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julietsierra -> RE: Whiney Bitchy S-types- a vent (8/28/2007 3:56:14 PM)
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ORIGINAL: BoiJen
I'm so fuckin sick and tired of s-types bitching about Dommes charging money or not getting their way or just plain being unhappy.
1. If a Domme charges money even for first contact get over it. If you want it pay it. It doesn't make Her any less of a Domme it means Her time and energy is important and valuable. Which you should know already.
2. If you're unhappy DO something about it. We all made a choice to be where we are today. You have a choice to get up and go if the person you serve wants another play partner/servant/whatever. You don't have to share if you don't want to. Leaving is your choice.
3. Don't use 2 as a manipulative gesture...that's called Topping from the bottom.
Lastly, THEY are the one's in charge not your ass. It's about what they want that's what you signed up for so don't bitch about it. If you didn't negotiate something that would be YOUR fault for not establishing the boundary. Take responsibility for your own happiness and don't pin bad scenes on a Top or non-aftercare or ignorance of your feelings when you haven't explained it like a 3 year old. Hinting at something is NOT telling someone you need it.
BoiJen:
MissKitty always HAS been a good judge of character!!! Please tell her I said hello. It's been a while!
And although I'm one of those s-types, I'd like to say thank you thank you thank you!!!
To the person that wondered about the vehemence against romance...
I figured someone would see it that way. For goodness sake! The point is that we ALL have different reasons and different interests in this life we lead.
First step: Make some good decisions on the front end of things. If you want romance and your partner doesn't, and you merely presumed that your partner wanted what you want, then just whose fault is it if you're unhappy?
Second step: If you get what you don't want, can't manage, etc, instead of whining over what a jerk, insensitive clod, you find your own denigrating accusation, he or she is, make up your damn mind what you're going to do! If you're going to leave, you don't need our permission or our approval rating. If you're going to stay, shut up and do what you said you'd do. If you're submitting, for crying out loud - SUBMIT.
Third step: If you don't like how someone else is living his or her life, here's a clue: Don't date, committ, hook up, you pick the verb, them. It's pretty darn simple.
If someone's a servant and isn't interested in romance, and finds someone they can serve without the romance, then good on them!!
If someone is interested in financial domination or whatever people are calling it, and finds someone they can practice their desires with, then good on them!!
And just because someone else doesn't like it, doesn't make one darn bit of difference to those who do.
THAT'S the point of the whole vehemence against romance stuff. How simple can it get?! Course, it DOES require someone to actually spend more than a minute thinking about this stuff rather than knee-jerking.
juliet
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