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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 12:40:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		DBG, I remember reading this from a different post.  However, you said you "let your body go" in this post.  If you read my post, you'll see that I said something like the best shape you CAN.  That doesn't mean model thin, just in good health and good shape.  Just because you can't be a VS model doesn't mean that you can't exercise.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 12:41:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with alot on here that it has really nothing to do with age .

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 12:44:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		ok so you say it has nothing to do with age  in which case most relationships fail after two to three years why cause of common bonds yep they make excuses like people change and this and that with out the common threads of things nothing last you have no foundation on which to build your house of cards.. so there for it is not going to hold a candle to water if your trying to build a long lasting relationship it is all about age

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 12:48:59 PM   
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ok so you say it has nothing to do with age  in which case most relationships fail after two to three years why cause of common bonds yep they make excuses like people change and this and that with out the common threads of things nothing last you have no foundation on which to build your house of cards.. so there for it is not going to hold a candle to water if your trying to build a long lasting relationship it is all about age

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Clearly it is for you. However, others do not limit their personal relationships based on one factor. As we grow older the "age gap" decreases and two people do not have to have common ground on every single damn thing in the world to have a happy relationship.

We understand very clearly your view on youth.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 12:55:08 PM   
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Yup, there are so many factors that go into a happy, successful relationship.  Age CAN be, but doesn't necessarily have to be one.  I do think shared or common experiences help, at least they do for me.  But I know of many happy couples that aren't the least bit close in age.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 12:58:11 PM   
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I do think shared or common experiences help, at least they do for me.  But I know of many happy couples that aren't the least bit close in age.


Definately they do help, but there are so many different areas you can have common experiences in. While something may be a dealbreaker for one particular person, they can't try to apply what is a dealbreaker to them to everyone else.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 12:59:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		it is more about balance and peace ,,not about my views on youth. It is about sanity and harmony and not about  the chaos intrenched thinking that causes more self destructive things in a moment then in a life time that most of the people cling to here and it is those things that causes people to join the Prozac inc company.. time get your head out of the sand and do the right things for life long happiness and keep in mind what you do does effect others it is not all about you but the world around you so get use to it ...

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 1:02:09 PM   
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it is more about balance and peace ,,not about my views on youth. It is about sanity and harmony and not about  the chaos intrenched thinking that causes more self destructive things in a moment then in a life time that most of the people cling to here and it is those things that causes people to join the Prozac inc company.. time get your head out of the sand and do the right things for life long happiness and keep in mind what you do does effect others it is not all about you but the world around you so get use to it ...


I'm honestly not trying to be a bitch but could you make your posts a little easier to understand? They run together and become hard to decipher.

If I read you correctly, all young people have chaos thinking that requires prozac? And I need to take my head out of the sand because why? Because I refuse to take the word of "random dude on the internet" over the proof positive I've seen with my own eyes?

This isn't about me, and it's not about you either. The way you like to do things doesn't apply to anyone but you. You won't date young people. And that's great. For you.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 1:08:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

ok so you say it has nothing to do with age  in which case most relationships fail after two to three years why cause of common bonds yep they make excuses like people change and this and that with out the common threads of things nothing last you have no foundation on which to build your house of cards.. so there for it is not going to hold a candle to water if your trying to build a long lasting relationship it is all about age

http://www.wilderdom.com/personality/personality.html


Clearly it is for you. However, others do not limit their personal relationships based on one factor. As we grow older the "age gap" decreases and two people do not have to have common ground on every single damn thing in the world to have a happy relationship.

We understand very clearly your view on youth.


Ya know, I was thinking this too.

You shouldn't let your own age interfere with what's out there. Who knows, maybe your match will come in the form of a hot 20-something.

This shouldn't even be a question anyway. It's become a 'who's better, old or young' debate. People are going to have their preferences, whether it's young, old, fat, skinny, tall, short, amputee, bow-legged, hunchback, whatever.


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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 1:21:15 PM   
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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 1:23:26 PM   
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An undergraduate psychology course is going to explain your posts? 

Anyone taking pyschology 101 knows that there are many different schools of pyschology, that some contradict each other and that there are always exceptions and minorities to the given.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 1:30:14 PM   
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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 1:35:59 PM   
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Young subs definitely have the edge. Their bodies are young and hard. They don't have extra skin or stretch marks from childbirth. They can wear bikinis and actually look good in them. From what I've seen, many Doms seek subs years younger than themselves. Doms in their 20's often go for the 18 yr olds while subs in their early to mid 30's attract the interest of Doms in their 40's, 50's and 60's. If an 18 year old sub showed interest in a Dom in his 50's or 60's, she would have a much better chance than an older sub trying to win over a younger Dom.


I would imagine the truth of this statement would vary depending on the shallowness of the Dominant in question.

For me, there is nothing quite so interminably boring as trying to have a conversation over coffee with an ignorant,  uneducated, and inarticulate beauty.

Personality and spirit trumps the ephemeral nature of physical attributes in my book.

Just me, etc.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 1:40:44 PM   
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then you should get my post yep


I don't think you paid very much attention in class. It's overview of personality and the stages of it. The stages of personality, while commonly linked to age, are not always so. A person can get stuck in a paricular stage and never advance past it, even while their age continues to grow. From a pyschology point of view, a person can be an infant at age 60.

Age is not magical.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 1:51:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		you should read everything.. but then again looking at your age you have not yet been through enough life things to determind that other wise you would get my point of view. but that is the case with the very young always know everything but yet know nothing

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 1:53:08 PM   
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you should read everything.. but then again looking at your age you have not yet been through enough life things to determind that other wise you would get my point of view. but that is the case with the very young always know everything but yet know nothing


You want to be clear, be clear. Show me the exact part that you believe proves your thinking. Otherwise I suggest you call your teacher and they will explain to you that the stages of personality do not always with advance with age.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 2:11:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		From reading all the opinions here and talking with friends offsite. It becomes more clear that it's a unique combination of age, experience and personality which an "edge" in attracting a certain Dom to them. For some it's the freshness of youth, for others it's the life experience in an older submissive.
  At my age of 46, I have learnt not to be too quick to state a person who's 20 years younger then myself is immature/inexperienced etc as there will be a few who do shatter that misconception. I have come across many young people who are quite mature beyond their life experinces and also come across many peoopl who are much older than myself that are very immature. I've found that it's usually best to seek out one that compliments my qualities and vice versa.

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 2:29:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		well i would sugest you do more studies in what Alfred Binet there is a lot of good material showing how iq plays a part in this also aslow: Self-Actualizing People
Characteristics of self-actualized people according to Maslow (1968):

  • efficient and accurate in perceiving reality

  • are accepting of themselves, of other people and of nature

  • are spontaneous in thought and emotion, rather than artificial

  • are problem-centred - are concerned with the eternal philosophical questions of humankind

  • are independent and autonomous

  • have a continued “freshness of appreciation” of ordinary events

  • often experience “oceanic feelings” that is a sense of oneness with nature

  • identify with all of humanity and are democratic and respectful of others

  • form very deep ties but only with a few people

  • appreciate for its own sake the process of doing things

  • have a philosophical, thoughtful, non-hostile sense of humour

  • have a childlike and fresh creativity and inventiveness

  • maintain an inner detachment from the culture in which they live

  • may appear temperamental or ruthless as they are strong and independent people guided by their own inner visions

there is ton more but you can go to school and learn this age does make a difference that is just the way it is live it learn it know it

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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 2:30:42 PM   
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you should read everything.. but then again looking at your age you have not yet been through enough life things to determind that other wise you would get my point of view. but that is the case with the very young always know everything but yet know nothing


This just absolutely blew me away.

How can you generalize that all young people think they know everything? I'm young. And I know I don't know everything.

I can understand where you're coming from.  But that doesn't mean I agree with it.

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..time get your head out of the sand and do the right things for life long happiness and keep in mind what you do does effect others it is not all about you but the world around you so get use to it ...


And not all young people are narcissistic, egomanaics who think the world revolve around them. It's time for you to get your head out of the sand and realize that.


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RE: Younger subs vs. older subs:Who has the edge? - 8/26/2007 2:35:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

well i would sugest you do more studies in what Alfred Binet there is a lot of good material showing how iq plays a part in this also aslow: Self-Actualizing People
Characteristics of self-actualized people according to Maslow (1968):

  • efficient and accurate in perceiving reality

  • are accepting of themselves, of other people and of nature

  • are spontaneous in thought and emotion, rather than artificial

  • are problem-centred - are concerned with the eternal philosophical questions of humankind

  • are independent and autonomous

  • have a continued “freshness of appreciation” of ordinary events

  • often experience “oceanic feelings” that is a sense of oneness with nature

  • identify with all of humanity and are democratic and respectful of others

  • form very deep ties but only with a few people

  • appreciate for its own sake the process of doing things

  • have a philosophical, thoughtful, non-hostile sense of humour

  • have a childlike and fresh creativity and inventiveness

  • maintain an inner detachment from the culture in which they live

  • may appear temperamental or ruthless as they are strong and independent people guided by their own inner visions


there is ton more but you can go to school and learn this age does make a difference that is just the way it is live it learn it know it


Where is the evidence that this links directly to age with no exceptions? At what age do people become self-actualized?

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