UR2Badored
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth quote:
ORIGINAL: UR2Badored ...It is interesting to me that it seems to be a question of how one defines following the limits of the Master as the main issue on both sides of the argument and how differently this is being viewed... UR2Badored, to this slave, it has always been interesting, how folks seem to enjoy the actual belittling of others for their choices in the guise of sharing an opinion that includes insisting on the One-True-Way literal definitions of any particular subjective word or term here...i.e. slave...no limits...24/7...abuse...beauty...OUTSIDE of the context of the OP. its also amazing how these same people are the first to challenge any "one true way" while at the same time doing the exact same thing. sadistic, no? this slave always thought that no-limits referred to adult activities and life choices, not trying to second guess how one would react in a life-threatening scenario. being willing to die for someone, or someone's country, or religious ideals...is the ultimate romantic fantasy and proof of devotion, isn't it? I do find it interesting when there is such strong opinions and independent definitions in play. I wish there was more open discussions without the need to belittle anyone, but because what we have to convey may be limited in text, many things can come across as rude. Some people do take it (no limits) more literally than others, and to called one way an ultimate romantic fantasy when the same could be said for the other stance, is somewhat condescending to either view points. Even though I would enjoy your scenerio of fear of potentially being pushed off the cliff and game of trust. There would be an unspoken "limit" in play when taking on the limits of a responsible Master (at least for me, once a relationship is established which is very different than my original post). By that, it is my view and understanding that some see this very same instance has being "no limits". I considered my initial question was how people defined "no limits" as a bottom in play. It does seem, to me at least, that the two main arguments differ only on whether or not a person's individual definition if a sub/slave/bottom taking on her Master's limits is considered "no limits" or not. It is pretty irrelevant if you are fortunate enough to be in an established relationship--that should have been worked out by then. Some people think if the Dominant's limits are in play that there are limits in play. And of course, what I have seen others do not agree. I would hope that any consensual, trusting, and established relationships in this arena would have no need to announce limits. The Dominant, in my opinion perhaps not yours, would have discussed and established her limits if only in his own mind or have similiar limits. It is more of semantics than anyone being "true". It might be just me, but those professing there is no true way may appear just as opinionated as the people who are professing there is one true way. We all live by our own choices and belief systems. If someone thinks there is one true way --good for them since even if they think I should subscribe to it, doesnt make it necessarilly so and vice versa. I have used the term "true" as well in former posts so I am guilty as charge I suppose. Again, I think it is interesting that the main argument on both sides seems to differ in the opinion of taking on another's limits as being considered to them personally as being a "no limits" relationship or not. There are shades of gray posted of course but this seems, at least to me, seem to be the stem of the argument.
< Message edited by UR2Badored -- 9/19/2007 9:37:22 AM >
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