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ORIGINAL: SmokingGun82
To bring it on topic, I have a fair amount of experience in quite a few areas of WIITWD. Nowhere would I really say "Oh, I'm super awesome at that," if only because self-promotion isn't really my style.
If you were super awesome at say, wax play, and met a sub who was looking for someone super awesome at wax play for a scene, would you admit your skill in that area under that circumstance? I'm super awesome at needle play but I don't consider it self-promotion to say so because I'm not looking to play with anyone. I'm very particular about who's blood I'll spill, so, to me, it's just a general statement and subjective at that because someone else out there might think that I'm 'not' super awesome at needle play. (They'd be wrong.  )
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Well, that and there's always something else to learn, or think about, or a new technique to try... at least for me. I think BDSM is a lot like any other area of life in at least one respect: no matter how good you are at something, there's someone who's better. Of course, there's one exception to this in every case.
Best is going to be as subjective as mediocre, actually. What I think is best might not be what you think is best and vice-a-versa. Do you believe that you can be super awesome at something and still be learning about it? I sure do and that just means that, eventually, I can be mega-super awesome. 
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The things I like about being 25 is that, one 18 year olds aren't "too young" for me yet ;) .
I know that's tongue in cheeky, but it does point out in a very definitive way how society feels about age gaps. 25 and 18, it's all good. 65 and 18 and let's lynch an old fart. 
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Or, more seriously, there seems to be, in my experience, a more open nature to our generation. I'm not saying everyone over 30/35 is close-minded, or that no one under 30/35 is. It just seems to me that there are more people close to my age that are willing to have fun with someone and go their seperate ways than in other age ranges- or maybe I'm just not attractive to older women, which could be skewing my data.
I think being open-minded coupled with being willing to do stuff just for shits and giggles does lay, mainly in the bailiwick of the young and might have something to do with the fear factor. When you're younger you can tend to feel immortal. You have all the time in the world and nothing can harm you, so jump in with both feet and fuck the consequences. As you age, you realize that all that shit you did as a youngster shoulda killed your ass, so you tend to tred a bit more cautiously knowing just how very mortal you truly are. I can't say that I disagree with the concept as a gross generalization with the cavaet that there are going to be exceptions.
One of those exceptions is someone who has been participating in BDSM for a few decades and goes to more and more extremes to get those same endorphin flows, kinks or thrills they seek. They've tried so many of the middle bell curve activities that all that's left is what remains on the end. In that instance, I'd say an open mind is going to be imperative if you want to taste all that this life has to offer and having a few decades of adult life experience under your belt might make one more readily able to mental meet some challenges than their younger counter-parts. Again, there are going to be a great many exceptions to that as well.
Thanks for the interesting post, SmokingGun. It was exactly what I was hoping for when I started this thread.
Celeste
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