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RE: a sub as personal fitness trainer for Dom/me? can i... - 8/12/2007 1:53:08 PM

leatherette

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"Not having all the pieces in place is no reason to not strive for something better - in fact this is a valid way to achieve a goal and actually get all the key pieces in place"

RIGHT! Everyone starts somewhere and usually it takes time, a real committent to getting back on your chosen track when you slip. You have the desire and that's what counts. You determine this.

I too was thinking of myself a more of a cheerleader if I was in a situation to support a dominant in this effort.

But, please don't discredit everyone who is a personal trainer. There are those who work on advanced degrees in physical therapy, psychology, nutrition, become life coaches, write books ... NOT ALL are muscle headed dolts!

All I can say is : honestly wishing you good luck, good health and happiness in your decisions.

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RE: a sub as personal fitness trainer for Dom/me? can i... - 8/12/2007 2:10:10 PM

leatherette

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ORIGINAL: dawntreader

The thing is, physical fitness and healthy lifestyle is such an emotionaly volitale subject...right there with religion and politics. People tend to equate wanting to "better" themselves with a lack of acceptance and love for themselves. Thats why, in my opinion, it is best to work with someone to whom you have no other ties with so that all stays objective. This thread is a good example of how touchy this topic can be~

Well put, dawntreader, thanks.
You are right - to be involved with the person who coaches - yup, may not be a good thing. A neutral paid person would be best here.

I was thinking too simply.
More about a little caring support, a massage after, a specially prepared healthy meal ...

Some do best under a doctors care .

I need to add - please don't think that any of us just hatch out of an egg all perfect and stay that way. ( Pffffttt) I fall off the excercise wagon, gain and lose 10LBS over and over again. This may be minor, but ... nodody is ever "there" . Life is a constant challange and this bit is no different. Obviously you are a very bright lady. We all struggle.

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RE: a sub as personal fitness trainer for Dom/me? can i... - 8/12/2007 2:14:32 PM

leatherette

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ORIGINAL: MistressScarlot

Of course...I also want the best for my slaves. I want them to develop their potentials and be the best they can be because that serves me too. So...if you have this attitude, requiring your slave to serve you as a trainer when he has knowledge of something you don't is actually perfect. It /does/ give you an opportunity to show respect for the things he knows, and gives him the opportunity and the gift of being /truly useful to you/.

Mistress Scarlot: Thank you. What a gracious thing to say.

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RE: a sub as personal fitness trainer for Dom/me? can i... - 8/13/2007 11:23:47 AM

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Very helpful. I find it interesting that majority of dominants see this idea as no problem, and the majority of the subs think it can't work.

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RE: a sub as personal fitness trainer for Dom/me? can i... - 8/13/2007 12:41:22 PM

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We are presently in an analogous situation. He's a contractor and right now he's rebuilding my family's summer house. Which means I'm the client, I approve or veto his suggestions. I pick decorative designs that he hates the idea of working with; transporting large thin marble countertops on a freight boat is nobody's idea of fun.

But it isn't that difficult for us simply because we are both highly knowledgable in what we're doing so discussions are fact based, not emotion based. And that's what is important in a situation like this, keeping the goal in mind, not the individual egos.

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RE: a sub as personal fitness trainer for Dom/me? can i... - 8/13/2007 1:28:54 PM

ProlificNeeds

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ORIGINAL: Grlwithboy

I've definitely given the directive "please kick my ass if I don't...." etc.

This doesn't work with everyone, obviously, but some people can get their head to go there.

I love when people give me such open ended permission to chase them around. I think those are the best moments to release the edge of sadism that otherwise rarely get vented.
The best part is afterwards if they try to get irritated, and you can play your get out of jail free card with, "You told me to do it!" I will admit sometimes I do take advantage of such open ended assignments... just a bit.