azsub1
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It saddens me when i hear about how when a Domme agrees to give a submissive a chance to serve, only to find out that the person isn't into it at all, is just looking for kinky sex, or even just getting off on writing back and forth.
This is especially troubling for some such as myself. All too often i hear about how One will give a sissy/male maid a chance, only to find out all they want to do is play dress up. This problem seems fairly common, common enough that there's probably a fair amount of Dommes out there that won't have anything to do with crossdressers or have given up on service slaves.
It's the wannabees, the ones who take this stuff lightly or go at it half assed (picture gorilla in pantyhose.) that make things incredibly difficult for those who are sincere.
I've been trying to come up with a solution to such behavior and sort the wheat from the chaff, as it were.
Now we all know bdsm contracts can't be legally enforced and aren't recognized by any govermental agency as valid.
I was thinking, what about community enforcement?
What if there was a community registry or group where you could not only list the no-shows and those who misrepresent themselves, but you could look at ahead of time to see if the person who is contacting you is a time waster.
Above and beyond that, what if you could register "service agreements" there. The nature and length of the agreement would be spelled out. Community enforcement would come in the form of blacklisting. The length of time blacklisted would be spelled out right in the agreement.
If enough people in the community got on board and honored the wishes of the community as well as the agreement entered willingly by two adults, then a submissive who chooses not to honor an agreement would do so with the knowledge that for a period of time, no other dominant would have anything to do with them, and they would have willingly agreed to this penalty ahead of time. Of course once that period of blacklisting was over, the one blacklisted would have to be welcomed back into the fold without contempt or prejudice. They've done their time, paid their debt to the society as it were, and should be welcomed back with open arms.
As an example, i enter a 3 month service agreement. The nature and length of the agreement is announced by a mailing, or posting to a board. The agreement states that if broken, i agree to be blacklisted for a year.
Now if i break the agreement, and the one who i entered it with posts that it's been broken within the time it is supposed to be in effect, i know i will find it difficult or impossible to find another Domme who will have anything to do with me for the next year.
The only one who could lift the blacklisting is the one who announced the agreement as broken, so my only options would be to work it out with them, or suffer through what would be a very long year.
Think something like this would work? Any suggestions or improvements to the basic concept? Any thoughts on how to implement such a thing?
Would you sign on to such a thing?
< Message edited by azsub1 -- 9/12/2007 5:14:36 PM >
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