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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/18/2005 6:01:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

When your body is screaming in pain at the hands of your Dominant and your mind is telling you to get yourself out of there and you know that all you really need to do is call out that safe word...you make a concious and intentional choice to surrender. It absolutely is an act and not a state of being.


That's just it though - that conscious and intentional choice, repeated, adds up to the a state of character.

Just as the woman who forms a habit of just actions can be said to be in a state of character: "justice," so to does the woman who forms a habit of surrender be said to be in a state of character: "submission."

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/19/2005 12:42:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Gemeni

The least attractive are those who *imagine* themselves to be at a certain point-but are not. And then spend a lot of dramatic energy in trying to convince themselves and others that they ARE.

If you have to shout it,you probably aren't.
Be yourself-others will see who you are.
Masks are easy to see through.


Gemeni you peddle the same stuff in almost every thread I see you in and I’m calling you on it.

Look at the bolded text above. Then look at what precedes it in your post:
quote:


… I feel that people are essentially animals who can think in abstracts. They are born with certain ingrained wiring that causes them to react to thier enviornments (sic) in differing ways. But the overriding instinct is *to survive.*

So self interest is inherent and will always out as a key priority. When one begins to describe virtue/anti-virtue-these are societal constructs. They have little to do with the basic animal, except in relation to how it gets along with other animals.

Ethics and morals are merely ways to serve one's self interests without stepping on the interests of others too hard. They ameliorate the effects of the rapacity of the human animal on others. BUT, they are learned behavoirs that are enforced by peer and police actions-not inherent.


This is a common theme with your postings since I signed up here. You alternate between expounding upon your personal ethical theory in one breath and decrying ethical theories across the board in the next. And you don’t seem to ever notice that you are propounding an ethical theory. Some bible-thumpers quote Ezekial and Matthew as if they were reading numbers off of a barometer. You toss around theoretical claims as if they were objective descriptions of the world.

Your stated ethical theory components include:

1. I feel that people are essentially animals who can think in abstracts
(sincere praise to you for the uncharacteristic "I feel" preface)

2. They are born with certain ingrained wiring that causes them to react to thier enviornments (sic) in differing ways

3. the overriding instinct is *to survive.*

4. self interest is inherent and will always out as a key priority

5. … virtue/anti-virtue-these are societal constructs

6. They have little to do with the basic animal, except in relation to how it gets along with other animals.
(an exceedingly thin theoretical claim, but another theoretical claim just the same.)

7. Ethics and morals are merely ways to serve one's self interests without stepping on the interests of others too hard.

8. they [ethics] are learned behavoirs (sic)

9. that [ethics] are enforced by peer and police actions-not inherent.


When you define ethics as behaviors, by the way, I can’t tell if it is just sloppy writing or if the thinking is that sloppy and the writing accurately representative. Ethics=behaviors? Look up the words, Gemeni. Ethics has crucially to do with behaviors but it just doesn’t make sense in English to say that ethics, nor morals, are behaviors any more than to say that leashes are dogs.

Some other things point to the sloppy thinking hypothesis.

Rampant question begging. A penchant for reductive argumentation (which has it’s useful applications but is a mere parlor game if applied beyond those bounds--as you apply it.) Incoherence (in the technical sense) of your argumentation.

You are expounding upon an ethical theory in the quote above and apparently not noticing the fact that you are doing so. This is a pretty astounding miss.

Some of the components collected in the list above are scientifically rather than strictly ethically theoretical but they serve as premises for your theory and so are proper parts of it.

You seem to post about your ethical theory almost every day. A key—anyway a frequently featured—component of your ethical theory is that ethical theories, across the board, are claptrap. "Claptrap" is, I believe, a quote from you in another thread which I won’t bother to look up now. You were more delicate in your statement of this claim in the above post, but no more coherent than usual when taken in context. This time you said: "Ethics and morals are merely ways to serve one's self interests without stepping on the interests of others too hard."

And so your theory—the one you didn’t seem to notice your were offering--eats its tail, or maybe its head.
Your theory by the way is a half-baked layout of a run-of-the-mill determinist consequentialist pragmatism of a sort that as far as I know gets no special attention from people who study these things seriously.

If the claim Which I just quoted (#7 from the list) is correct then there is no reason whatever to look for truth in any of the other numbered items in the list. That is not just me offering the opinion that it is pointless to look for truth in your theory. The claim that it is pointless to look for truth in your theory is inescapably implied BY your theory.

It goes like this:

The other numbered items are part of your ethical theory.

Your ethical theory says that ethical theories are "merely ways to serve self interest, etc."

That is to say that according to your own view you do not make any of your ethical claims in order to state anything true or to gain or share understanding or anything of the sort. Rather, you make them "merely" to serve your self interests (oh and this wavers between actual and perceived self interest as you bat this around day after day.)

So: according to your own account we should discount what you say as being utterly uninterested in truth, accuracy, verisimilitude, etc. Your fingers—subject to their animal nature--type these words out of self interest.

Your theory entails, in short, that your theory should be disregarded.

But you apparently haven’t even been aware that you are propounding a theory, as indicated by your frequent refrain that ethics is crap for the weak or stupid. You seem unable tell theoretical claims from statements of fact, from statements of opinion.

You post this sort of incoherent stuff day after day, Gemeni. Then you spout off with the World Weary Intellectual Among the Philistines stuff, like:

quote:


The least attractive are those who *imagine* themselves to be at a certain point-but are not. And then spend a lot of dramatic energy in trying to convince themselves and others that they ARE.

If you have to shout it,you probably aren't.
Be yourself-others will see who you are.
Masks are easy to see through.


Gemeni, maybe you are sincere and bright and just terribly, terribly poorly schooled or intellectually slovenly. Hey, some people find slovenliness an endearing trait. I’m not offering a moral judgment of you but rather a critical appraisal of your posts. Are you aware that you are making a spectacle of yourself with moves like talking about "people who imagine themselves to be something they aren’t" and who spend a lot of dramatic energy trying to sell the lie? An ironic and sad spectacle if it is anything more than funny. And I hope it is. I hope that you are sincere.

Your own closing three-line imprecation is aimed at you, friend. Listen to yourself. Make no mistake: saying it over and over day after day is as obvious as shouting. I am personally no great shakes as an intellect and I know that is true because I’ve spent a lot of time with the real thing, enough time to learn to recognize it when I see it. That said, an adjunct instructor teaching Intro to Critical Thinking at a junior college could use your posted argumentation to illustrate the second half of a list of Do’s and Dont’s. I'll bet you are at least as smart as as I am and maybe smarter, but your writing and so apparently your thinking is wildly haphazard.

I’m not addressing your character. You may be a good guy. I don’t have the basis to judge. I am criticizing your logic and reasoning as it is presented in posts.

I have not talked down to you in this post but rather eye-to-eye; man to man. I have addressed your chronic failures of reasoning with concrete examples chosen from a broad array of possibilities. These are not subjective judgments. Anyone sufficiently trained in reasoning who read your posts carefully would see the same errors.

I encourage you to state your opinions as such. You are entitled to them. Nothing entitles you to state them as self-evident truisms, however. Rein this in and your credibility will rise as a result.

I encourage you to pay attention to the distinction between theoretical claims vs. personal observations vs. statements of objective fact. This will make you less pedantic automatically and I’ll bet that taking this extra care will result in your noticing some of your howling errors of reasoning before they are committed to print. This again will raise your credibility but perhaps more important it can result in the benefit to you of a clearer view of the world you are considering and of yourself as a part of it.


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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/19/2005 7:47:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Noah

Your own closing three-line imprecation is aimed at you, friend. Listen to yourself. Make no mistake: saying it over and over day after day is as obvious as shouting.


I think that's the heart of the matter. Terry is in such good company with regard to logical and rhetorical errors that he doesn't deserve to be singled out - you could have the same thing about 70% of the posters here.

What is significant, and painful for me to witness is the incessant, never-ending, unitigated, unremmitting, ceaseless chest pounding and self-aggrandization. Every single post (and there is a veritable fountain of them) serves an interest: self-reassurance.

Sure, we are all guilty of this from time to time, and perhaps I am more guilty than many. But this perpetual stream of self-affirmation makes me wince as a man - I can't help but feel an exquistely painful sympathy.

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/19/2005 7:49:52 AM   
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I can see your points Noah,and I'll look into it.

I'm not trying to decry ethics as useless-just that people should not count on them as absolutes.

Lets face it, ethics ARE artificial constructs. I'm a student of history-and they have varied vastly in past human societies.

When I speak of the basic animal,look at how infants behave. The world centers around them and thier needs. They have to LEARN to how be taught to look past thier own interests. Ethical systems had to be evolved-they didn't just spring to light with the first human with enough brain capacity,did they?

Maybe I prefer to reduce things to essentials, rather than expound essays the way you do Noah. I'm not a psuedo intellectual who thinks he has the right to tell others how they should express themselves.

So I'm simply not as pendantic and picky as you are. I write what I feel and know from experience.

And I think perhaps my last three sentences could apply to you as much as anyone.

You protest and judge FAR too much sir-and it makes me wonder about you.

(And mo? You are still on ignore,don't bother to quote me-you are of no worth in my eyes-get over yourself)



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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/19/2005 8:22:30 AM   
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Ok - I may still be under your ignore button, Gemeni - ifso - I won't recieve a response hey - but out of interest - have you ever read any Ayn Rand? Just a little curious in discovering more about your understandings.

If you haven't - You might enjoy it...

Peace and Love


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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/19/2005 8:30:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Gemeni
(And mo? You are still on ignore,don't bother to quote me-you are of no worth in my eyes-get over yourself)


He still cares!!!!!








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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/20/2005 5:56:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: dark~angel

Ok - I may still be under your ignore button, Gemeni - ifso - I won't recieve a response hey - but out of interest - have you ever read any Ayn Rand? Just a little curious in discovering more about your understandings.

If you haven't - You might enjoy it...

Peace and Love



I was just watching "Heaven Can Wait" with my daughter, and Charles Grodin is talking to Mrs. Farnsworth - they think they've just murdered Leo Farnsworth, and as Sisk comes into the room he hisses, "Pick up The Fountainhead and pretend you're reading it."

OMFG I nearly died

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/21/2005 1:42:34 AM   
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Do you know if you get un-blocked? 'cause in other fourmns etc id say I blocked someone but really have not.

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/21/2005 2:41:21 AM   
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quote:

I was just watching "Heaven Can Wait" with my daughter, and Charles Grodin is talking to Mrs. Farnsworth - they think they've just murdered Leo Farnsworth, and as Sisk comes into the room he hisses, "Pick up The Fountainhead and pretend you're reading it."

OMFG I nearly died


Lol - I have never watched that - lol - the fountainhead is probably my least favourite anyways... I am not a Rand fan at all - just the philosophy seemed to meld with Gemeni... and thought He might be interested.

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/21/2005 2:50:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: imtempting

Do you know if you get un-blocked? 'cause in other fourmns etc id say I blocked someone but really have not.


I cannot answer about any other forums but, No - not here. As far as I know you can't see if you are blocked by someone or not - it just means they can't see your posts. Personally, I never block anyone - I might miss something valuable to learn from, even if it's something I don't like or agree with. Ignorance leads people to block - fear - people needing to be self assured and who cannot stand being disagreed with - (and thats not a personal attack on anyone, people who know me realise that, just my personal opinion - geez, aren't disclaimers great?) Just because someone may be blocking, one does not have to participate in their behaviours, especially when you might have something that they may find usage in. And like you say, some people claim to block but actually don't - so I never ignore anyone - it is just unkind in my opinion. I would rather be open to all ideas and people, than live in my own closed world.

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/21/2005 3:34:57 PM   
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There were one or two racists on b.com whom I blocked because I got tired of their crap and was sure I wasn't going to "learn" anything from them.

I haven't blocked anyone on CM. Usually when someone is offensive here, the mods step in and restore order. And I don't think they would tolerate racism for an instant.

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/21/2005 7:08:44 PM   
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Faramir I think your Aristotle talk brought something worthwhile to this discussion of kink.

The notion of forming and even reforming one’s character seem to me to describe something real and it is something that is manifested in BDSM in my opinion. On it's face this may be seen as at odds with the "hard-wired" people and the "Born (top or bottom" people but I wonder the apparent opposition isn't the whole story. I suspect so but I haven't thought it through.

I don’t know if it comes straight from Bill Wilson but the AA notion of "Fake it ‘til you make it" strikes me as a concise modern interpretation of this Arototelian idea. Of course this thread began with a question about what the "it" is or may be for various people but I like this turn in the conversation (credit for which should actually go to tabularasa I think, though I didn’t see anyone cite the part of her post where she brings this up.)

The turn I’m talking about is a sort of operational one, I guess. I suppose I had in mind when I started the thread a desire for answers in conceptual or emotional terms to the questions of what it is about if it isn’t about acts. But these comments from tabularasa and you and maybe others point out that beside any response in terms of what, say, submission is "about" conceptually or emotionally it is fine to address—well not so much technique as in this one or that one but a bigger view of a picture that might be labeled: "How Does This D&S Thing Work?". How in some big sense does BDSM/submission/dominance, operate for an individual?

So this seems worth pursuing either here or in a thread of its own. A great first thing to say is what you have pointed out with your Aristotle parallel. To a very significant extent, it seems to me, repeated mindful engagement in activity with another is pretty critical. Reading is fine, but this could be done without any reading. Dreaming is fine, and I think good and can make a positive contribution when it accompanies action, but doing it, mindfully and with a degree of sense of responsibility is pretty big. I personally would want to define activity very broadly here.

A brief aside: you offered on Aristotle’s behalf: "we can only call those acts that are done voluntarily, with conscious understanding, good or bad." I wonder if this was cited by any of the defendants at Nuremburg or lesser, similar trials.

The Nicomachean Ethics makes some useful distinctions but taken as a piece I think it presents a crippled view of goodness. Read the story of the Good Samaritan in light of Aristotle. Aristotle’s view tries to make the Samaritan a schmuck. And I can’t see him as such.

But you aren’t recommending Aristotle’s ethics in general but rather offering a certain parallel which as I've said I think is worth considering.


So maybe we can now say that one of things it is about besides acts (particular acts like this or that one) is a way of using particular acts, sort of systematically, to, what? cultivate and develop a certain desire or tendency? So this bit can be explored.

I hope we aren’t done yet with hearing from people addressing the original question in terms of ideas and emotions. To restate the original open question: are there any ideas or emotions which are powerfully central or fundamental to your experience of submission or dominance. Perhaps so importantly that some of the other aspects of BDSM take their meaning through these, for you?

There are several likely suspects. No doubt each of us embodies some combination of these but again I’m asking if anyone feels that one or a few in particular are the lynch pin(s) of their personal experience.

* The raw exercise of power, administered or received. I certainly enjoy this.

* A sense of escape. One that might be deeper or more meaningful—or might not—than the escape found in watching sitcoms, reading novels, running marathons or what-have-you.

* A sense of belonging to a community and perhaps in particular a marginalized community
Subheadings would include:
*Chance to help or teach
*Chance to feel like a big fish in a small pond
*Milieu for expression of exhibitionism

And these are subheadings only according to one view. Any one of them could itself be cen*tral or fundamental to a given person’s experience.

* A license to hurt (top or bottom.) Maybe even a desire to hurt which has nothing to do with consent but which finds ready expression under the banner of SSC or RACK, etc.

*A shortcut or anyway a potentially very efficient route to intimacy (not that BDSM actions can’t be undertaken quite impersonally)

* The endorphin buzz

More please?

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/22/2005 1:50:33 AM   
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The notion of forming and even reforming one’s character seem to me to describe something real and it is something that is manifested in BDSM in my opinion. On it's face this may be seen as at odds with the "hard-wired" people and the "Born (top or bottom" people but I wonder the apparent opposition isn't the whole story. I suspect so but I haven't thought it through.


quote:

Bill Wilson but the AA notion of "Fake it ‘til you make it"


quote:

"How Does This D&S Thing Work?". How in some big sense does BDSM/submission/dominance, operate for an individual?


quote:

So maybe we can now say that one of things it is about besides acts (particular acts like this or that one) is a way of using particular acts, sort of systematically, to, what? cultivate and develop a certain desire or tendency? So this bit can be explored.

I hope we aren’t done yet with hearing from people addressing the original question in terms of ideas and emotions. To restate the original open question: are there any ideas or emotions which are powerfully central or fundamental to your experience of submission or dominance. Perhaps so importantly that some of the other aspects of BDSM take their meaning through these, for you?



I hope I can put my thoughts down clearly enough to be understood. I tend to think in emotional concepts and not words so it is often difficult for me to describe the concept.

I have been following this discussion with intense interest and the above quotes have really resonated within me. For me, there has always been something behind? guiding? the acts themselves that was much more important then the acts. I am Dominant whether I am doing something Dominant or not. I am Dominant even when I am actively suppressing that part of who I am. I have often examined this dicotomy and tried to analyze what was behind it.

When I discovered that BDSM existed there was a definate internal change that took place. It felt like I had finally been given "permission" to be the person I knew I was. I still had to "reform my character" to utilize this internal permission and to learn what me being Dominant would look like to myself and to the outside world. For the first few years I, in effect, "faked it" by acting in the way I believed internally was the way I wanted to act as a Dominant personality. I knew what my goal looked like but I also knew that my own insecurities stood between me and that goal. The goal of being fully Dominant was the goal of being who I was without pretending to be someone that I was not. It meant learning who I was and being free to express that.

I decided to aim for this goal and I made the goal an operational one. So what then does being Dominant mean to me outside of the acts themselves? What key emotional thing might stand as the identifying underlying paradigm for me? or....what interior emotional base of stability would I lose if somehow I could no longer be Dominant?

I need to be in control of my immediate environment. This is not the same as the raw exercise of power but similar. When I make a decision that affects the people in my environment (i.e. my spouse) I do not want an argument about it. I want my authority to be respected and honoured. I can compromise and I can discuss but I will no longer accept having to justify myself or my decisions to someone else.

Let's approach this from a different perspective. Why do I identify myself as Dominant? Part of that reason is because I have been treated as Dominant by my birth family. I decided what games and activities would be done. I was the one turned to when problems had to be solved. This could be identified as being a leader but I do not think that is all that was involved because I dislike leading. I do however stand on the sidelines and control what is going on that way.

What traits do I have that might be Dominant traits or that I identify within myself as contributing to me being Dominant? An active imagination that combines with an ability to think outside the box would be the first two. Those coupled with a delight in information and a mind that thinks in processes rather then discrete units. However, those traits alone do not explain why I am Dominant. Those traits could easily be within a submissive. I know that today I get treated as a Dominant because I carry myself like a Dominant. I expect to be treated in certain ways and that self-confidence shows and influences how I am treated. But that still begs the question of why I was Dominant 10 years ago or 40 years ago. Forty years ago I did not have that same level of self-confidence and yet I was still receiving the benefits of being treated as Dominant. So there must be something else in the mix.

Sidenote: I do not get a feeling of belonging from being involved in the BDSM community. I still feel outside the window peering in and wishing that I was a part of. The difference is that I no longer feel the need to be a part of. I am now complete even as I stand outside alone. This feeling surfaced when I identified as being Dominant and began living my life under that identification.

I hope that I have not muddied the waters too much here.

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/22/2005 6:02:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Noah

First of all, do you accept or reject the notion of, for lack of a better term, internal actions? I think that if you don't acknowledge the notion of internal actions you will end up having to give a tortured account of things like (much of) problem solving and also of decision making.


Hello again Noah.

Are thoughts 'Acts', or not? Personally, I could argue from either perspective. I don't believe either is a better, truer, more useful way of looking at those 'internal goings on' than the other. To me, they're philosophical alternatives, neither of which has a particular advantage over the other.

Now while I like a good debate about philosophical alternatives, and while this particular question (are thoughts Acts..?) is an interesting one, I'd really question whether or not that debate helps with the discussion we were having about the original premis ~ are external (the way I took it) actions value-free in themselves?

I'd still agree with that premis, and I find it interesting that (unless I've missed something) no-one has even attempted to argue that any particular Physical Act is, in itself, dominant or submissive.

But to go along with your argument for a while. IF we consider a thought/decision to be an Act, then can it be stated that all decisions are 'dominant'? Since who is to submit to, within our minds..?

But then one could argue that in all decision-making (if we're considering that decision-making is what happens in the mind when we change from one state to another ~ something else which is arguable) we 'submit' to something beyond our own consciousness ~ to instinct, or something else..? (therefore, all decisions are 'submissive' to 'something beyond').

And then we get to the position which I indicated in an earlier post ~ that the outcome of these types of questions is dependent on the model of the brain/reality/anything you care to mention that you are using in debating these questions. As I said earlier, these things are interesting, but what is liable to happen (and what has happened here) is that the debate becomes one of 'which model of the mind/brain/whatever do you subscribe to?' (Which is why your opening question came up).

Personally, unless there's a specific reason why we'd want to call internal Acts, 'Acts' (the specific reason here seemingly 'because it suits your thesis'? ), I would tend, in conversation, to stick with the usual division of Thoughts vs. Acts. Which interestingly, I think is the division you go on to use in most of the rest of your post... Most of which I've snipped because I see what you've written as an extended argument for championing one way of viewing the Thought-Act thing over the other.

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To describe the intention is not to describe the activity.


And vice versa, which is what I'm arguing .

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/22/2005 10:03:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GentleLady

I hope I can put my thoughts down clearly enough to be understood. I tend to think in emotional concepts and not words so it is often difficult for me to describe the concept.


GentleLady,

I really appreciate your input. I don't believe personally that a sort of "strictly" rational/logical analysis is bound to be more helpful than a more impressionistic, emotional account or a poem or a story.

Thanks so much for sharing the view from where you stand. I will be re-reading your post and considering how it compares and contrasts with my own experience and that of people I know and care especially about.

One observation that comes quickly to mind while reading your post is a contrast between how you describe the way you want to relate to the events surrounding you (to control them) on the one hand and the way I envision these things for myself. Rather than being in control of them in some fairly straightforward way I envision something more like, maybe, surfing on them, on the chaos when it is chaos. Or. when it is less chaotic (a good thing) I might describe it as sailing in the direction I want to go, with the crew I choose, on the waves and currents and amid the winds that prevail.

The metaphor isn't simple. Unlike in the case of sailing a boat I must deal as a dominant with winds and calms and currents and waves within myself and within those I travel with, as it were. It isn't as simple as commanding the trim of a ship and the actions of a crew to meet the exigencies that nature throws our way. But I like multi-layered things (check out my mullet) especially when the layers swirl and interact.

I think our experiences, yours and mine, and how our doings look to the objective observer might not differ so much, really. Even so I find that to best accomplish what I want to accomplish and explore what I want to explore I benefit from the image that "my" metaphor puts before me. This has to do with the notion of surrender which has been under discussion here. I see a need for surrender in the dominant as well as the submissive. I must surrender to the facts of the currents and storms and even the doldrum calms which can beset my partner, my self and our relationship. I have tried standing masterfully on the rail, ratline in one hand while shaking my other fist at the weather. It might be the weather within my partner or within myself or perhaps the emotional or even just the practical weather that surrounds us--like when the "world gets in the way." I had limited success with that method.

Once having surrenered to the facts, as it were, I am perhaps ironically in a much more powerful position to address those facts and my situation amid them, and plot my course forward.

Now maybe that aspect of things (surfing on the facts) is very intuitive for you and you don't even need to consciously address energy or attention to it, you just kind of do it. For me it was a place I had to get to, a reformation I needed to undergo.

From where I stand now it is nice in part because I can take pleasure in what "goes wrong," as well as what goes according to my intentions. Some of the time, anyway. Not that I don't believe that you perhaps can do the same on the route you travel but only describe it a little differently.

Thanks again for posting here.

Noah

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/22/2005 1:41:53 PM   
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Are thoughts 'Acts', or not? Personally, I could argue from either perspective. I don't believe either is a better, truer, more useful way of looking at those 'internal goings on' than the other. To me, they're philosophical alternatives, neither of which has a particular advantage over the other.

Now while I like a good debate about philosophical alternatives, and while this particular question (are thoughts Acts..?) is an interesting one, I'd really question whether or not that debate helps with the discussion we were having about the original premis ~ are external (the way I took it) actions value-free in themselves?


Ah but this is the rub, Elektra. The original question didn’t specify "external" acts so don’t you go trying to smuggle it in at that point.

Unless you want a spanking.

The OP and many subsequent posters including myself may have restricted their thinking to externals at first.

Then, one very insightful (to me) poster raised the spectre of a certain sort of internal act which might (or might not) by its very nature be submissive. If this wacky species exists, like the aquatic lizards of the Galapagos, should we refuse to see it because until the day Cooke (or Darwin or whomever) landed there it had been held as axiomatic that lizards were strictly terrestrial?

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I'd still agree with that premis, and I find it interesting that (unless I've missed something) no-one has even attempted to argue that any particular Physical Act is, in itself, dominant or submissive.

But to go along with your argument for a while. IF we consider a thought/decision to be an Act, then can it be stated that all decisions are 'dominant'? Since who is to submit to, within our minds..?

But then one could argue that in all decision-making (if we're considering that decision-making is what happens in the mind when we change from one state to another ~ something else which is arguable) we 'submit' to something beyond our own consciousness ~ to instinct, or something else..? (therefore, all decisions are 'submissive' to 'something beyond').


Sure, we could squeeze ourselves through those kinds of hoops but no one else here seems interested in them and you don’t seem to be either, really. So why don’t we provisionally mark them as probably not terribly fruitful and set them aside until something puts them before us as questions that might illuminate the original issue.

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And then we get to the position which I indicated in an earlier post ~ that the outcome of these types of questions is dependent on the model of the brain/reality/anything you care to mention that you are using in debating these questions. As I said earlier, these things are interesting, but what is liable to happen (and what has happened here) is that the debate becomes one of 'which model of the mind/brain/whatever do you subscribe to?' (Which is why your opening question came up).


I really don’t think so, Elektra. I don’t have to take recourse to any particular model of the mind/brain or of reality to note that we all commonly talk of decision-making, for instance, as an active process even though it doesn’t present the person standing nearby with any observable physical activity. Deciding is commonly spoken of as something we do, by Freudians, Jungians, Maslovians; by, Dualists, Monists, and people holding all sorts of models of brain function and/or reality.

No, I don’t see that much of anything here turns upon one’s preferred theory or model of mind or metaphysics.
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Personally, unless there's a specific reason why we'd want to call internal Acts, 'Acts' (the specific reason here seemingly 'because it suits your thesis'? ), I would tend, in conversation, to stick with the usual division of Thoughts vs. Acts. Which interestingly, I think is the division you go on to use in most of the rest of your post... Most of which I've snipped because I see what you've written as an extended argument for championing one way of viewing the Thought-Act thing over the other.


I tend in conversation to stick with expressions like "the sun came up" but I am ever so grateful to Copernicus and friends for their careful exposition of the sense in which I should acknowledge that it is more faithful to how things are to think in terms of the horizon going down.

Is there any specific reason to admit that some lizards spend a lot of time underwater? I can collect my paycheck without doing so. I am a great believer in endeavoring to see things as they are, first. Then, often, some further understanding arises based on that clarity. Sometimes, well, it was merely interesting. I don’t demand a special reason to see clearly before I’ll make the effort—and I’ll bet that in practice neither do you.

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To describe the intention is not to describe the activity.


And vice versa, which is what I'm arguing .


And arguing quite ably, dear. But some of us have noticed a lizard in the sea who doesn’t appear to be inert and belly up. There appears to some of us to be at least one action, an internal one like deciding or figuring, which is helpfully seen as necessarily submissive in at least one helpful sense.

Yes, any peak can be described as a valley. Any dog an be described as a (grossly deficient or quite superlative) cat. Mistoferin (I think) described the "act of surrender" as a rare and to some a beautiful exception to the general rule that all acts are value neutral. I offered the opinion that this description was insightful and very possibly helpful. To me it had that helpful smell, if you will.

You seemed to reply rather didactically that we should hush ‘cause "everybody knows that lizards live on land, beneath which the sun comes up every day."

As you have seen I share your inclination to be very much guided by how people generally talk. A lot can be shown that way. But ordinary language can embody, by a sort of bad habit, falsity, like the notion that the earth is fixed while the sun goes around it .

When we really look around, Elektra, does ordinary language really support your view more than the opposing one? I think that an awful lot of ordinary language depicts deciding and figuring, for instance, as "doing". That is to say as acting. And if deciding and figuring are commonly and helpfully seen as acts—as shown by ordinary language …

"What did you do then?"

"Well I did two things. I made up my mind, despite some reasons to doubt it, that this was more important than I had first imagined. Next I sat quietly and figured out a way to …."


… then might not surrendering (in the relevant sense) be seen as an act? And if so, are there interesting and helpful-to-see cases—in opposition to mistoferin’s view--where a surrender like the very genuine emotional surrender of a submissive to a dominant can be viewed as an instance of that that submissive, at that moment, in an important sense dominating that dom? If you see them please share them.

Glib, uninteresting turns can be taken, sure. For instance the preposterous notion propounded in some vanilla literature that "the bottom is always in control." But setting aside that kind of glib talk I think that something rare and odd and beautiful has been pointed—just like on that day when collarme.com first showed me your profile. I think that to recognize such a thing for what it is a sufficient end in itself irrespective of what internal or external actions may flow from the recognition.

So the ball is in your court. Feel free to turn around and bend saucily at the waist to pick it up for another volley--or to demurely acquiesce. I'm sure I’d enjoy each as well.

Noah


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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/22/2005 2:32:57 PM   
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The original question didn’t specify "external" acts so don’t you go trying to smuggle it in at that point.


No, it didn't. But since you bought up Acts in the internal sense, then the question of whether we're talking about internal or external Acts within a particular debate becomes important to specify. That's not 'smuggling', that's the complete opposite ~ pointing something out.

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... a certain sort of internal act which might (or might not) by its very nature be submissive. If this wacky species exists, like the aquatic lizards of the Galapagos, should we refuse to see it because until the day Cooke (or Darwin or whomever) landed there it had been held as axiomatic that lizards were strictly terrestrial?


Well no, we shouldn't refuse to see it... have you mistaken what I said?:

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Are thoughts 'Acts', or not? ... I don't believe either is a better, truer, more useful way of looking at those 'internal goings on' than the other. To me, they're philosophical alternatives, neither of which has a particular advantage over the other.


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I really don’t think so, Elektra. I don’t have to take recourse to any particular model of the mind/brain or of reality to note that we all commonly talk of decision-making, for instance, as an active process even though it doesn’t present the person standing nearby with any observable physical activity. Deciding is commonly spoken of as something we do, by Freudians, Jungians, Maslovians; by, Dualists, Monists, and people holding all sorts of models of brain function and/or reality.

No, I don’t see that much of anything here turns upon one’s preferred theory or model of mind or metaphysics.


Then you would probably find the sections on 'decision-making' in Daniel C. Dennet's Consicousness Explained interesting, since there are thought-provoking ideas about internal 'Acts' which do go against 'common talk' of decision making. Even if one doesn't agree with the arguments, it's impossible to say that such theories 'don't exist'.

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ORIGINAL Noah:

And arguing quite ably, dear.




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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/22/2005 3:53:19 PM   
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Elektra, I don't know that anyone is arguing that "thoughts," that all consciousness, is an act or acts.

"I like blue" isn't an act.

Choosing to bear a grudge, go back and back again to a wrong done to you, nursing that grievance - that's an act.

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/22/2005 5:16:31 PM   
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Elektra, I don't know that anyone is arguing that "thoughts," that all consciousness, is an act or acts.

"I like blue" isn't an act.

Choosing to bear a grudge, go back and back again to a wrong done to you, nursing that grievance - that's an act.


No, that's not what I'm commenting on. I'm commenting on the particular internal 'Act' (defined here by Noah) of submission, and in the wider context, any decision.

Apologies if that wasn't clear from my above post.

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RE: If is isn't about Acts, what is it about? - 7/22/2005 5:38:07 PM   
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... have you mistaken what I said?


Was that a rhetorical question?

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No, I don’t see that much of anything here turns upon one’s preferred theory or model of mind or metaphysics.


Then you would probably find the sections on 'decision-making' in Daniel C. Dennet's Consicousness Explained interesting, since there are thought-provoking ideas about internal 'Acts' which do go against 'common talk' of decision making. Even if one doesn't agree with the arguments, it's impossible to say that such theories 'don't exist'.


Well I have read some of Dennet but apparently not this, or if I did it didn't make a memorable impression on me. I would like to read your synopsis, here or elsewhere. I'm confident that others including ruthfw would like to too.

It might inspire me to read the book (or is it a journal article?) and doing so might very well move me toward your point of view. But it is not important of course that someone's point of view prevails, yours or mine or mistoferin's or Dennet's. The goal is a clear view of the matters at hand.

By the way I note that while in your previous post you emphasized sticking to familiar language, in this post you are pointing out that sometimes it needs to be called into question. An insightful observation on your part, that.

Now, before you go, can you scroll up and show me where I indicated that
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such theories 'don't exist'


I think that in the attempt you will find that I explicitly acknowledged that various theories do exist. My point was that the holders of all manner of such theories could see things the way mistoferin suggested.

But now I think I begin to see your point, and it is a fair turn to take. You are indicating my obvious ignorance in regard to this theory of Dennet's. When you said in a previous post:
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that the outcome of these types of questions is dependent on the model of the brain/reality/anything you care to mention that you are using in debating these questions.

.. it seems now that you may have meant that the outcome of these questions depends upon whether one agrees with Dennet's theory, or perhaps other similar ones.

Now that seems at first a very useful thing to say but its usefulness might be limited in the following way. Let's look at it again. How can the fact that some person has heard or not heard this or that theory decide the issue of whether decisions, for instance, can be profitably viewed as acts? It seems to me that centuries before the first theorist of mind was born it was already the case that decisions could or couldn't be helpfully viewed as acts.

That is the question at hand.

As for this:
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this particular question (are thoughts Acts..?) is an interesting one,
Well it may or may not be interesting but no one before you raised this question, as Faramir pointed out, so you needn't have troubled yourself to dispense with it. I formulated a question about a very small subset of mental acitivities, if you'll pardon the expression, based upon someone ele's insight.

By way of analogy: the question of whether the leaves of these three plant species are safe to eat is crucially different than the question of whether, say, plants in general are good to eat, right?

I do thank you for pointing out that there is at least one theory of mind under which mistoferin's contention can be called into question. That is a fine contribution to the conversation and I really would like to know more about Dennet's view.

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How gratifying to my ever-so-domly heart to find that I have the power to make your face turn colors!



Now I'll underwrite your other observation to the effect that this line of the conversation may be getting too narrow or specific to shed any more light on the original question. I'd like to thank you for that observation and all of your other observations and leave you the last word on the subject.

Meanwhile, if there are other aspects of the conversation that people remain interested in I hope they will share their thoughts (or actions) if they should decide--you know, internally--to do so.

Noah





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