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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 1:54:11 PM   
babygirl005


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Status: offline 		Finding a D/s relationship that fits for you is no different than looking for a vanilla relationship.  you wouldn't expect to find someone in such a short period of time.  It can happen and that's great if it does, but that's not the norm.  you can go on other dating sites and the same thing will happen.  There will be those people who are just playing, who are fakes, etc.  Why would you expect collarme to be any different.  But that does not make collarme at fault.  i never can figure out why people think that this lifestyle somehow makes the people here not be human!

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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 1:57:24 PM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire
It is not wisdom to alow your slave to look. To prove how perfect you are because she cant find someone else is rather pathetic in my eyes.  But thats my opinion.
The moment a slave of mine expresses a interest in leaving to look and see if they can find something mising, they are released
 Immediately?  Or is there any discussion? 
quote:

 They are NOT welcomed back and I sure as hell wouldnt allow myself to be considered a safe haven and a fall back plan for them. Thats insulting.
My pets serve me because they want to, and becasue in their eyes I am the perfect owner for them. The second they questioned that devotion, they would be released to go find what they wanted

I guess this answers my question above.  "The second they question" they are gone.  Ok.

Hello DV,
Playing devil's advocate here, I can see the other side.  I'm not dominant so I'll never have to make such decisions, but I can see at least some merit in the fact that her master allowed her to look elsewhere.  To me, that shows quite a bit of security and self-confidence.  If he is sure that he is a wonderful master for her, what does he stand to lose by letting her go see if the grass really is greener on the other side?  Perhaps he thinks that by letting her do so, she'll see that it really isn't and then she'll be more assured that with him is where she is meant to be.  Just a thought.

Calling his decison "pathetic" or saying he's trying to prove how "perfect" he is is a bit harsh, I think.  He hasn't spoken here.  Only she has and perhaps she's not presenting the fairest picture around.  I don't know.  I can just see the other side here.  If she did express a thought that maybe she felt something was missing, I don't think the wisest thing he could do would be to ignore that and force her to stay, knowing she wasn't fulfilled in their relationship.  Or to immediately cast her out as having insulted him and not worthy of any further discussion.  To me, the wisest thing would be to try to find out what she felt was missing and improve upon it.  But, if he felt allowing her the freedom to go looking would show her that their relationship really was best for her, at least he's making an effort.  I don't judge him quite so harshly.  Just my opinion too.............luci   

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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 2:00:09 PM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: slave2behis

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

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ORIGINAL: babygirl005
I found my Master here on collarme........ He is the best thing that has happened to me....... .maybe i met Master on the "other" collarme?  The one where all the jerks are!

Just snipped this out to say "Ditto!  Same here."  I know everyone's experiences vary but I just never had the negative experiences so many claim.  But, then again, I didn't answer "every letter no matter how idiotic" as the OP did and I didn't travel around the country at my own or others' expense trying desperately to make something work just because it was suggested.  I think if one uses some wisdom and discretion, this site and others like it can be wonderful resources.  I know meeting Master here has been the best thing that's ever happened to the both of us. 

OP, the fact that your master is willing to have you back says alot about him.  Maybe you should look into appreciating him a bit more instead of searching the world over trying to find someone younger or better.  Just a thought.............luci

Thank you luci... I think that both having had my Master, leaving him (with his permission) and going back into his strong sadistic arms is the very best of all possible worlds

You've very welcome, slave.  I hope it works out wonderfully for you both.  I accept that people sometimes don't realize just what they have until it's gone.  Fortunately for you, he was willing to allow you to go check out other options and discover on your own that with him is where you should be.  He could have steadfastly refused and left you wondering.  Somehow, I don't think that would have been his wisest option.  Now you know, you're back with him and my best to you both...........luci

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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 2:01:56 PM   
indigo302


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ORIGINAL: domiguy

Maybe you should get away from the dying dude and find someone a bit more on your level?  it might be better...Old people do smell funny.


What and have to pay for her own way????

From her journal entry of 6/26/2007 2:19:44 PM 
 
"...In fact he even pays for my apartment till such time as I find "the one." Why? Because he can, because he truly wants me to be happy.. which is an intersting concept since being happy means, for me, being miserable and caged, and degraded, etc...."
 
Looks to me like it means "having everything paid for"...but then, i might be wrong... it's happened before :)

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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 2:06:08 PM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: subtee

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Anyone that walks out my door because they were unsure wether or not I was as cool as I know I am.........they are NOT coming back in it. capiche?


Kinda makes me shiver to hear you talk this way...oooohhhh


Wanna do lunch? All kidding and kink aside, cuz while I am cool, I am pretty sure you don't want to be converted. Yet, if you ever get down here let me know. Lots of yummy places to grab a snack downtown.


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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 2:09:13 PM   
havingfaith


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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 2:21:15 PM   
DarkDaddyZ


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Status: offline 		I got the best advice on collecting dirty underwear on collarme so I'm DAMN happy!

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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 2:32:54 PM   
iammachine


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ORIGINAL: DarkDaddyZ

I got the best advice on collecting dirty underwear on collarme so I'm DAMN happy!


You've been talking to the dude that sends me an email every day, haven't you?


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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 2:38:50 PM   
celticlord2112


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

1+2= ?


A fun time for all?


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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 2:39:05 PM   
DarkDaddyZ


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quote:

ORIGINAL: iammachine

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkDaddyZ

I got the best advice on collecting dirty underwear on collarme so I'm DAMN happy!


You've been talking to the dude that sends me an email every day, haven't you?


LOL Perhaps he's my negotiator! 

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RE: My Personal Collarme Experience - 9/24/2007 2:41:16 PM   
MstrSkyWoIf


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ORIGINAL: akisha

awww you poor thing, you left a perfectly good Master for greener pastures and after a whole whopping three months you've decided to "settle" and go back to him. How fucking special for you both.

Collarme harmed your chances because you couldn't post pics of what you are?? WTF does that mean?? If you want to post "fuck me" photo's go to Alt. they'll let you post pretty much anything you like.

Most people realize that it takes longer then a few weeks to find someone, but I guess you're special and should find the perfect person immediately.

Sighs, I'm getting so tired of the " oh poor me i tried for 6 days and didn't find mister perfect" BS that repeatedly gets posted on here.

If you want instantaneous gratification, go to McDonalds. Everything else in life takes time and effort.


Amen akisha, I was on this site two different times and for almost 5 years before I met someone I clicked with. We are now taking our time learning about each other. Life takes time.... grow up is what I say.

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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 2:45:42 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		tsk tsk ...you need to learn you some patience

not sorry that you didn't have the collarme experience you desired - i did ...i'm so excited that my patience and efforts paid off.  oh well, since you won't be around to hear the entire story ...good luck in returning to your former master who's too old for you (sheeeeeeeeesh, if he's too old why return to him again? i bet he enjoyed reading that line here) ...oh yeah - don't let the door smack ya where the sun doesn't shine.

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RE: My Personal Collarme Experience - 9/24/2007 2:46:17 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Well, Luci, that is your opinion and you are welcome to it. I stated several times that what I wrote was MINE.  And any of the subs that cme to me know ahead of time that that will be the way things are. And for ME it works just fine.
I dont doubt it wouldnt work for anyone else. But I can have my opinion and judge someone as I see fit. If my opinion bothers them, or you, then feel free to ignore it.

DV



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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 2:47:06 PM   
Pyrrsefanie


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Status: offline 		If you're giving up after three months, then you're giving up too fast.

Also, if I were your "Former Master," I wouldn't take you back after reading this post.  So what, you're only going back to him because you can't find any tail anywhere else?  Then you proceed to basically call him a geezer?  You sound like Anna Nicole Smith or something, talking about how you're waiting for him to kick off and planning whether or not you're going to go to his funeral.  If you thought he was too old for you then WHY GO WITH HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE?

And as far as this not being able to express yourself through photos crap, if you want to play "HEY LOOK I'M NAKED ON THE INTERNET PAY ATTENTION TO ME SO YOU CAN SEE HOW DEEP AND THOUGHTFUL I AM LOL BOOBIES" then go start a MySpace or something.  Anyone with half a brain can figure out how to express themselves through words and actions without having to resort to showing off various pieces of genitalia.

I came into this thread expecting to walk away sympathizing with you but to be honest, I have no patience for people like you who throw hissy-fits when the rest of the world doesn't bow down to your will.

As we would say on the other forums I post on, "QQ more nubcakes."




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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 3:22:06 PM   
subtee


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quote:

Wanna do lunch? All kidding and kink aside, cuz while I am cool, I am pretty sure you don't want to be converted. Yet, if you ever get down here let me know. Lots of yummy places to grab a snack downtown


Yes I do and I need to get down there again, it's been a while and then can we go get realtuffguy's huge cock and head for domiland?
(Sorry for the lil hijack...)

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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 3:30:36 PM   
feastie


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ORIGINAL: slave2behis

While I still have an account here I want to make a few comments. I'll be returning to the man I referred to as "Former Master" for the time I have been here. I thought that I could find what I needed and wanted. But perhaps this entry from my journal sums it up?

Funny isn't it, I mean it would be funny if it were not so very sad. I have been here for three months, looking, searching, answereing EVERY letter no matter how idiotic. I have visited a few men who thought that they were Masters and yet they all have had the proverbial clay feet.
 
I came because I thought my Former Master was too old for me. Well he is! But from what I can see it is very hard to find the right fit with so very many phony men out there.The site also hurt my chances by not allowing me to post photos that might have made it more clear who and what I am. But that probably would not have made any difference since it seems that although I have written a lot, hinted a good deal, most of those out there don't want to be bothered reading what I wrote.
 
At least I have my safe haven to return to. BTW, lol, he too has a profile here and has had the same exact experiences. People don't read his words, and don't respond to him (which of course is not surprising to me) but he is the real deal. A super sadist and a truly educated, traveled, and lovely man, who understands what it takes to own a true masochistic slave who is pretty much a geisha in that I become what the man needs. So many here just don't take the time, the effort and complain and belly ache. Well I'll continue here for a bit more but one day if I don't hitch up soon I'll just be gone.
 
That is one woman's experience, I wonder why this was so, and if some of you here have had the same experience?


A whole three months?  Wow, longtimer.  Lots of patience there.  I'm beyond impressed.  Now that I got that out of the way ... 

You might check some profiles of people that have been searching for YEARS, honeychild.  YEARS.

Three months, my ass. 

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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 3:34:57 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 4:57:01 PM   
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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 5:47:20 PM   
slave2behis


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quote:

ORIGINAL: indigo302

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Maybe you should get away from the dying dude and find someone a bit more on your level?  it might be better...Old people do smell funny.


What and have to pay for her own way????

From her journal entry of 6/26/2007 2:19:44 PM 
 
"...In fact he even pays for my apartment till such time as I find "the one." Why? Because he can, because he truly wants me to be happy.. which is an intersting concept since being happy means, for me, being miserable and caged, and degraded, etc...."
 
Looks to me like it means "having everything paid for"...but then, i might be wrong... it's happened before :)
LOL, oh no he doesn't pay for everything. I am a professional and make well over 65K per year. When with Master he takes care of me and allows me to work. All of my money goes into a money market account in my name only. When I was going to leave I was going to take some money out for getting an apartment is not cheap....it was at his insistence that I did not use my own money for the rent.

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RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience - 9/24/2007 5:52:04 PM   
slave2behis


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ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie

If you're giving up after three months, then you're giving up too fast.

Also, if I were your "Former Master," I wouldn't take you back after reading this post.  So what, you're only going back to him because you can't find any tail anywhere else?  Then you proceed to basically call him a geezer?  You sound like Anna Nicole Smith or something, talking about how you're waiting for him to kick off and planning whether or not you're going to go to his funeral.  If you thought he was too old for you then WHY GO WITH HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE?

And as far as this not being able to express yourself through photos crap, if you want to play "HEY LOOK I'M NAKED ON THE INTERNET PAY ATTENTION TO ME SO YOU CAN SEE HOW DEEP AND THOUGHTFUL I AM LOL BOOBIES" then go start a MySpace or something.  Anyone with half a brain can figure out how to express themselves through words and actions without having to resort to showing off various pieces of genitalia.

I came into this thread expecting to walk away sympathizing with you but to be honest, I have no patience for people like you who throw hissy-fits when the rest of the world doesn't bow down to your will.

As we would say on the other forums I post on, "QQ more nubcakes."
I know I wrote a lot to go through and that is explained in my ad and journals. Evidently the people involved here don't understand what a "profound masochistic slave" is. Photos would have shown them. But you are right perhaps I didn't go about it in the right way. BTW, it was not a hissy-fit just wanted to find out if I was alone.

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