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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/30/2007 5:25:12 PM   
Griswold


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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

Come on everyone, Griswold needs a group hug.  And a ball gag.


(It's been said before).

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/30/2007 5:30:12 PM   
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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/30/2007 5:33:00 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/30/2007 5:34:12 PM   
kayne


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Status: offline 		I like hugging the women of my family. My ma, nieces, great nieces, and sisters-in-law. The guys, we don't hug. My pa whacks me with his cane when I come home on the weekends, that's love for him.

When someone hug-attacks me? I tense up and get very agitated. This is an endless source of amusement to every girl on campus that I know.

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/30/2007 7:42:15 PM   
LotusSong


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Ive never asked someone if I could or should hug them..I just always have..when greeting them and saying goodbyes. It just comes naturally to me. We did those things in my church too WinsomeDefiance. Hugs make me happy.
*makes a mental note to not hug LotusSong (for Her comfort)


When Vatican II had that "Sign of Peace" action placed in the Mass, that pretty much blew being Catholic for me.  I hated it.  It feels forced. (making note to be on the lookout for the mad hugger!)

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/30/2007 10:54:31 PM   
Owner59


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Status: offline 		what are the rules on gratuitous humping?...

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/30/2007 11:02:44 PM   
kayne


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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 12:50:42 AM   
seeksfemslave


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Status: offline 		I seem to recall Tim the Toolman had the same problem with Big Al, his long suffering assistant on Home Improvement.

Same awkwardness can be caused by those who stand too close when talking to you. Ugh!
The only way out of that is a swift head butt, or Glasgow kiss !

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 1:43:29 AM   
Vendaval


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Status: offline 		How much physical affection is expressed and how differs in various cultures, groups and families.  The Latin side of my family is very warm and affectionate as are my theatre and Alternative culture friends.  The local kink group has some persons who are very touchy-feely and others who are more reserved.  I am pretty reserved until I know someone and feel comfortable with their energy.  And if I am having a bad day when my back is aching, I don't want to be hugged at all.  It's all about being polite and firm when setting boundaries about your body with other people.

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 1:46:17 AM   
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what are the rules on gratuitous humping?...


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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 3:08:03 AM   
freyjasdottir


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Status: offline 		I am a non-hugger.  I will be polite but I can barely handle people at my part time job touching me when they hand me their money and that's just fingers grazing. 

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 3:14:17 AM   
Msagain


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Status: offline 		I hug my son and best friends and thats it, I hate anyone invading my space if I feel no emotional bond with them.

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 5:08:20 AM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		i am a hugger.  i really really really need to be hugged and touched and snuggled.  however, i know that not everyone else is like that, and i respect their boundaries.

when i was divorced from my ex and had no partner, i had a few close male friends that i could go to and say "i really need a man-hug please" and could get a long snuggle and that helped keep me going.

then i married a non-huggy man.  *eyeroll*  my kids are huggy, so are both Sir and the otherlove.

kitten

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 5:20:54 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


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what are the rules on gratuitous humping?...


I don't know about rules, but I insist on dinner and a movie first.

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 7:47:04 AM   
Owner59


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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

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ORIGINAL: Owner59

what are the rules on gratuitous humping?...





I don't know about rules, but I insist on dinner and a movie first.

<chuckle>
You know what humping leads to?...

That`s right,.... dancing!



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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 7:50:49 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

quote:

ORIGINAL: Owner59

what are the rules on gratuitous humping?...


I don't know about rules, but I insist on dinner and a movie first.

<chuckle>
You know what humping leads to?...

That`s right,.... dancing!


That would really explain my last dance partners wonderful sense of rythm.

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 8:00:25 AM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		I am not a real huggy person...at least not with people I dont know....our close friends, I think I hug most of them when I see them, but Ive never been one to exchange overly friendly gestures with people Im just not really friends with. I hate it when people want to hug me and I dont even know them.

Im not really a kisser either, I hate it when people try and kiss me on the cheek...and men, what is it with thinking women are gonna find you oh so romantic if you kiss our hands? I hate that. If I give you my hand I meant for you to shake it, not fucking make out with it. yuck...I gotta go wash my hands now just thinking about it.

I do have a semi large group of very close friends who we are a bit more "touchy feely" with than most people are with their friends I guess, so maybe it throws people off when I show up to an SCA event and some knight runs over and grabs my ass while he's hugging me so hard he's lifting me off the ground, but that is not an invitation for some stranger to take the same liberties....just because I play tonsil hockey with the first 14 people who greet me, doesnt mean Im gonna do it with you if Ive never met you and gotten to know you that well.

Oh and dont even get me started on swingers clubs...ok, so we've been to a few recently...only just started going to the "public" swingers parties over the past few months. Up until then Id only been to ones where everyone invited to the party knows everyone else thats there and everyone is comfortable with everyone. But recently we decided to take a group of our friends and go check out the ones where you dont ever know everybody. If Im in the middle of fucking someone, and some guy walks my and smacks my ass or pinches my nipple and I just grin, it probably means Ive known the dude for years and Im ok with him doing that....it does NOT give some strange dude the right to walk up and do the same thing! We flat out packed up and left, all 8 of us, at the last party we went to cause half the people there thought it was ok to just touch who ever they wanted.


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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 8:21:40 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


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I am not a real huggy person...at least not with people I dont know....our close friends, I think I hug most of them when I see them, but Ive never been one to exchange overly friendly gestures with people Im just not really friends with. I hate it when people want to hug me and I dont even know them.

Im not really a kisser either, I hate it when people try and kiss me on the cheek...and men, what is it with thinking women are gonna find you oh so romantic if you kiss our hands? I hate that. If I give you my hand I meant for you to shake it, not fucking make out with it. yuck...I gotta go wash my hands now just thinking about it.

I do have a semi large group of very close friends who we are a bit more "touchy feely" with than most people are with their friends I guess, so maybe it throws people off when I show up to an SCA event and some knight runs over and grabs my ass while he's hugging me so hard he's lifting me off the ground, but that is not an invitation for some stranger to take the same liberties....just because I play tonsil hockey with the first 14 people who greet me, doesnt mean Im gonna do it with you if Ive never met you and gotten to know you that well.

Oh and dont even get me started on swingers clubs...ok, so we've been to a few recently...only just started going to the "public" swingers parties over the past few months. Up until then Id only been to ones where everyone invited to the party knows everyone else thats there and everyone is comfortable with everyone. But recently we decided to take a group of our friends and go check out the ones where you dont ever know everybody. If Im in the middle of fucking someone, and some guy walks my and smacks my ass or pinches my nipple and I just grin, it probably means Ive known the dude for years and Im ok with him doing that....it does NOT give some strange dude the right to walk up and do the same thing! We flat out packed up and left, all 8 of us, at the last party we went to cause half the people there thought it was ok to just touch who ever they wanted.



Wow, I really need to get out more!  If all 8 of you are still in transit, want to swing by my place?

Ok, all joking aside, I've seen perfectly sincere people confused by mixed signals.  In situations like that, sometimes the protocol gets blurred, and otherwise thoughtful and respectful people make mistakes.  Sometimes, people are just selfish, inconsiderate bazturds who don't think before they act.  In those instances, it wouldn't matter if 2 or 200 guys grabbed your ass.  They'd feel justified in doing so, simply because your wishes never played into their desires.

I am often surprised by the liberties people take with others. 

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 8:25:27 AM   
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When I was twenty something, doing the London club culture, I got hugged all the time. Men, women, cats and rats would come up to me and say: "Gawd, darlin', you're beautiful, let me give you a hug!".

And it was fabulous. It was not sexual: the love was induced by MDMA, but it felt wonderful.

At the time.

God, I loved clubbing...


How old are you? Are you my generation? 'Used to go to London clubs when club culture was alive and well: The Fridge in Brixton, The Cross in Kings Cross....sister lived in Greenwich...


Yeah! I just turned 35 - it was my birthday on Sunday actually. I liked the Fridge: lived just across the road from it. In the mid-nineties there was a club called 'Coalesce' which took place in different venues (mostly, abandoned warehouses in Camberwell). But I also liked gay night at Heaven, the Basement in the Crypt in the basement of St Matthews's church (they turned it into a pseudo morrocan loungey sort of place)... I would go to Heavenly Social for the Chemical Brothers' debut and used to go to Basement Jaxx' nights at the King... something? pub...

Now, I hug myself  and I bug others :-)

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RE: Gratuitous Hugging - 8/31/2007 8:26:41 AM   
Sinergy


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Do you mean humping for free or humping because you are grateful to have someone who will let you hump them? 


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what are the rules on gratuitous humping?...



I was thinking it was humping over and above the call of duty.

Sinergy

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