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How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 12:31:02 AM

HarryVanWinkle

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1. Write a profile starting with the words, "It's all about ME."

2. Sit online day in/ day out, whining about how there aren't any "TRUE slaves" because YOU can't seem to find a man who's rich, handsome, young, single and willing to devote his life, fortune and sacred honor to your (excuse me, YOUR) comfort and pleasure with no desire for any gratification more than the privelidge of being permitted to spend time in YOUR August presense.

3. Demand a picture of any responders, without posting one of YOURSELF.

4. Demand a slave who will devote his every thought and action to YOU, then state that YOU're not seeking a 24/7 or Live-In.

Anyone else care to share?

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 12:41:04 AM

MysticFireTopaz

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How to NOT find a male slave?

Send an e-mail to a complete stranger calling him a sniveling worm and ordering him to get on his knees immediately. Then again, some might like that.

Also, send an introductory e-mail to a complete stranger demanding to know his annual income and net worth.

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 12:53:35 AM

HarryVanWinkle

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MysticFireTopaz

How to NOT find a male slave?

Send an e-mail to a complete stranger calling him a sniveling worm and ordering him to get on his knees immediately. Then again, some might like that.

Also, send an introductory e-mail to a complete stranger demanding to know his annual income and net worth.

Lady Topaz

Lady Topaz,

Those are good ones. Umm, actually, I've never gotten letters like either of those. R U going 2 B my first?

And can you tell that I'm followiing more than one thread at a time here?

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 12:57:31 AM

BeachMystress

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It isn't easy for "real" people of ANY orientation! In truth, it is easier to spot a woman with a profile such as you mention than it is to ferret out a player who spins a good line. I prefer people who are honest about their faults and make their poor attitude, unrealistic expectations and personality flaws clear.

And how do you end up without a sub?
1) Believe that he really got lost after he misses a first meeting the second time.
2) Believe that he's whispering on the phone and has to go suddenly during a first call because his dog is sensitive to loud noises

3) Accept his claims of having served bunches of women before, even though he doesn't own his own set of cuffs.
4) Fall for the line that you're the only Dominant he's writing to and trying to meet.
5) Believe him when he tells you he wants to live submission rather than just play with it in the bedroom yet never does the dishes at his own home.
6) Actually believe when the male says he is single and lives alone and the pale line on his left ring finger is from the class ring he lost.

And the women who write such self centered and demanding profiles have as many men panting after them as the rest of us. Perhaps they're not getting the higher quality submissive, but when you're trying to bilk money or don't really care about the sub quantity can substitute for quality.

By the way, as an aside, there are more Domme who actually do this for real, on this site, in my area, than male subs. I am active in my local scene and do know quite a few people. The male submissive players far outweigh the bored housewives, clueless newbies who've learned from bad novels and money hungry college kids.

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 3:19:46 AM

FullfigRIMaam

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How to NOT find a male slave
1) Actually be a female dominant, who expects to have a relationship with a man who submits to his lady.
2) Refuse to accept his orders on how to treat him as a slave. M

< Message edited by FullfigRIMaam -- 9/15/2007 3:21:56 AM >

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 5:19:12 AM

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I think the point of this thread is to discuss things done by dommes that are not a good idea and would lessen the chances of a successful relationship with, at least, submissives who are serious about a relationship. It seems to be going in the direction of describing what men should not do. I am amused to see that both threads seek to help men ;-)

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 6:10:13 AM

SweetDommes

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One that a potential of ours received the other day ...

Send out a message from a male submissive profile claiming that you've been ordered by your Mistress to find a man to service orally. Then follow up that message with one from your Domme profile with an offer to play with him and if he pleases you, he might replace the 'submissive' the first message came from.

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 9:10:54 AM

iammachine

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quote:

I am amused to see that both threads seek to help men ;-)

Both threads seem to

A) focus around submissives
and
B) men

A little helpful insight or guidance is never bad for anyone I think, and well... that's part of the nature of being a subby, no? As for men, well, we all know the example of a man that can't find the can of whip cream sitting front and center in the fridge... boys can use a little help here and there, too.

To the OP: What if it really is all about me? Shouldn't I be honest?

Isis
with her tongue firmly in cheek

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 9:21:30 AM

MistressRouge

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It is all about Me

lol

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 9:23:27 AM

SmokingGun82

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Another bad way is to send email to guys that have Dom profiles and aren't looking to sub to anyone, and make that pretty clear, demanding that they call you Mistress/Goddess such and such and kneel for them. And then send them money.

It's like an epidemic lately... I've stopped getting excited when the little red letters that read "New Messages!" are up.

Ok, so three in twenty four hours might not qualify as an epidemic, but since they're also the last three messages I've received...

But yeah. That's a bad strategy.

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 11:41:32 AM

FullfigRIMaam

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Shoot SmokingGun82, my bad!
I was captivated by those eyes, so failed to read your profile before sending that note, but did yah have to put my business out here?!

quote:

undergroundsea
I am amused to see that both threads seek to help men ;-)

That's what most of us do Sea. You're welcome.

M

< Message edited by FullfigRIMaam -- 9/15/2007 11:52:33 AM >

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 12:31:47 PM

stockingluvr54

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressRouge

It is all about Me

lol

On a more serious note and just jmho.... I don't think it's all about you or all about me but should be all about US?

But what the hell do I know...

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 12:42:43 PM

iammachine

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quote:

but should be all about US?

No, it really is all about me.

Kidding, I agree with you, stockingluvr.

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 2:20:30 PM

MysticFireTopaz

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Here's another idea on how to NOT find a male slave:.

Send a response to the profile of a male slave you don't even know. Stay on Collarme and keep monitoring your "Sent Mail" folder to find out what time he reads the message. Give him exactly five minutes to reply to you after reading your message. If he doesn't respond in that time, send him reprimand for not getting back to you in a timely manner.

Lady Topaz

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 3:04:42 PM

HarryVanWinkle

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MysticFireTopaz

Here's another idea on how to NOT find a male slave:.

Send a response to the profile of a male slave you don't even know. Stay on Collarme and keep monitoring your "Sent Mail" folder to find out what time he reads the message. Give him exactly five minutes to reply to you after reading your message. If he doesn't respond in that time, send him reprimand for not getting back to you in a timely manner.

Lady Topaz

Even better. Don't read his profile, particularly the part at the very top where it says his collarme email doesn't work, gives his offsite email and YM address and says to give him an offsite address if you want to get his response.

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 3:21:40 PM

HarryVanWinkle

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quote:

ORIGINAL: iammachine

quote:

but should be all about US?

No, it really is all about me.

Kidding, I agree with you, stockingluvr.

I agree too. In fact, that's my point. Any relationship, even an absolute TPE relationship, based solely on fulfilling the needs and desires of only one member will not succeed for very long. Any "Dominant" who thinks she deserves and can have such a relationship is not a Dominant, she's a sociopath, a person totally lacking in a sense of empathy.

And yet, I see countless profiles on this site for "Dominants," who are looking for exactly that. They say, "Do NOT tell ME about your kinks. I don't care about your kinks. Only mine matter." In their journals, they go on and on about the failures of various submissives to live up to their expectations and bemoan the lack of "Real Slaves."

And, in a way, they're right. If their definition of a "Real Slave" is someone whose sense of self worth is so low as to be able to devote himself, body, mind and soul to her desires, with no thought for his own gratification, and yet is Successful and Attractive, then there are indeed, no "Real Slaves." The only places they're likely to find men with so low a sense of self worth is on Skid Row, slowly commiting suicide by alcohol and drugs, or in the grave yard, having succeeded in doing so.

For any relationship to succeed, long term, it must fulfill the needs and desires of ALL the people engaged in it.

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 3:29:24 PM

ocilla

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Woot! Sexy, sweet and down to earth stockingluvr54 is back with us! So glad to see ya - you've been missed.
If only you were in Georgia and I was not a BBW - I'd scoop you right up. ;-) Dang...Somebody should.

quote:

ORIGINAL: stockingluvr54

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressRouge

It is all about Me

lol

On a more serious note and just jmho.... I don't think it's all about you or all about me but should be all about US?

But what the hell do I know...

< Message edited by ocilla -- 9/15/2007 3:30:19 PM >

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 5:36:01 PM

LadyLynx

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DRAT!! and I was going to send you a note SmokingGun82. sighs.............

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 7:40:43 PM

stockingluvr54

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quote:

ORIGINAL: iammachine

quote:

but should be all about US?

No, it really is all about me.

Kidding, I agree with you, stockingluvr.

OK.... I'll split the difference with you? How about "It's all about Us" You get your dominant "U" or You in there and I'll change that capital "S" to a whimpy little sub "s". Or maybe U/s....?????

pssssst....glad U agree (chatspeak....gotta luv it!)

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RE: How to NOT find a male slave - 9/15/2007 7:51:25 PM

pixelslave

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quote:

ORIGINAL: iammachine

quote:

but should be all about US?

No, it really is all about me.

Kidding, I agree with you, stockingluvr.

It pleases me a great deal to see women on this forum acknowledge that it really is about establishing a relationship where the needs of both the Domme and the sub are met. If something is to last and both are to be happy, the needs of one cannot be entirely ignored in favor of the other for an extended length of time!

BTW, another to add to the list of what not to do, is send messages to subs you don't know asking for tribute just because it's your birthday!

- pixel

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