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LadyHugs -> RE: Whips and 'Accidents' (9/7/2007 10:15:04 PM)
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Dear Elegant, Ladies and Gentlemen;
I am one that feels ALL tools used can be instruments to injury--accidental or not.
I was a victim to a 'know it all' male Dominant, to which had a single tail and came into the seating area off the dungeon floor. He snapped semi-empty plastic cups of beer showing off. One sailed and landed on my leather dress ruining it and beer splattered on me and my guest from out of town. Not one peep of an apology and no offers to help clean up his own mess. This is when single tails were the newest fad. Next weekend this same chap cracking his whip started into the social area once again and I said to him, to please go back to the dungeon floor. He said, "I know how to handle whips ..what are you afraid of? That you might get hurt?" While saying this--he has been flipping his whip about--inches from people's faces--they're moving in a hurry. Now, I start standing and I am ready to snatch the single tail out of his hands next throw my direction. I remember three board members from BR, at the time rush and lifted him up and carried him away from my reach, they took the single tail away from him so fast it made his mind swim. He was immediately banned. One of the biggest board members came back and said... "Hugs..I never seen you like that before--it was scary and if that was just your annoyed mode--I hope never to see you angry."
This chap did later move down to Williamsburg, Virginia and had reports he was nothing less than rude, crude and full of bull pies stacked high. Most of all, he created his own reputation on being dangerous.
Another incident, was with a heavy masochist I Topped. A female Dominant went to hit on him without real negotiations and beat him up rather bad. The masochist was bruised, beaten and vowed never to let the woman touch him again. Her reputation has always been bad, injuring many--some hospitalized. She does profess to be an expert yet, she could not flog a small male or hit target spots with any consistancy. I really do believe not enough is done to distinguish between artful, skillful and anatomy friendly whip and or impact skills verses just beating the royal 'snot' out of someone. It is my opinion that lack of skill should not be guised under S&M. However, that is what is happening from what I am seeing in my area.
In giving presentations, mentoring and demonstrations in different capacities; I also advise that other than impact dangers there are things that ruin scenes like equipment failure. I've seen whips come apart, snaps shatter due to some flaw, canes shatter/splinter, connecting brads come loose or exposed, etc. It pays to inspect the bondage furniture as well as the impact toys/tools one uses. It isn't the toys/tools/equipment we use that is the problem --it is the humans who are using them. There is little mention of collateral damage, when whips stray off target or people stray into them and or equipment failure, such as handle and tails of whips separate and launch on a journey beyond any's control.
Accidents will happen, even to the best of technical whip masters. I've seen Bob Deegan, Joe Wheeler and others have mishaps. Knowing accidents and or mishaps can/may/will/could happen--it is taking preventative steps to lower the risks that takes time but, worth for both parties (Top/bottom, Dominant/submissive and or M/s) to inspect their tools and or equipment. Cuffs, whips, canes--everything should be inspected for flaws, trouble spots and or wear, weakness and get them repaired or replaced; instead of assuming they will last forever.
For me, I have novices stay put as they practice their single tail techniques. I move a target as to give them aim and also different depths. The time is right for a human, I have the bottom back into the single tail and adjust their position as to be right on target for the bottom/sub's sake and this way the Dom can see a visual portrait of what their distance and target zones should look like. From "Eastcoast and Westcoast" styles of whip work-- each has their gains and draw backs. Each person learns at different paces, so it pays to be patient.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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