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I1985 -> RE: The Ever Tiresome Age Card (9/5/2007 5:55:30 PM)
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Ok another stupid youngster that doesn't know shit here.
What I get out of this thread is that apparently wisdom comes with time, and yeah I have to agree with that. But I also start to think that the patience to read what others are saying lessens over those same years. Because really where did you read that the starter of this thread, psynymph, is interested in dating people twice her age. Maybe I'm to young so I can't read very well, but in that case could any of you wise older people point me out where she wrote that?
Still here? or already writing an angry responds to what I wrote so far?
All that this thread is about is to raise a discussion about this matter. A cry for respect. No we don't know all that most older people do, and no we haven't got the experience most older people do. But we still are people. yes we have a lot to learn about live I don't question that, but just maybe some of you could still learn something too. And maybe you could learn from something one of us kids say. Doesn't mean we know more, but maybe we might know different things. And I believe 'we' can all gain more knowledge and wisdom by exanging information. Does it matter that it comes from a 20something, a 40 something, a 80something, a teen, or hell lets get crazy a toddler?
I don't question the fact that I could learn from many of you. And yes its a good chance that I can learn more from an older person. But it does not mean I can't learn anything from a person younger then me. A very good friend of mine is 22, she's been through a lot of shit. Nowadays she lives with 2 women, a lesbian couple, she pretty much is roommates with them. The oldest person in the house is 56, she travelled all over the world, seen a lot speaks like 7 languages. Not at school, but in the field, among the people. She gained a lot of wisdom and experience from that, no question about that. But she always lived with healthy family members and friends around her. Well guess what that friend of mine, just 22 isn't. You'll be suprised how much a 56 year old can learn from a girl not even half her age. But to do so she has to listen. And the girl certainly learns from the older woman too. The gained experience in totally other areas, and respect each other for it, and learn from each other.
Is the thought that you might learn from a younger person really that scary? Would that make you a falure?
Ofcourse I have a lot to learn, and hope to do so when the years go by. I know I have little hands on experience in BDSM, and not afraid to admit it. I learned a lot about it in theorie, read a lot, talked a lot, discussed a lot. And yes most of it I learned from older people, and I'm gratefull for that. But I know for a fact I have given new insights to some of them too. And to me that's what it's all about. What use is knowledge and wisdom if kept for yourself. If you share it others might benefit from it. So I share what I have and appreciate what others, be it older or younger, share with me.
Maybe another example, I'm a member of a motorclub. There are people there that believe that know it all and can drive better then anyone else, they already ride for 20 years. But leave the parts that they ride 500miles a year on average a year and take the bike to the shop even if a tire looks a bit soft. I sure don't know it all, and there are so many others that can ride bikes so much better then I can. I've only been in the game for 2 years, well really a few months short... But in that time I clocked over 27.000 miles and done all maintenance myself. I know every nut and bolt on that machine, as I've had everyone of them in my hands. And yes I know what it feels like to crash aswell. I don't say I'm better, but please don't pretend you're better because you've been at it longer.
I happen to mod the forums of that club, and believe I've gained quite some knowledge in that role by reading every single post that is put on there. And I believe that people asking me about stuff at meetings, even guys that are triple my age supports that theorie. People way older ask me, how I did things, if I know what a strange noise or feeling in their bike could be, asking what they can do about it. I don't always have the answer, but I take me time and try to find the solution with them, that way we can both learn from it.
It's a fact that I experienced quite a lot for my age. Have I experienced more then your average 40 year old, I doubt it, but hope to find out...in due time.
You probably shouldn't ask me for advice about relationships, not much experience in that field I'm afraid. I might very well learn a thing or to about that from an 18 year old. I'm not ashamed to say that, it's a fact. So yes I know I can learn a lot about that from most older people. But please just keep in might that I'm not totally stupid and yeah.... you might even learn something from one of us...kids....
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