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nosferatue -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/8/2007 4:54:45 PM)
For me, i didn't discover that i wanted it until i was 19. I had gotten sick of normal relationships, because i always managed to find guys who were absoloute pussies, and could not fulfill me, or take care of me. I always had to wear the pants in the relationship. I was tired of making all of the decisions, and it became normal for me to go through guys like daily pairs of socks.One day, i found a guy who made me feel utterly subservient, and beneath him. He was having none of the my wearing the pants in the sexual relationship. He introduced me to the world of ownership, and punishment, and praise....i loved it. I couldn't get enough of it. Eventually, he and i lived together for a while with some other people, and so the BDSM relationship flourished. After Him, i found Masters who taught me new things. I didn't always like them at first, but i usually ended up liking them after a while[:D]. Of course, punishments are never meant to be liked, so they are the one exclusion[;)] since then, everytime i had a vanilla relationship, it was just never enough. I'm so happy that my Daddy found me. He's taught me so many things, and i will do anything He desires out of love and loyalty. I will never leave His side.

Bobkgin -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/9/2007 5:25:05 AM)
Thank you to all who participated in this thread. It has been instructive to read the various reasons each individual gave for their interest in bdsm. Good fortune to those seeking a partner, and Safe Journeys to all.

InkedMaster -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/9/2007 5:41:42 AM)
Back in the late 60s, I must have been around 8 or so when Mom took me to the local drug store, while she was shopping, I was looking through the magazine rack at comics when I noticed a "True Detective" mag, on the front cover in full color was a woman, dressed in a bra, panties and stiletto heels. She was tied to a chair every which way but loose and gagged...I ain't been right since!

yrstocollar -> RE: What inspired you to enter the world of BDSM? (9/9/2007 6:53:35 AM)
Hmmm... tough question... it's like trying to figure out when I knew I was gay... I think it's something that has always been there but wasn't necessarily defined in bdsm terms at the time. Also, I'm a switch so seeing patterns in myself as D vs s are a little harder because I see both. When I was very young I enjoyed seeing what I could make people do. I always liked to challenge authority and assert my own through a combination of charm, sleight of words and manipulation... as a child I was considered stubborn when I refused to conform to the status quo and a natural leader (or ring leader) who could inspire others to do what I wanted. I read widely from science fiction to porn and never thought things like tying people up, role playing, wearing outfits or spanking were unusual or bad. I had fantasies of torturing people... to see how far I could push them. I liked pain myself. I can't remember where these came from or when they started, they've just always been there. I was always fascinated with the body and the mind and how they worked. My best friend and I would play role play games... invent new identies... become the other gender... be evil... we were very into knives and ropes and we each had a small bag full of our "toys". From about age 10-20 I usually had a boyfriend and they were all intelligent and strong people but I really enjoyed pushing them around and controlling the relationship. When I started having sex I would frequently and deliberately set out to turn him on and then tell him to go home... the power of that gave me one hell of a rush! I also had a boyfriend who would drive for up to an hour to come pick me up from work, drive me home which only took 5 minutes, then I would send him home again. I also got into the goth scene... alot of my friends got into being actors at the friday night showing of the Rocky Horror Picture Show in the last couple of years of high school. Looking back they were all very kinky people but at the time they were just my friends and it all seemed very normal. What I enjoyed most about the goth scene was going to a club and the mood of the place had been set by the location, decor, dark lighting, sexy clothes, leather, silver, heavy industrial music, the way people carried themselves... it all got me excited! I didn't hang out in that scene for too long but I've always loved going to clubs (not necessarily goth) which have that dark and dirty feel... kind of seedy and naughty. When I started dating girls... toys and games were just slowly introduced in the relationship without much discussion. With my last girlfriend there was a very big mental aspect and training going on from my part... but I didn't get that from bdsm... I got that from studying and working in an area which involves changing human behaviour. I found it fascinating at work and just bought it home, but not with the awareness that I was doing it per se... I just wanted to develop the relationship and my girlfriend in a particular way so I used my counselling skills to do so. When I met my current girlfriend she was talking alot about playing with needles and this turned me on like crazy... we started talking overtly about bdsm and I was hooked. Now I have words and names for what I previously thought was a normal part of a relationship... so she inspired me to get more into the world of bdsm... but I still don't know exactly where it all originally came from though!

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