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wow, ok, lotta stuff here...
first, i want to thank Michael, BSB, KC692, Grlwithboy, Eric, Aquaticsub, Camille65, Celeste, and Dawntreader for your encouragement and understanding. man, i didn't know being on the board would be like this... :-) i just wanted a little advice. i find it interesting that criticizing and being rude to others seems to be so commonplace in the 'online' world- as if manners should be any different here than in the real world... and yes, it makes me a little less likely to take part in the boards in the future, i have to admit. i really do try to be polite & courteous to others in real life, and as i ventured into this 'virtual' world i tried to do the same. i also try to have an understanding that others' desires and needs may be different than my own- but that doesn't make them wrong- just 'different'. i just expect the same courtesy. To Desiresuv- sounds like you've had a similar experience- i'm sorry for that, and thank you as well.
anyway, that being said, i did get a lot of 'wheat' from the chaff of this thread! Akasha- i LOVE your idea of 'falling all over' the 'out of my league' younger woman and allowing her to mistreat me. That sounds perfect! i am actually exploring some of those 'sugardaddy' sites right now to see if something can come of that...may be a little expen$ive, but...THANK YOU! Also, your 'scenario' you described in the mall- very hot! And yes, i would love that- you totally get it. However, i just want to be clear that in no way would i expect anything near that much attention to be paid to me. to that end, even the fantasy i have on my profile was way more than i would ever expect- but i was asked to describe the perfect fantasy from my perspective, so that was what i wrote. (btw, thank you for explaining that earlier in the thread, BSB.) in reality, i know the attention i receive would be much less than that, and that would be fine- as i said before, if she says 'go clean the windows, bitch' (*nod to earlier post) and snaps her fingers- i'm out of her hair until they're done. i really don't want anyone thinking that i need her to follow me from window to window, insulting me and smacking me with a riding crop to 'keep me motivated'. i don't want to be 'one of those subs'. Nor would i screw it up on purpose, etc... i would just do the job to the best of my ability - trying to please her - then come back and offer to serve her further- in any way she sees fit. i'm also not one of those 'i'll serve you as a human footstool' guys - who actually needs that? i actually want to be useful.
btw, Akasha, is there any way to experience your mall scenario in 'real life' without getting married? ;-)
i guess several people feel i am asking a lot by requesting that a woman treat me without respect, courtesy, or dignity- i didnt have an uderstanding of that before, but i guess that is the case for most people? i guess i will keep looking for a woman that is naturally 'bitchy' and is amused by seeing how much abuse i will take from her... there has to be one somewhere? :-) why is it you always hear about hazing at sororities where girls are humiliated and made to do chores and the 'big sisters' get a huge kick out of making their pledges do demeaning acts like lick the bottom of their shoes clean etc? The pledges don't need to pay for that treatment, and the big sisters enjoy the power trip. why is that so commonplace, but if i volunteer for the same thing it is 'work' for the woman? i dont mean to be whiny, but aren't there people like that out there that will use me, degrade me, laugh at me, make me work for them, and enjoy it? Where do all these sorority girls go after they graduate college? (oh, i'm sure i left myself open to some comments with that one!) :-)
Now, to Darcyandthedark- THANK YOU for your suggestions as well. i am curious about these 'Victorian Era' groups you mentioned? any info on findng one and seeing what it's all about? also, to answer your question, i live near Palm Beach and Boca Raton, FL- both very wealthy areas - and have tried to figure out an angle to serve some of the (hopefully a little demanding?) women in those areas as a servant. still thinking on that one... Your idea of being a cuck- i would love that, actually, and it has been an area that i have been curious about for a while now. i did have one experience at Hedonism...for another thread, i think. anyway, i would be very open to that, as long as i don't actually have to have any sexual/physical contact with the male of the couple. (a little beyond my limits, unfortunately.) And the escort idea is an excellent one that i will definitely look into. i wonder if my submissive tendencies and openness to kink would be seen as an asset by an escort agency? i dont know - probably not, due to the minimal demand for men in general, but worth a shot! (Damn us men giving the milk away for free all the time...) :-) But seriously, that is exactly the kind of advice i was looking for out of my OP! thank you!
To Luckyalbatross- you rock, and yes, i do fit your description- i am stable, mature, healthy, financially independant, and have a nice home. and i would be fine with 'coming when called'- as long as it is outside of my work hours. is that ok, or are some people going to flame me for having a hard limit that allows me to keep my job? ;-) And actually, that would be the point of my servitude- it would be when the woman wants it (within my availablity) and i would do whatever she wants done. the discussion would be: 'Will you be needing my services this weekend, Miss ___?', not: 'i want to come over this weekend, so please find some things for me to do- and don't forget to be mean to me".
To those that have seemed to feel my desires are too "tightly scripted", i'm not sure how much looser i can make it? isn't one of Dommes' biggest pet peeves "i'll do anything for you, Mistress. i have no desires, i just want to do whatever pleases you."? i mean, all i'm asking is: 1) please don't say 'please'/'thank you' 2) be condescending in attitude toward me 3) be someone that i find physically attractive.
and in return, i will serve any purpose that will make her life easier or give her pleasure. Is that 'limiting'? everything from serving as a chauffeur to taking a dildo up my... :-) i had a woman that used me once to stuff envelopes for her business- was that a 'self-serving fantasy' that gave her no benefit? and before i get flamed on that one, i did a BUNCH of other things for her (she was a vanilla, btw) and she loved it but she lived in dallas and developed a boyfriend a while back that wasn't too keen on having me around... i had met her on match, but man, one out of thousands? and im having trouble finding a woman to serve locally to replace her- that is what led to my OP. i have also had a couple Dommes use me for S&M videos- and i did what they wanted to do with me. So am i really self-serving???
i have learned a couple things about posting from this experience, as a sub male:
1) some people feel that you are not allowed to have any desires or motivation as a sub. If you ask for anything (even so much as "be bossy and don't say 'please'") you are asking for too much and topping from the bottom within a very 'tightly scripted' scene.
2) you, as a male sub, are to serve anyone, and if you require to be physically attracted to them, then you are selfish, egotistical, and superficial.
i don't know what world these people live in, but in reality, i would think that the sub needs to be motivated by something. and i would think that in most cases they have to be attracted physically to the person holding the whip in order to submit to them. i didn't really think i was asking for much, honestly. Especially considering that i was open to sex, as well as any kink she desired within my limits. And the fact that my focus (outside of the 3 things i was looking for) is to serve my owner well and please her. i don't know how much simpler i can put it than that.
i think they understand that, they just like giving a hard time to a sub. Please keep in mind i am not a sub in everyday interactions and definitely not someone you would want to mess with in real life. i guess that's part of the fun of hiding behind a keyboard for some people, though...
in closing, thank you again to those that understood where i was coming from, and those that offered good, actionable, tangible advice. i really appreciate it and will make use of it!
-hb
PS- a special 'thank you' to Domiguy- you are F-ing funny! that post of yours was almost worth reading thru the flames to get to it! i LOL'ed reading it.
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