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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

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ORIGINAL: TheIronHorse

I am paraphrasing a subbie profile I see from time to time:

"...you will have been mentored by a prominant male dominant in the local BDSM community, you will have participated regularly and openly at private and public events..."

At first glance it might not be too off the mark, but this sub in particular seeks some sort of instant perfection. 

Real relationships are all trial and error.  As was said in a thread elsewhere, be skeptical of one who keeps calling others fakes all the time. 

Geez...with standards like that, I hope she is really good at sucking cock.

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

Except that in these forums we see evidence of the exact sort of thing we are talking about. We hear all the time about masters and mistresses who bitched subs/slaves out for not sending money or meeting strangers in dangerous places.

Why shouldn't I believe that they would skew the ratings on such a site?

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ORIGINAL: Maya2001

You would scare off a lot of newbies who maybe seeking to explore if this is something they are interested in, often people enter into not really sure if this is for them, if a dom comes on to strong they may get scared off or chicken out at the last minute, but may be fine with the next person they contact because of how the person comes across.
part of the lifestyle is about forming relationships and clicking with the other person  if you don't feel a connection with the other person you are not going to want to be bound by a contract  regardless whether you are the sub or dom, believe me as a sub I sure as heck do not want  to forced to stay in contract to a wantabe dom .  There are players on both sides  for example I heard of on CD being taken in by a Domme, charged a fee and then he was given an address to meet her, only it was not her place, it ended up at a home of a family with little children, he was horribly embarassed trying to explain what he was doing knocking on their door.  Players do not just exist on bdsm sites they also are on vanilla dating sites as well, it simply comes with the territory, out of my own emails I estimate only 8% are legitimate doms most others are just players looking for kinky sex.  I maybe a newbie as a sub but am and old timer in the dating scene so can pick out the players probably a lot faster then many true newbies are,
even one who considered themselves to be pro dom who contacted me wanting to offer his services directing me to their website got a tongue lashing for trying to sell his services to a sub that is collared and was stated clearly in the profile at the time. which showed a clear lack of professionalism and protocol, if a another uncollared sub had come to me to tell they signed for services with this dom I would highly try to steer them away from that dom 

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ORIGINAL: Ladybugs

Dear azsub1, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Although dealing with wannabes, which are not the same as 'want to be,' to attempt to make some sort of black list is dangerous territory indeed.
 
Unfortunately, if there is a broad brush stroke of who to ban and or start as a vigilante justice system, it will be subjected to abuse--it becomes a clique, a popularity contest and a power game called control, domineering and or politics.  In addition, I know a few who want to dictate who is 'entitled' to be called Master and or slave in Washington, DC area -- that person is setting a dangerous standard because it is 'one' person's standard who wants to make everybody fit his picture of what is a True/Real Master.  Problem is, he cannot keep slaves long so--as a Dominant, I must ask why I want this man who cannot practice what he preaches--dictate over other people on how they define themselves and or what is deemed Master-slave.
I've seen people black listed because they don't kiss the power person's behind.  Some live through groups and cannot manage an independent life -- If we restrict too much beyond what we have now--I can say that --although it is wishful thinking, a wonderful idea--people will skew the honorable intentions into something that is evil and promotes further division, prejudices and unfair treatment based more on personal views of what right and or wrong is.
I do not wish to empower the ones who have designs on determining who is true and or real and who is phony and or wannabes, especially when I know it isn't for the best for the whole of us--more of a single person's insecurities and being an attention vampire that has gotten fat and needs to be fatter like a tick sucking blood--is looking for more ways to control and demand attention, as this person has grand opinions of himself--to me, this person is more of a threat than wannabes and wankers --at least they are easy to spot.  The dangers are from within more often than not.  I do not wish to be swept into a dictatorship by a selected few--nor should it be tolerated.
 
Power corrupts as it has been written and warned about for many decades.  It can do the same within the context of BDSM, D/s and or M/s as well.  Giving selected people within the community such power--will corrupt those selected people and exclude people that might be the very epitome of a good relationship.
 
Just some thoughts.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

This is a different context though. We're not talking about a professional service or reviewing a book.

We're talking about intimate relationships where what went on is only known between 2 peoples and the reviewer is a person who is quite possibly subjective and biased based on distorted perspective from emotions and built up resentment.