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MissMorrigan -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (8/31/2007 4:34:32 AM)
My mother. When I was sixteen I entered into a relationship with a man much older than myself (He was 27). Eighteen months later he sat me down and explained about our D/s relationship and our exploration of SM. I was a virgin when I entered into the relationship and very naive. Until that conversation I thought all relationships were conducted in much the same way and it took a long time to come to terms with my then partner's initial lack of forthrightness, and considerably longer to break the mould I had been set in. It did explain my mother's relationship structure with my stepfather and why I subconsciously gravitated towards a bdsmer for my first relationship - and why, as a young girl, I enjoyed those Dracula books/films so much.

Tristan -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (8/31/2007 4:54:36 AM)
I've always had a dominant streak. My fantasies were partially developed from tv shows like I Dream of Genie and many other tv shows and movies that I do not remember. None seemed to have the right combination of bondage and sexuality. I was always looking for something more or different. I eventually developed a love for erotic bondage or control. I had no idea that any of my fantasies could become reality. The popular culture depicted the lifestyle kind of negative. It seemed that when it was mentioned, it was used as a joke with mostly a domme in leathers and a whip. Thinking back, all of my g/fs seemed to have a submissive streak especially in the bedroom. They all loved to have their hands held down while making love and to have their bottoms spanked while they were on top. I was always afraid to take it a step further. My first real bondage experience was with a g/f who kept making comments about needing a four poster bed and stuff like that. She also had handcuffs on her refridgerator door handle that she said were from a holloween party. I finally got the hint, and used my rock climbing ropes to tie her while making love. Wow! That was an incredible experience, and I never looked back. I've found a lot of vanilla submissives who enjoy being submissive without the kink. I suspect there are a lot of people who would really enjoy the lifestyle. I'm not sure what keeps them out. Maybe it's fear or the negative steriotypes seen in our media. Tristan

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (8/31/2007 6:29:15 AM)
All that apply to you? What does that mean? I've been BDSM all my life. I grew up having nasty wicked evil thoughts! Fantasies about using girls for rough kinky Sex. Tell Ya Bob, Shame and Guilt of having these fantasies was a Bitch! More so when you Live in the Bible Belt. Sure I wanted to Bang the Fuck out of Jeanie! But She was a Dumb trouble Making Disobediant Bitch. I would have been spanking her ass right from day one! Anime Cartoon Girls with Funky Hair Colors aways turned me on! Science Fiction Babes, OH yes! Yummy too! The Porno Mags, Hustler, Swank, Penthouse... Even the Biker Girls with Beautiful Skin Tats.. in Easy Rider. If it's Eye Candy and has the remote Trace of BDSM, my Dick Gets Hard, and I think Nasty Evil Wicked Thoughts Bob. Beautiful Women Tied up, Gagged and bound to a Chair.. Priceless... God old fashioned Rape or Forced Sex scenes in Movies! RED HOT!!!... give me more more more!! I've always been this Way! Then I started Doing things Slowly, and it got more intense! I was a teenager! Nobody sat me Down and Showed me the How to Rules about it! Most of it was figuring it out with some Girly Girly that was into trying the same shit out. We talked and explored and Lived it! Did it again! and Again! Got Older, discovered a lot of people Do the same thing! They actually went about it the Same way I had been Doing it! So, BDSM natural or what? Connecting with Other BDSM people, just made it all the Better! Talk about things and have new ideas for Things to do.. This is not a Hobby, I thought I'd give a Try out... My World has Always Been BDSM as far back as I can remember!!

lytehaze -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/2/2007 12:21:26 PM)
There were always rumblings in my childhood but a major catalyst was when I was 9. One night while on vacation in Florida, my sister and I snuck and watched cable t.v. (something we weren't allowed to do). The movie Exit to Eden was on. It absolutely scandalized me. I don't think either of us made a peep the entire length of the movie. Afterward I thought "it's a comedy, it can't be real", but damned if the idea didn't stick in my head and turn me on. In fact for years I resented Rosie O'Donnell and Dan Aykroyd for showing me me deepest fantasy then snatching it away in a cloud of movie popcorn. Much later I found the reality of BDSM. To this day it's one of my favorite movies. Silly and kitch but Iman has never looked better. Not to mention Stephanie Niznik and Hector Elizondo (yummy)

idroolchicksrule -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/2/2007 3:21:58 PM)
I had a wonder woman coloring book as a kid, I always saw myself as the guys she would tie up with her lasso. I know, totally lame.

Firebirdseeking -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/2/2007 5:53:40 PM)
As a girl, Yul Brynner was my heartthrob, not Paul McCartney...should have paid closer attention to what that was all about....

emeraldgryphon -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/2/2007 8:41:04 PM)
I remember seeing Flash Gordon in 1980, and the costuming (or lack thereof) was one thing, but the "torture" scene with Princess Aura on an inclined table, spreadeagled and restrained - by robotic human hands holding her limbs was the first eye-opener for me - thing was, I wanted to be the one on the table with Aura in charge. Even before that, I remember an episode of Mister Roger's Neighborhood where a witch - one of the puppets - had "captured" one of the live actors and had him in a glass cage. I was only four or so at the time, but I remembered the image and the concept of being held helpless against one's will. Then in the mid-eighties it was Friday the 13th: The Series, and one episode where Mickey had traveled back in time thru a cursed painting to the court of the Marquis deSade - she was restrained to a spreader bar with her hands overhead in whipping position, and he was behind her ready to start her whipping, and she got this look of utter lust and arousal on her face in anticipation of the pain. Then came Gor in 1990, and it was only really arousing if I read them with an eye towards gender reversal i.e. what would it have been like if Tarl was actually Tarlena. The Story of O followed, but again there was that tiny bit of disappointment. I finally got my hands on the Beauty trilogy, and even tho I am straight with no Bi tendencies, if I found a portal to the Queen's Kingdom I would be hard-pressed not to go. Exit to Eden was great for the first half of the book and the movie was watchable only for Dana Delany and her assistant, but again, if the Club opened tomorrow I would sign up in an instant. Add in all the rock and heavy metal videos of the eighties with Domme archetypes such as Annie Lennox's skintight catsuit in "Missionary Man", the single-tail wielding Mistress wearing the coiled rope bra in the Scorpion's "Rhythm of Love", the gestapo Dommes in Golden Earrings' "Twilight Zone", the Spider Mistress in the Jackson's "Torture", and the Orwellian policewoman in Corey Hart's "Sunglasses at Night" to name a few out of many.

AlexanderC -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/2/2007 10:45:51 PM)
Pin-pointing a point of origin is impossible for me. I've tried without success to remember a time when I was other. At two I had a stuffed animal monster that came with plastic handcuffs and I vividly recall the whirling intencities of playing with them. But even before that I was interested in my neighbor friends and their spankings. So the question of when my interest in BDSM arose is diffuclt to answer and won't elicit any amusing annecdotes from me. The beginning of my inclinations towards toping are a bit more determinable. When I was in second grade a girl in my class kept picking on me and eventual my mother called her parents. The next day she came over to me crying and said "Thanks a lot, now tonight my Daddy's going to spank me and he's got these really big hands." At the time I found my indirect involvement extremely compelling and subsequently began to have more devolped fantasies in which I played a clearly defined role.

teamnoir -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/6/2007 3:04:14 PM)
Jeannie was cool. And I did fantasize about her periodically throughout life. I like Bewitched better. Samantha was just smokin'. More fantasies there. However, what really drew me into bdsm was the trance and ecstatic potential in flogging.

favesclava -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/6/2007 3:42:06 PM)
i loved i dream of jeanie but i wanted to own the genie. what inspired me was Master telling me i was His. before that i wasnt interested at all.

bipolarber -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/6/2007 5:11:57 PM)
Emeraldgryphon, So have you applied to Other World Kingdom yet? LOL To tell the truth, I'm still not sure that OWK isn't some kind of internet hoax. It just seems too good to be true.

Petronius -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/6/2007 6:20:45 PM)
What inspired me to enter the world of BDSM? Puberty.

OdysseusNJ -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/6/2007 11:34:22 PM)
He-Man and She-Ra were chock full of BDSMlicious innuendo. I was probably age 3 or 7 or something like that back then and perceptive enough for it to generate a whole lot of childish fantasies. I'm not really grooving on the whole "enter the world of BDSM" notion enough to answer the actual subject line but that was probably my earliest exposure to this sort of stuff. And even a young-un like me saw enough re-runs to realize both I Dream of Jeannie and Bewitched were hot shows.

Prinsexx -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/7/2007 1:11:44 AM)
I was sexually submissive as a baby right from the word GO! in relationship with my twin. Sexually the submissive one and socially the dominant strong one who did all the necessary communication and social interaction. We are still both 2% of the population according to the Myers Briggs. I am extreme intuitive social extravert feeler...drives people crazy to have such a powerhouse wanring to be sexually submissive. But there you go...been in the lifestyle as they say all my life. No wonder I have had so many vanilla casualties....

CuriousLord -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/7/2007 1:44:03 AM)
I guess I always wanted to. At 9 or 10, I really wanted my first love to be a slave. Always was told it was wrong. Meh. I cared only enough to feel like some sort of evil sinner. I had planned to confess my lust to my parents (who, to a child of this age, seemed to be high moral authorities) on their death beds so that their shame would be no more than momentary. At 13, a girl named.. alright, made-up names.. Sally was probably my first major vanilla relationship. It broke apart quickly (8 months). 15,.. Alexia.. was, erm, my mentoree? She was what one in this lifestyle might call a sub as far as the relationship dynamic went. She was also a student, and I taught her a great deal of philososphy- which she never quite understood well enough, and therefore majored in it. (She never did come to terms with the necessity to produce.) Contemptable irony. The relationship with her was fine enough. She was a sub out of an unwillingness to take it further, to be a slave. I had several other relationships like that- some lasting a short while, some more long term. By and large, I was just a pervert who wanted a something similar to the M/s dynamic- one which I didn't know the term for at the time, so I didn't know I could actually just look for girls who were already interested in it. Hah, ah wells. Live and learn, right? 18, had the first move-in D/s relationship. Disenchanted, realizing that she was quite a lazy sub. This relationship, after costing me 6 kUSD over three months, with severe dissatisifaction while working two jobs and going to college full time, led me to become far more cynical about females. 19, I met.. Jil. Brilliant individual. One of the few people I didn't have to patronize several times over to while having a deep conversation with. Theatre/dance/music major (talented girl, sadly). She was my first long-term slave; well, sort of. The relationship was M/s a fair amount of the time, but often reverted to more generic D/s. She.. suffered severely from the madness that touches gifted minds. After a while, I conceded, acknowledging my inability (or, at least, my unwillingness) to deal with her. Still, while trying to understand her motivations (since she was also the first hardcore masochist I'd had), I found these boards and researched a bit. She's the reason I've come here, really. In any case, the history since then isn't relevant to the topic. That's how I went from vanilla to M/s, in short form. Pardon the excessive typos, as I'm sure they're there; I'm truly exhausted.

emeraldgryphon -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/7/2007 8:44:25 PM)
Bipolarber - I've been aware of the OWK's "existence" for some time now, and I have to agree that quite a lot of it looks verry staged, but then again the photos do show some seriously red posteriors even to the point of hematomas, contusions, and raised welts and wheals. I don't know if I would want to enter that heavy of a sustained scene - pain for me is not an end in and of itself, but rather a means to an end - which is training and behavorial modification. It seems to me that anyone whipped or caned that hard has got to enjoying the pain for its own sake, or the Domme is enjoying it for the same reason. In Beautys' world the Dominants stopped a punishment if and when blood was drawn or when they were reasonably assured of a slaves' sincere remorse, whichever came first. If I was there they would be well-assured of my sincerity very quickly!

KnightofMists -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/7/2007 9:15:35 PM)
Since this thread started.. I was thinking .. What inspired me? It a question I felt I knew the answer to already.. but one that doesn't hurt to ask oneself again. In short... I wasn't inspired. Nothing specific has ever triggered or resonated with me that sent me down this road of BDSM. As my sexual awareness evolved... I also became a growing awareness of what ignited my lust. It was not just looking at an attractive women.. but it was the actions of aggressive lust towards the women. Aggression was very much a part of my sexual awareness. In my adolescence, I found it more erotically arousing to fantasize of aggressive lust than it was to think of a particular hot chick. It was also the fortunate of my life to cross paths with a wonderful woman. A women that was inclined towards being the receiver of the aggressive lust that thrilled me. It was chemisty that propelled me towards BDSM and not inspiration. I suspect.. that if I met some that had more mainstream ideals of sex.... I would of been very frustrated. .. It is very ironic to me.. that Alandra and I where doing soome incredible kinky sex before we even learned of this lifestyle or what BDSM stood for. In the beginning.. it was just apart of our sexuality that evolved together in a very gratifying and exciting way. It wasn't inspiration.... it was good luck that allowed me to allow this inner desire to grow and evolve.

Aswad -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/8/2007 4:35:57 AM)
What inspired me to enter the BDSM community, was simply encountering others with similar interests. As for entering into BDSM as an interest/inclination/orientation, I didn't really have all that much say in the matter ... the doctors said "push", and my mother did just that. The rest, as they say, is history. [:D]

jaxnsax -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/8/2007 4:42:00 AM)
Greetings What inspired me to enter the world of BDSM? In terms of BDSM per se, nothing inspired me. In terms of relationships that were M/s based with some BDSM thrown in? It has always been a natural inclination for me to defer within relationships; some of those relationships included men and women who enjoyed BDSM. I hope the day brings you good humor and health jaxon

HalloweenWhite -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/8/2007 4:52:16 AM)
I knew -what- I wanted a long time before I knew there was a name for it, let alone a lifestyle dedicated to it. Then eventually, when I was able to explore it, I did. It started when I was a sprog of 19 and in college incidentally.

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