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RE: How Do You Approach a sub Online? - 10/2/2007 4:50:00 PM

SixFootMaster

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Don't try to be something you're not. Regardless of what subs might say they like, if your natural self is to walk in guns blazing, then that is how you should behave simply because to do otherwise is to decieve people about the person you are. Just be yourself, if you're easy going, laid back kinda guy, then be so, if you're a bit of a joker, then go that way. I really don't think it's that hard. I would say that if a submissive doesn't like the way you approach her, and you are doing it in the natural way of your personality, then that is a clear sign of incompatibility between you two.

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RE: How Do You Approach a sub Online? - 10/2/2007 8:14:12 PM

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The same way you approach a girl offline, mebbe?

Nothing special. Balls + Charm = Win.

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RE: How Do You Approach a sub Online? - 10/3/2007 5:39:42 AM

TotalState

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Not having approached any sub on collarme, I nevertheless have a bit of inside knowledge of what to avoid since my sub has an individual profile here.

Advice no. 1, 2 and 3 is read the profile. If the sub says she isn't looking for a dom, she isn't looking for a dom.

Beyond that, I suggest going beyond just reading the profile, and having something more than just a profile of your own to go on. That may mean reading the forums and/or hanging out in the chat room to get to slightly know someone (or know *of* someone who might be compatible) to contact. There is a lot of "cold reading" going on, and you can't imagine how much random email female members get - from all types, men, women, dom, sub, straight, gay...it's beyond belief how special people think they are, thinking that they may be able to change someone's personality type by just sending an email.

Be patient. Don't write scathing follow-up messages no matter how long it takes for a sub to respond. If they never do, they are not interested, and sending multiple messages is simply creepy.

And finally, be realistic. If you're 60 years old and obese, the 18 year old hottie may not be looking for you, unless she has specifically stated that she likes grandfather figures.

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RE: How Do You Approach a sub Online? - 10/3/2007 6:54:10 AM

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I treat them with respect...I act like and angel...With a huge cock, of course.

yeah and if you could get that back to me sometime soon...my balls are getting lonely.

to the OP, first the 'don't contact me if you got a cock I am owned..etc etc etc" is one of two things, they got a guy in thier life calling himself a dom who is looking for more than one chick and is too lazy or stupid to do it himself, or its the sub paying a lot of lip service to the dom saying "see honey I have this in my profile but they just keep talking to me" and in mebbe in those rare sad cases a guy has his sub online with the disclaimer to prove something to the world at large that he has his very own sub...

I say swing for the fences, but be yourself, if you are a tough guy dom who doesn't take shit out of your subs, pretending to be Captain Kangeroo isn't going to work..conversely if you are a gentle thoughtful dom acting like Bruno the ultramacho guy isn't going to work either. a 90% failure rate trying to pick up people (in any lifestyle) is about right, mebbe a tad low...but it's a matter of how many doors you're willing to knock on. if you only get 1 yes out of 10, knock on a 100 doors and you'll get 10 yes's. go for quanity or go for quality and try to really connect with somebody, it's all up to what you want to do.

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RE: How Do You Approach a sub Online? - 10/3/2007 7:15:59 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TotalState

Advice no. 1, 2 and 3 is read the profile.

yes! thank you!

i don't boldly state that i don't reply to anyone that hasn't read my entire profile because i am so full of myself...its actually a bit of a test....a simple one....and i give you the answer at the begining, duh! i can't send out emails....but i will respond to everyone that gives me a way to respond to them...you just have to give me a way to respond to you...

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RE: How Do You Approach a sub Online? - 10/3/2007 7:38:09 AM

Koala

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How do YOU approach a sub online?

I take off my shoes, and sneak up on them from behind.

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RE: How Do You Approach a sub Online? - 10/3/2007 8:16:31 AM

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your shoes make sound online?

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RE: How Do You Approach a sub Online? - 10/3/2007 8:21:35 AM

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e-Shoes??

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RE: How Do You Approach a sub Online? - 10/3/2007 8:26:57 AM

chellekitty

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e-shoes with e-wooden soles....what is the world coming to these days....

personally, as a cat, i scared the shit out of my ex's best friend walking thru his 5th wheel trailer at my heaviest weight (aprox 375lbs) without making a sound or moving the trailer....it was hillarious...only shoes that make noise are flip flops or wooden soled shoes....

edited to add....actually if i don't want them to, neither do those shoes...but making flip flops not make noise makes my toes tired...

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RE: How Do You Approach a sub Online? - 10/4/2007 11:09:18 PM

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First truly realize that the odds are againts you. Not only are most subs inundated by distractions in life, they are also usually racked with low quality mail coming from low quality men, and as if that were not enough they are driven by an irrationality that they dont even suspect they have! Not all of them are like this but it is the sad truth for most of them. And if you have any standards whatsoever the few that may fall on your lap may or may not be low quality subs/slaves or simply a mismatch. It's not a hopeless case.....unless of course you find yourself doing what every other guy is doing and thats probably one of the main reasons for a lack of success. Push the buttons in a sub that incite a powerful reaction. I'll give you an idea(that works) use anything in her profile you can twist into something somewhat insulting but funny as hell, and if it can make u look like some sort of cocky asshole, bingo! Also try to keep your interest level to yourself if you can, coming off as irrational im my motives has proven very powerful. And what i mean by that is keep things challenging for her. Keep in mind tho that this will increase your chances on CM not secure it, but you wanted an edge. And he that seeketh findeth. I could go on about this and id love to but I really need to go.

Oh also, I write one liners if I want to and they do give me results. Quality in the words you'll find is the factor not quantity gentlemen. It just has to give off that WOW factor.

~Enjoy you sadistic bastards!

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