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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:03:04 AM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		As promised I said I would also be willing to share, so here's my sharing tip of the day.

Blood, pee, wax, scat .. any sort of play that gets messy is best done on a surface that is protected so as not to damage it. A good way to prevent damage to carpets, mattresses and other surfaces is to cover them with a drop cloth. Unfortunatly, those can tend to slip and slide around but some double sided tape on the bottom can help prevent the sliding. A piece in each corner and a cross piece in the middle will pretty much keep the cloth in place while you play and is easily removed when you're done.

In addition, and this is especially true with blood play, drop cloths (found at your local hardware and paint store for a couple of bucks) tend to get very slippery and if you're standing on them, the chance of falling or slipping is increased, so, get yourself a cheapy batch of bath appliques and put them on the drop cloth and you'll have a good source of traction which can help prevent slip and falls even when you're blindfolded and standing in blood. Once your play is done, you can throw them in the shower, rinse them off and get several uses out of them, so they're economical as well. Much cheaper than replacing a living room carpet and two queen size mattress.

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:05:39 AM   
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Much cheaper than replacing a living room carpet and two queen size mattress.

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Hope that is not the voice of experience talking!

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:08:19 AM   
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Much cheaper than replacing a living room carpet and two queen size mattress.

Celeste


Hope that is not the voice of experience talking!


It is absolutely the voice of experience talking.  

Anyone wanna buy a couple of used mattresses?

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:09:49 AM   
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drop cloths (found at your local hardware and paint store for a couple of bucks) tend to get very slippery and if you're standing on them, the chance of falling or slipping is increased, so, get yourself a cheapy batch of bath appliques and put them on the drop cloth and you'll have a good source of traction which can help prevent slip and falls even when you're blindfolded and standing in blood.


Err...with that much blood shouldn't this be a scene from CSI?



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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:11:40 AM   
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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:12:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
drop cloths (found at your local hardware and paint store for a couple of bucks) tend to get very slippery and if you're standing on them, the chance of falling or slipping is increased, so, get yourself a cheapy batch of bath appliques and put them on the drop cloth and you'll have a good source of traction which can help prevent slip and falls even when you're blindfolded and standing in blood.


Err...with that much blood shouldn't this be a scene from CSI?




You know... I had a nice dream about vampires and a situation kinda like that.

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:15:53 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
drop cloths (found at your local hardware and paint store for a couple of bucks) tend to get very slippery and if you're standing on them, the chance of falling or slipping is increased, so, get yourself a cheapy batch of bath appliques and put them on the drop cloth and you'll have a good source of traction which can help prevent slip and falls even when you're blindfolded and standing in blood.


Err...with that much blood shouldn't this be a scene from CSI?




It really doesn't take a whole lot of blood to slip, but beyond blood, there's flooding and gushing, sweat and all manner of other wet gooies that can cause one to fall on their kester in a non-consensual sorta way.  At least, there is when I play!

Celeste

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:20:51 AM   
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It is absolutely the voice of experience talking.  

Anyone wanna buy a couple of used mattresses?

Celeste


Wow, my Mom was right! She always said "You kids stop jumping on that bed before someone gets hurt or damages something!" Hee hee

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:21:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
drop cloths (found at your local hardware and paint store for a couple of bucks) tend to get very slippery and if you're standing on them, the chance of falling or slipping is increased, so, get yourself a cheapy batch of bath appliques and put them on the drop cloth and you'll have a good source of traction which can help prevent slip and falls even when you're blindfolded and standing in blood.


Err...with that much blood shouldn't this be a scene from CSI?




It really doesn't take a whole lot of blood to slip, but beyond blood, there's flooding and gushing, sweat and all manner of other wet gooies that can cause one to fall on their kester in a non-consensual sorta way.  At least, there is when I play!

Celeste


Sounds like a scene that takes on a certain "Wessonality"....


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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:28:43 AM   
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I am by far not the youngest one on this site, but I am probably amongst the youngest as I am 19 (and a half! ). I haven't read through all of the posts in this thread, but I thought I'd start paying closer attention now.

I think a common misperception people have about me because of my age is that I'm some goth/punk girl here to get laid. If you knew me well, you'd know this is so far from the truth that it is beyond hysterical. I'm a very "vanilla" type of person normally, and I tend to stay pretty pc most of the time (I'm a political science major, it helps to be less "out" about sex). It isn't about getting laid to me, or any of that, but about finding myself a person who can be a "vanilla" boyfriend and my Dominant at the same time. I'm interested in the power exchange, the mental connection that is so easily facilitated within a D/s relationship.

I tend to get a lot of emails from men in their 50s, looking for a daughter figure, but I'm not interested in that either. Overall, most people on this site want to find their kinky D/s soulmate, and that is my goal as well. While older folks may have marriages and kids and permanent jobs to worry about, us younger folk have college, parents, and friends who don't understand BDSM beyond "tied up and beaten." Unless you are the goth punk girl wanting to get laid, in which case that group of people is generally more accepting of alternative lifestyles.

There are certain things that society expects out of people of a certain age.  As people get older, it is easier to keep certain things private, and people start to realize that other people's privates lives are private, and will leave it alone. At my age, there are still gossipy evenings galore, and if you are into D/s or BDSM, it is significantly more difficult for you. When discussing boyfriends, how can I mention I am on an online dating website for people interested in BDSM? And, if I were to meet someone I really liked, college keeps us from being together, and I can't really talk to people about my relationship. I don't like secrets, and I like gossiping to an extent, so it is extremely difficult for me.

I don't know if any of this is relevant to anyone looking in this thread, but if anyone experiences anything similar, or has any advice for me, I'll take it - I want to learn from anyone regardless of age, but the situation I'm in because of my stage in life right now is confusing as hell.

Just my two cents,
cp55

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:42:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		i am 35 (in a few days), but i do understand the frustration younger people have with not being taken seriously. i am the youngest of my friends by far. i don't know why, it's just always seemed to work out that way. When i was in my 20s, and especially early 20's, i can't tell you how positively sick of hearing about my age i was. i always felt like life experience was much more important.

As far as BDSM goes, i'm pretty new. i know there are plenty of twenty-somethings i can learn from here.

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:52:19 AM   
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Well that was mature.

Yes. Some things come with age for most people. However, as we already discussed in a previous thread, they do not come for all people and they come for everyone at different rates. A certain percentage of people get stuck in phases and never grow and others, due to circumstances or their own nature, advance more rapidly.


Illustrated case in point.


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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 11:54:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		i'm 42 . my mentor in the D/s life a beautiful woman just turned 30. i learn so much from this young lady sometimes i forget i'm the elder. when i have doubts and feel overwhelmed , she's the one that i run to. her words are alway non judgemental and calming and brings me back to earth.

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 12:01:58 PM   
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Do you believe that you can be super awesome at something and still be learning about it? I sure do and that just means that, eventually, I can be mega-super awesome.


I love this attitude.

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I think being open-minded coupled with being willing to do stuff just for shits and giggles does lay, mainly in the bailiwick of the young and might have something to do with the fear factor. When you're younger you can tend to feel immortal. You have all the time in the world and nothing can harm you, so jump in with both feet and fuck the consequences. As you age, you realize that all that shit you did as a youngster shoulda killed your ass, so you tend to tred a bit more cautiously knowing just how very mortal you truly are. I can't say that I disagree with the concept as a gross generalization with the cavaet that there are going to be exceptions.


I'd be an exception, and I think I'm not totally uncommon. I'm the opposite. Less frightened and less doubtful than I was at 23. I knew what I wanted to have and do, but I was terrified of breaking people being a bad person - doing something "wrong" and losing communal approval because you know, we vet one another so stringently (I was new!) and I was very concerned with other people's approval.  I hate planes. I've never ridden a roller coaster. I wait for the light and always have when I walk and look both ways. I was stiflingly overparented by a paranoid mother and grandmother if you want to be freudian, but in terms of the physical realm I really am a low-risk girl.

This is the first arena in my life ever where I've ridden the roller coaster. Without overdoing it on the crazy, but really, liberating. Yum.

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 12:04:12 PM   
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I tend to get a lot of emails from men in their 50s, looking for a daughter figure, but I'm not interested in that either. Overall, most people on this site want to find their kinky D/s soulmate, and that is my goal as well. While older folks may have marriages and kids and permanent jobs to worry about, us younger folk have college, parents, and friends who don't understand BDSM beyond "tied up and beaten." Unless you are the goth punk girl wanting to get laid, in which case that group of people is generally more accepting of alternative lifestyles.


This is an excellent point and it was kind of you to share your experience on it. Everyone does have their crosses regardless of the age group into which they may fall.

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There are certain things that society expects out of people of a certain age.  As people get older, it is easier to keep certain things private, and people start to realize that other people's privates lives are private, and will leave it alone. At my age, there are still gossipy evenings galore, and if you are into D/s or BDSM, it is significantly more difficult for you. When discussing boyfriends, how can I mention I am on an online dating website for people interested in BDSM? And, if I were to meet someone I really liked, college keeps us from being together, and I can't really talk to people about my relationship. I don't like secrets, and I like gossiping to an extent, so it is extremely difficult for me.


Peer pressure is something which you can choose to ignore but I know how hard it is to do so. You don't want to alienate your friends but don't necessarily want to let them in on your private thoughts and desires either. Hopefully, you have at least one or two people with whom you can share and when subjects come up, I've always found a 'knowing' smile can do wonders in those situations. What people 'guess' about is their own stuff and there's nothing wrong with taking the 5th on any issue. One or two close friends with whom you can share will probably be enough to see you through when you need an ear or shoulder.

As far as having to put things on hold (like getting together with someone because you're leaving for college etc) that doesn't really change as you get older. You just exchange school for career and the same sorts of decisions have to be made in the long run. It doesn't actually get any easier especially if you have a great career and then find a great dominant who happens to live 3000 miles from you.

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I don't know if any of this is relevant to anyone looking in this thread, but if anyone experiences anything similar, or has any advice for me, I'll take it - I want to learn from anyone regardless of age, but the situation I'm in because of my stage in life right now is confusing as hell.

Just my two cents,
cp55


I can offer nothing but some verbal (okay, written) support and let you know that I've faced a lot of the issues you currently face and I've survived and am now thriving. You can, too! Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and you'll get some place. Where you go is going to depend on the direction in which you point your toes.

Celeste

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 1:06:01 PM   
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When I listen to them talk I feel like i am some antique object on display. lol when we talk about Historic most of us remember what we were doing at that time. Most of them had not even been born yet. Anyone can have text book educated knowledge. But It is common sense that binds it all together and goes a long way..


It's called empathy. I'm a young person. I like to think I'm rather articulate, and am able to get what I want to say across fairly well. Common sense has nothing to do with binding people together. I can see why you would think two people who experienced something in history together, like World War II, would have a connection.

But, as someone who enjoys history, I ask you, Why can't a young person learn and understand how it happened? I can empathize with a person who experienced Kennedy's assassination. I can walk in their shoes, and understand how they felt. It's like saying a person who was born after 9/11 wouldn't know and understand how we all felt.

Perhaps when you listen to young people talk, listen to what they're saying instead of who's saying it.

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 1:19:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think that it's just ashame how many think that because of ones age being young has anything to do with being in the lifestyle or having anything to do with being not so how do i word this some older people in the lifestyle sometimes think that the younger ones don't understand or don't know anything or sometimes you older folks are just more uptight at times
but not always the case but sometimes that is how it is

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 1:26:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		ok for example if shot your cat for peeing on my lawn and brought it to you and said here is your damn cat. all the hurt anger and would felt by you. now someone who does not own that cat listening to that story could not relate to all those things cause it would a third party feeling. they would have some empathy but not all the other emotions or connections. unless someone did that to their cat they you would have a common felt thread. your going to see lines drawn there is a natural order to things. it is going be really interesting to see what happens to people in tne years

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 1:31:35 PM   
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ok for example if shot your cat for peeing on my lawn and brought it to you and said here is your damn cat. all the hurt anger and would felt by you. now someone who does not own that cat listening to that story could not relate to all those things cause it would a third party feeling.

Sure they could. Everyone has been hurt by something or someone at some time or another. It may not feel exactly the same but yes they can relate to it.
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they would have some empathy but not all the other emotions or connections. unless someone did that to their cat they you would have a common felt thread. your going to see lines drawn there is a natural order to things. it is going be really interesting to see what happens to people in tne years

People always change and grow. Everyone does, even though at 50 and 60 people have lots and lots of learning to do. That's the beautiful thing about life.

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RE: Invite to the under 30's crowd - 9/6/2007 1:34:23 PM   
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ok for example if shot your cat for peeing on my lawn and brought it to you and said here is your damn cat. all the hurt anger and would felt by you. now someone who does not own that cat listening to that story could not relate to all those things cause it would a third party feeling. they would have some empathy but not all the other emotions or connections. unless someone did that to their cat they you would have a common felt thread. your going to see lines drawn there is a natural order to things. it is going be really interesting to see what happens to people in tne years


What do you think empathy is? I even looked it up to make sure I understood its meaning.

em·pa·thy       (ěm'pə-thē)  Pronunciation Key 
n.  
  • Identification with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives. See Synonyms at pity.
  • The attribution of one's own feelings to an object.Now, from my understanding of your post, you just proved my point. If I heard someone's cat was shot, I would be able to empathize with them. Not only because something like that has happened to me, but because I have that ability.

    True, some people don't. But empathy doesn't know age. I'm 21. I can empathize. But I'm sure there are older people who can't. Or refuse to.....


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