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ORIGINAL: breatheasone
Can it cause you to do and/or say things that unconsciencely cause you to lose the very thing(person) you want so desperately to keep?

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ORIGINAL: babygirl005

i don't know what is causing your distress right now, but the best thing to do is to step away and put your thoughts somewhere else untill you can think clearer.  Go for a walk, eat a chocolate, read a book anything to take your mind off of it until you are past the intense emotions.  Perhaps then you can think a little clearer and not cause either one of you to say or do things you would regret.

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ORIGINAL: SirCache

Absolutely.  Part of being a Dom is the ability to remain confident in yourself because a sub needs to draw on some of that strength, they have to believe in you.  A sub who cannot believe in their Dom will ultimately be forced to choose whether they wish to stay, or find someone who radiates that strength and resolve.

I agree...and seriously, my Master has exhibited the patience of Job where I'm concerned....its His stamina I'm worried about... I'm not exactly a walk in the park over here.....I know that about me...I guess the up side is...I'm SO willing to have a mirror held up to me and be challenged to examine, and correct myself. Without my Masters rock solid demeanor I would have crumbled months ago..... I'm just hoping His is as strong, as I am fucked up....LOL

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ORIGINAL: babygirl005

We all do things in a moment of emotion sometimes.  Probably the best thing is to just admit to your Master what you have done, before He finds out some other way.  Beg His forgiveness.  If you have a relationship with your Master based on trust and love, He may be upset with you, but will forgive.  Then just try to learn from this.  Find some way to keep yourself from reacting in a fit of emotion.  And remember that words can never be taken back, but they can be forgiven.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

The thing is, you ARE recognizing that there is a problem and that you need to get a hold of yourself.

You're already miles ahead of a lot of people with those two steps alone.

Now take the next step- STOP, withdraw, get yourself calmed down.  You're problem is that you're losing perspective.  Go get some.

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ORIGINAL: NefertariReborn

I think the more important point is finding out what is causing the insecurity and doing something to address it and hopefully extinguish it.  He can have the patience of Job but if the same triggers continue to present themselves in your dynamic, your resolve to be emotionally balanced will be harshly tested.  Don't look at the symptoms....the emotional upheaval, the posts in the forum, find the root cause and wipe it out!

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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

Insecurities rise up in the strongest people. He's been the rock you've been leaning on and now that leaning post isn't there. Sort of like having a crutch pulled out from under your arm when you've been using it for months.

If it helps, I was absolutely sure for over a year that every time he went down to see his ums, he would agree to try again with his ex for their sake. I think it finally started to go away when he turned to me before leaving and said with a sigh "You're not going to go all weird on me again, are you?". Hearing it that bluntly made me realize what I had been doing. And as was already said, realizing what's going on is the first step.