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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 9:41:10 PM

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Ill agree with defiant, young hard bodies and minds not jaded with baggage of failed relationships...sometimes a blanker slate is easier to work with

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 9:42:09 PM

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ahh but who says we're not jaded by shit with our parents and our perceptions of what relationships "should be"?

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 9:44:15 PM

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lol ok so now youre making the case for only marrying/collaring someone who got raised in a BDSM home complementary to the dynamic we're looking for :-p

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 9:45:41 PM

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ahh but who says we're not jaded by shit with our parents and our perceptions of what relationships "should be"?

Eh... I'll confess I've turned down people who just had baggage from their families than I could deal with. I figured they were better off finding someone who could deal with it than having me pretend I could.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 9:47:48 PM

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Ill agree with defiant, young hard bodies and minds not jaded with baggage of failed relationships...sometimes a blanker slate is easier to work with

Ahh hell, i'll play devil's advocate here... let's face it we ALL have some baggage... even if it's that it's a youngster who thinks he/she knows it all...

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 9:52:50 PM

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Ill agree with defiant, young hard bodies and minds not jaded with baggage of failed relationships...sometimes a blanker slate is easier to work with

Ahh hell, i'll play devil's advocate here... let's face it we ALL have some baggage... even if it's that it's a youngster who thinks he/she knows it all...

Seconds that lol

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 9:53:51 PM

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granted we all have some baggage--call it parental brainwashing, call it childhood acculturation --- but in terms of anecodotal evidence with girlfriends, the ones a few years older than me were always more guarded and less trusting and a little more neurotic---the ones 5-10 years younger, often it was their first D/s relationship and becuase they werent so guarded it was all the sweeter ---maybe Im confusing naivete with trust ---but the relationships were much happier with the younger girls

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 10:03:41 PM

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it is kinda like cars we all have our preferences in vehicles ..... but some just have high milage and run better lol

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 10:07:20 PM

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and some people like the freshness of a newer modle...that's why they're called trade-ins

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 10:11:11 PM

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it is kinda like cars we all have our preferences in vehicles ..... but some just have high milage and run better lol

nicely put --but back to the OPs intent...do the older ones have an edge on who they are and what they want?...Id agree with the first couple responders...Its more based on how much personal reflection youve put into it and at what age you started

...I will qualify that with the younger subs seem to dive in whole heartedly and give it their all without holding anything of themselves back...sometimes to their own detriment but often that completeness of giving is what makes it work in the first place... thinking.... lol ok no dawkins game theory of hawks and doves tonight cya

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 10:20:39 PM

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if this were true you would have nasa astronaughts working at age 19 and twenty. you would have cia persons at 14 you would flight instructors and all kinds of things experince is all about age some things you can only gain with age your problem sovlings skills do not really devolpe full potental until certian ages

You're talking about an education. There are certain 'young' people who can learn to be an astrornaut. Perhaps one day, NASA will find a 14 year old who has the mental capacity, maturity, and life experience to go into space.

Education, going to school to learn something/a trade, whatever, is not the same as life experience. I am, at 21, more mature than some people 10-15-20 years older than I am that I've come into contact with them. It just means I've had more life experience than them.

Don't discount people because of their age.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 11:26:37 PM

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it just depends upon what areas we put you in a different country or even change your enviroment through some tragic event or even a major that will be the true test for example having a child and caring for said child
life changing event

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 11:34:43 PM

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it just depends upon what areas we put you in a different country or even change your enviroment through some tragic event or even a major that will be the true test for example having a child and caring for said child
life changing event

If being able to care for a child and be a good parent was a requirement to be a good dominant or submissive, I suspect our population would be much smaller. Some people are miserable parents regardless of age, life experience, success in business, etc.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/25/2007 11:36:23 PM

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I would think that experience and honest self awareness would be what gave a person the edge, no matter the age.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 12:27:34 AM

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Well, you all know me by now--I'll vote for older subs every time.

Of course, I'll always be interested in a mature and self-aware younger sub.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 4:24:07 AM

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Disclaimer: this is just my opinion - not to be taken as truth - just what happens to be running thru my mind at this time...

Ok, i think an awareness of self is more important than age. That being said, i'm not sure someone who is "younger" would be as self aware as someone who is "older" as a general rule. Of course, there are many exceptions. i think i have an "edge" over someone who might have been in the lifestyle longer than me because i am very aware of who i am and what i'll accept.

I don't think we're looking at the same profiles

Hence the... "Of course there are many exceptions." statement... *smiling sweetly*

Actually, it was your "i'm not sure someone who is "younger" would be as self aware as someone who is "older" as a general rule" statement I was eyeing when I wrote that.

I don't believe a case can be made for a "general rule".

Self-awareness is not dependant upon how often we travel around the sun...its a result of what we do with ourselves while we travel.

Self-awareness is quite rare in my experience of people. Using age to find it does not seem to me to be a worthwhile effort.

YMMV

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 4:33:06 AM

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think of it as a enigma to be solved.. there is perfect fit to everything in some way ... finding that way is life experince. when we talk about baggage i am sorry but our baggage makes use who we are. people always want things in the good times i have always heard this i can not do this cause i am going through a bad time right now like they are eclusive to the life sucks mode.. it does not work that way.. we are who we are in good times bad times anytime.. how we deal with both is what makes us unique... so age does matter.. how we deal with life comes from life experince ds or other wise ..

This might be true, but what about the people who experience life sooner, and faster than others? I'm talking about the people that have some sort of tragedy in their life that requires them to grow up faster.

Maturity and age are not the same thing. Niether does age equal experience.

if this were true you would have nasa astronaughts working at age 19 and twenty. you would have cia persons at 14 you would flight instructors and all kinds of things experince is all about age some things you can only gain with age your problem sovlings skills do not really devolpe full potental until certian ages

Mark Twain - attributed in error:

When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.

Litleone is correct, Latex.

That's exactly how it happened with me.

Lost all the men in my family in a one month period when I was ten.

That sort of thing forces you to grow up much faster than those who lack that experience.

Age is only about how many times you go around the sun. It has nothing to do with what you learn along the way.

Closed-minded people learn nothing, no matter how old they get.

As for astronauts and CIA agents, you are speaking of knowledge, not wisdom.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 4:42:57 AM

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Young subs definitely have the edge. Their bodies are young and hard. They don't have extra skin or stretch marks from childbirth. They can wear bikinis and actually look good in them. From what I've seen, many Doms seek subs years younger than themselves. Doms in their 20's often go for the 18 yr olds while subs in their early to mid 30's attract the interest of Doms in their 40's, 50's and 60's. If an 18 year old sub showed interest in a Dom in his 50's or 60's, she would have a much better chance than an older sub trying to win over a younger Dom.

In my opinion appearance has as little to do with it as age.

I do not judge books by their covers, and for a good book I could care less what the cover looks like.

Those who hang their desirability on the hook of appearances are in for a rude shock one day, as we all age, and none of our bodies look as they once did when we were young.

Not to mention I can't imagine any meaningful relationship based on something as superficial as appearance.

But then, it is obvious in our society that there are not all that many seeking a meaningful relationship.

At least, not till the age thing catches up with them and their looks fade.

I've found that the sweetest dispositions are rarely found in the prettiest of bodies.

Perhaps because those who depend upon looks rarely invest much in personality.

YMMV

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 4:46:48 AM

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Ill agree with defiant, young hard bodies and minds not jaded with baggage of failed relationships...sometimes a blanker slate is easier to work with

Ahh hell, i'll play devil's advocate here... let's face it we ALL have some baggage... even if it's that it's a youngster who thinks he/she knows it all...

That's why I emphasize self-awareness, as those people tend to throw out their baggage by resolving the issues that haunted them.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 5:00:10 AM

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Sorry to disagree, but not all young subs have hard bodies and plenty of us older ones do. And, yes, I've hard children, even a c section, no stretch marks here. I'll be the first one to say that physical attraction is important; however, physical attraction has little to do with age. It's in the eye and mind of the beholder. As far as baggage goes? Well, deep, I don't know who you've been talking to, but I don't believe I have a lot. Sure, like everyone else, I have some (we ALL do) but I try and leave as much of it behind with a "failed" relationship as I can.

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