Ma'am. It's fine under certain situations and for some people, based upon how they were raised. Many who are from the south are taught to refer to their peers as Ma'am or Sir but not all of us were. Most of us aren't fond of cursing yet sometimes in the heat of the moment we forget and curse. That doesn't indicate our lack of manners in everyday life. I have lapses in manners and I can safely bet you have also.
My "rule" is to give each person a measure of respect autpmatically. How it is recieved determines if I accord complete respect to them, this also applies to myself. I may not follow the strict protocols of social ettiquete but I do give an acceptable measure of respect to anyone I come in contact with. But this is only my hunble two cents worth.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:40:33 AM

LaTigresse

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God help us, PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEASE (note the begging dominant person.....) do not let this lead into another looooooooooooooonnnnnnnnnnng discussion about respect, respect versus manners, who deserves respect and yada yada yada............

It has been sooooooo done....

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 7:43:28 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68
So if a dom came up to your sub and said something really nasty to them, you would expect them to answer in a respectful and courteous manner?

For myself- someone else's lack of manners is NEVER an excuse to forget my own.

Especially considering the fact that killing someone with kindness is often a delicious and effective way to disarm and make a nasty person confused and go away.

So, again, nothing to do with sub or dom or vanilla- just basic human manners really.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 8:08:00 AM

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Killing someone with kindness takes a whole lot of work....Sometimes it is simply easier and less painful for everyone involved if you just simply kill them.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 8:26:20 AM

Cyntilating

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quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

quote:

ORIGINAL: Cyntilating

quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

No one should ever curse anyone else out, online, in public, dominant or submissive. However, no one should ever feel a sense of entitlement due to his/her orientation, except with regard to a perosn who has agreed to submit to him/her.

feastie,
all I could think about when I read your words >" no one should ever curse anyone out in public" was that >>> You have obviously never driven on the highway in Atlanta....LOL groan...
...it brings out the worst in me at times : (

Cyntilating,

When you're driving, you're not in public, you're in the privacy of your car . And I have driven in Atlanta. I'd rather drive in Houston, and Houston is horrible.

I hear ya : )

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 8:28:42 AM

Grlwithboy

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My slave was trained in DC thirty years ago.

If he bowed and scraped to the OP I'd whack him upside the head.

This kind of thing flies on the pro circuit and the commercial fetish circuit. That was what probably drove me out of it.

< Message edited by Grlwithboy -- 8/9/2007 8:31:46 AM >

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 9:13:50 AM

Missokyst

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Which was my point, exactly. Anyone can say they are what ever they wish. The lady at the top of this tread took exception to my saying that. LOL Interesting that she would focus on that line alone. Kind of makes me think that her whole identity of DOMME is wrapped up in internet protocal.
People are people. I wouldn't care if someone posting here was a presidential candidate or a bum. They are all the same regardless of title, until "I" think of them differently.
And her blocking LA? <g> that was just too darned amusing. I almost saw a foot stomp.
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quote:

ORIGINAL: camille65

Add in the fact that when in a chat room you really have no idea if they are actually a dom or master.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 9:23:14 AM

Stephann

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

You all should be fucking ashamed of yourselves....The op has strictly followed CM forum etiquette....She publicly announced that she was blocking LA prior to the actual blocking.....It is extremely important to make the announcement. The announcement is the critical part of the blocking process! Otherwise, how are you to know that you have been blocked? What were to happen if the op were to stroke out tonight?...LA would never know the course of action that the op had chosen to take....In my discussions with God, he has made it very clear...An announced block is a demerit towards reaching heaven, you accumulate too many "announced blocks" and you are pretty much screwed!....I'm fairly fucked at this point...But since Mz Mia has removed from blockage...and announced it..I can see a slight hint of light at the end of the tunnel.

There are plenty of Doms and subs alike that frequent this site that could use a good ass fucking...None of them happen to be me.

I simply don't understand why all of you motherfuckers that post here cannot find the ability to be fucking polite and conduct yourselves in an appropriate fucking fashion.

I'd respond, but I blocked domiguy a long time ago, so I wouldn't have to put up with his bullshit.

Stephan

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 10:16:25 AM

SeeksOnlyOne

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im going to be brave and reply before i read this thread......ugh....

i try to show everyone good manners. i say yes maam and sir to everyone i perceive as "older" than me, such as my parents generation. southern manners are bred into you young and firmly....they dont go away as you get older, and i sometimes wish i would have put the yes maam and yes sir into my son more strictly

but the fact is, most folks my age, me included, dont like being called maam or sir, at least the ones i am family and friends with. i guess we are the cause of the degeneration of all thats holy, but thats for another thread.

that said, 6 years on line had made me a bit, shall we say, jaded. folks can sometimes pretend to be something that they are not even close to being on here, and although i trust my radar most days, i am more suspicious of folks on line where i cant see their mannerisms, etc.

i try to read and hear things with an open mind, but since i live in my head, im sure my experiences in life affect how i read and interpret some things that are "typed".

but i cant change that, i can only try to give thought to all sides of something before replying, if i even feel the need to reply.

as for the online respect of a d vs an s.......they will both be give the same amount of manners and respect as anyone else, until they give me a reason to not want to give them any more. and could i misinterpret something? sure.....im only perfect on thursdays, it could happen.

maybe we disagree on something, and disagreement is not a bad thing......everyone doesnt have to like or agree or get along with everyone....it would be a boring world...i think we do have to try to maintain some amount of maturity, but, sometimes ya gotta call a diamond a diamond, and sometimes ya gotta call a pile of manure a pile of manure........irregardless of whether they have a d or an s as their so-called label.

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