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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 11:29:47 AM   
Aileen68


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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 11:31:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mmb1

Yes, that is all a big help to her!  I get so angry when people treat beginners like that, I did not say sugarcoat it, i said, you can be less harsh and honest and SUPPORT her in a kind way! But obviously, that is not happening, so.........go on and bash!


Why is it that you see frank and honest advice as "bashing"?

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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 11:32:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		My Master and I do a lot of talking via IM's our 'rule' is, I am to wait 5 minutes after my last post to Him before I log off or go on to other things. If there are things I am feeling I speak with Him directly sometimes I will email Him with concerns... I know He reads it.. therefore He is aware of whatever it is ... if He did not respond to specific things that were an obvious issue, or if things did not change... I would move on because as so many have stated it would not seem as if He cared.

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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 11:33:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mmb1

Yes, that is all a big help to her!  I get so angry when people treat beginners like that, I did not say sugarcoat it, i said, you can be less harsh and honest and SUPPORT her in a kind way! But obviously, that is not happening, so.........go on and bash!


My apologies..I see the truth clearly.

OP,
I am sorry that you are so frustrated that you own an enuch of a Master, never fear tho, I have been cut and shooting blanks is a pretty good simulation.  I think that mewling and puking in public as well as an entire profile dedicated to the mewling and puking of this guy will, at some distant future point prove to be the Balm of Gilead for your broken soul, and you will forgive this man for taking you in, since it must be his dastardly nature alone, and your innocencense and  girlish naivete that has led to this state of affairs, dare I say it?  ALL MEN ARE DICKS, and plot to ensnare little pissflaps round the clock.  You must away you to a nunnery.

Ron

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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 11:36:49 AM   
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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 12:38:49 PM   
slaveish


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Status: offline 		You say you are brand new to being a submissive. It shows.

Denouncing your Dom's behavior in a public way (your journal) and telling everyone who reads it that he has no balls would be enough for me to believe that you are quite a dramatic handful and his ignoring you is justified.

I don't know all the details, obviously, but I'm old and don't really need to. Your behavior, young lady, leaves something to be desired. If you want to submit, lesson one is to mind your manners. A little decorum will go a long way.

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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 3:52:03 PM   
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Or leave.  Pick one.


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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 4:48:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyStray

In my world a man who can't be trusted is a man on his way out the door.



Welcome to the boards Stray....   look forward to seeing more of you here.

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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 4:56:19 PM   
MadRabbit


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If I want to punch her in the face after reading all three pages of this thread, do I fall into that 5% category of the "wrong hands"?



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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 5:10:12 PM   
SusanofO


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Status: offline 		If he has actually discussed whatever the problem is with you, and you just don't like his answer, or he has decided that it's not an issue that you need to approve of his way of handling, and you're in a D/s relationship, then I agree with most others here - that is just the nature of D/s, and it's just tough. Decide to handle it, or leave.

However - on another note - if you are complaining that he is not particularly prone to want to be a decent communicator in general, then I will say that - 

IMO, there are some people who just have no desire to ever improve their communication skills, no matter who it hurts.

Whether it is a D/s relationship or not, if he is just a poor communicator, is slightly beside the point. If he lacks communication skills in general, then his answer to you wanting to discuss whatever you view as problems, is likely going to be along the lines of: "That's your problem - because X_________(insert problem for discussion here) doesn't bother me at all, so it's not at all important".

If he simply won't discuss anything, or aknowledge you have a right to your own POV (regardless  of whether or not he agrees), the relationship might well go downhill fast.

There are people who seem to think that simply because it is a D/s relationship, this means there will be no need to ever communicate with the submissive (or Dom, take your pick) or solve any issues together, and that IMO is a silly and naive assumption, and my guess is, they are going to be sorely disappointed, if that is what they expect.

While I can agree a D/s relationship requires a submissive to submit, if a Dominant, IMO, never ever listens to anything you have to say, and you are very discontent and he doesn't seem to care at all, then, IMO, it is very possible you're with the wrong guy. 

I can appreciate someone being quiet, and a "loner" but - IMO, there is a point beyond which this can become very tedious for a partner.

If he cannot recognize he has a deficit in this area (and if you are not the only one who thinks this) - if others have also at some time suggested this possibility to him (that he has a lack of communication skill) - and he's chosen to do nothing about it (it's not like a disease, he can improve on this if he wants - he may never be a gregarious party animal, but he could learn to hold a conversation beyond a grunt, or beyond answering: "Yeah, fine, whatever").

If he refuses to take your bringing this up in any serious way, and shows no effort to remedy the situation... 

Then it might be time to move on and find someone new.

Because in the long run, if you desire true companionship (D/s or no D/s), someone like this just doesn't cut the mustard, IMO.

- Susan

< Message edited by SusanofO -- 9/6/2007 5:58:08 PM >

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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 5:24:26 PM   
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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 7:02:28 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		I have read your journal to your Sir..It seems to me as if there are issues going on, that you have not given or clarified..because, as you have said, he signs out instead of talking with you..when someone signs out rather than talking with someone, it creates a question of why?..I am not getting a feeling that you are a total innocent in what is happening in your relationship. And frankly, he could very well be punishing you..of course when he sees this thread and your journal..this question may be fully moot..You have much to learn...my best advice would be to not leap so quickly into a relationship...rather learn, become more savvy,more informed,,frankly more everything, before you decide to go into another D/s dynamic..at least the next time you may not be in the throes of submissive frenzy...Tempting

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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 7:13:42 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Estring

He is not ignoring you. He probably has at least one other cyber relationship going, and it's probably going better than the one with you. While you wait around for him to pay attention to you, he is happily paying attention to someone else. How long will you be a chump? 


only one ???   ya right  !!  

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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 7:32:29 PM   
kc692


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ORIGINAL: fifi

Yeah it would be funny if it was a joke. But I'm sick and tired of being treated like a doormat. Yes I'm fiesty deal with it. I love being submissive, I love pleasing people (yes a general term, family, friends, lovers etc) I will do anything I can to make everyone elses live fun,easier, enjoyable.

But I will not take being ignored for no reason, I will not take trying to talk to 'someone' who refuses to join in and just signs out. How do you work through problems when the other person just keeps on running away?

And before all you masters out there jump down my throat, as far as I'm aware I'm not being punished. So I count this kind of behaviour as down right rude and disrespectful. Funny how if it was a submissive acting like this they would be punished, but when its a dom, a submissive has to take it as part of the kinky lifestyle. I'm sorry, NO! Manners and treatment of human beings does not stop just because your a Dom.

God! if you can't tell already, I'm seriously angry. How do I get past this and communicate with this person, when they just continually shut down? I've explained how I felt in an email, in a nice, controlled, way. (Not like I am now-yeah I have anger issues I hear you bellow!) I do all that is asked of me, and get nothing in return, just empty promises. I have no problem doing these things either, but I draw the line when for the x's amounts of time I do everything that is asked of me, and what is promised in return never, ever materialises.

Whats a girl to do with master like this?





I realize I have only read approximately 3 answers so it may have already been caught, but in your journal on 8/10 you are raving about a Chili and on 9/6 you are bitching about a Matt....same person, or 2 different dominants in a month????Just asking....

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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 8:54:14 PM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		Take it as a sign that a breakdown in communication has occured. Tell your partner that you both need to talk asap. If he won't then move on and learn from your experiences.
 
Begging for attention is something that some top-types get off on, and from your post you sound a LOT like me, fiesty, spritied and NOT affraid to speak up; so my advice to one fisty/sprited bottom-type to another, if your partner won't communicate with you, move on; their are other partners out there who WILL be an adult and communicate, no use in waiting around.

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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 9:13:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Cumslt4U

He is ignoring you because you are acting like a c***.


I think this is the answer that really fits.


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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 9:34:48 PM   
umisprite


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Status: offline 		fifi, do I properly recall a post a week or so ago in which you similarly ranted about your Master not communicating and you not knowing what was going on and how he was a piece of crap...only to come back to say it was all a misunderstanding and all was cool? Is this the same guy? If so honey you may want to reassess this entire situation. It is not making you happy. It sucks to be played. It sucks to be taken advantage of. But only you can put a stop to it. Think about what you really want in your life and then make it happen.

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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 9:37:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: fifi

Whats a girl to do with master like this?




I'm not going to try to say who is right or wrong here. I don't know either of you. But there is a time and a place for everything, and some things need to be said in private. Ask advice here. Vent if you must, but spouting off in a public journal post and disrespecting your s/o (I won't refer to him as your Master because you haven't even met him yet.) wouldn't get you ignored by Me, it would get you tossed to the curb so fast your head would spin. Regardless of the nature of the relationship...D/s, vanilla, whatever.

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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 9:54:50 PM   
rmanrr


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Status: offline 		Greetings
replying to your original post without reading any responses. 1. is it online only? if so walk away, get released and find someone who is a fit for you. 2. is it real time? see #1's answer.


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RE: Master has no balls.... - 9/6/2007 10:23:09 PM   
arayofsunshine55


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ORIGINAL: agirl

 You've known the guy for a matter of weeks, less than a month, not even 32 days... ( if I've read your journal correctly)........What relationship are you talking about?

agirl

Jesus.  If you all need therapist and an intervention via cyber at 1 month you both need to get a grip.  If you aren't enjoying yourself why bother.  Goodness you haven't know each other enough to get up a good head of steam over something.  anything which has been happening has not been happening for very long. 

I think you do need to take a real hard look at yourself, what you want, how you relate, etc.  Otherwise I fear you are destined to have many of these interactions and be one more angry woman complaining about doms.


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