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RE: tested by your Dom - 10/1/2007 9:26:52 AM

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I personally wouldn't stand for being tested all the time. It's silly andimmature in my mind to play these litttle lets test you and see if you pass all the time games.

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RE: tested by your Dom - 10/1/2007 9:53:11 AM

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subscapejunkee wrote:
oh, is that what this forum is for? judging others? i thought it was a community of support for an alternative lifestyle. my mistake.

You specifically asked for any help that anyone could give. Believe me when I say that it is only with the best of intentions that I made the statement about your "dom" needing to be told how to "dom" you by another "dom." [...]

I think you're confusing subscapejunkie with the original poster, serisa.

Oops...good eye. That Tylenol PM was kickin' my tail

. Ok...I stand by what I said except I"ll just change it to say that subscapejunkee shouldn't see what had been said as judgmental because serisa asked (not subscapejunkie). Geesh....subscape, serisa, slaveluci....so many "Sssssssssss's".........darn sleeping pills......................luci

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RE: tested by your Dom - 10/1/2007 10:23:51 AM

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i have not heard of any type of testing and to me it sounds like he is just driving you crazy.........i also think that he should have told you about this so-called testing before you two got involved in any way.i have heard of training but i dont think that there any type of testing involved in training.........idk i will have to ask a dom just to make sure

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RE: tested by your Dom - 10/1/2007 10:27:16 AM

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OP, I have tested your dom and he has failed.

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RE: tested by your Dom - 10/1/2007 11:12:55 AM

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OP, I have tested your dom and he has failed.

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lol

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RE: tested by your Dom - 10/1/2007 12:40:18 PM

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OP, I have tested your dom and he has failed.

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Woooo hoooo! test him again!!!!!! LOL

I'm sure we can all come up with reasons why this guy would want to "test" his sub... but honestly, i can't think of a resaon that's positive. Is he that bored with his life that he finds amusement from mind fucking his girl? I mean come on.... there is screwing with ones mind, and then there's mmmmmmmmmmm mind fucking. Maybe someone needs to share with him the difference between stimulating his subs brain and just plain screwing it.

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RE: tested by your Dom - 10/1/2007 12:43:58 PM

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OP, I have tested your dom and he has failed.

Dom school drop out, go back to highschool.
Put up your flogger whip and go back to highschool.

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RE: tested by your Dom - 10/1/2007 2:46:39 PM

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OP, I have tested your dom and he has failed.

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lolol

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RE: tested by your Dom - 1/18/2010 2:10:36 PM

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How long has he been under the wings of another? Why? Will he still require a mentor once you have 'passed' all his tests?

i wish you all the best on the "testing stage"..how long do you jump through hoops, how much damage will be done to you and your ability to honestly care and trust by someone that can't/won't practice common courtesy.....would he accept the excuse he gave you if given to him (somehow i don't think so), why should you accept them and then wonder what is real and what is some sham of a pop quiz

best of luck in YOUR choice and YOUR ultimate decision

P.S. -----is this a way to set you up to fail in the future and move from testing straight into punishment phase (again, not good...imho)

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RE: tested by your Dom - 1/18/2010 2:17:09 PM

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This is the bestest of stuff. It's the kind of shit that keeps me coming out here and believing in God.

I am a selfish fuck. I value my time above all else. To know that there are women out there that will buy into this type of shit is as soul enriching as it life confirming.

If I am late, drunk, rolling off another woman, or didn't really feel like picking up the phone it is simply a test.

If you fuckers don't get your A.C.T. together you will never make it to my collaring grad school.

Hooooray for the dummies!!!!

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RE: tested by your Dom - 1/18/2010 3:08:15 PM

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hi i am in my first relationship with my Dom. He is working with a mentor who decides how i should be tested. its mainly him testing my reactions to certain stuff but i never know if its real or test til after i reacted and not straight away either. eg my last one he was due to come see me in the eve. he was over hour late and i text to ask if still coming (reason being i have to leave door unlocked if i am expecting him and i dont want to leave it open all night!). no reply, so then i get worried and text to ask if he is ok, no answer, phone him. no answer. i was worrued sick all night and in morning got text 'sorry, drunk too many beers'. well, i was not happy about this and told him respectfully why. anyhow, apparently my reasons why passed me on this one. he once said its going to be tough going but he thought we could get thru it. does anyone have this similar sort testing? how bad does it actually get? how many chances do you get?. this has been going on for months now and i have no idea how long its supposed to go on for. what happens at the end (collar?!) he hasnt explained all this. any tips getting thru it? instead feeling safe and secure i keep dreading whats coming next and what happens if 'i dont make the grade?'. is the relationship over? thanks for any help you can give X

run dont walk, if he needs help with you, well i dont even know where to begin here

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RE: tested by your Dom - 1/18/2010 3:22:28 PM

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Why is this thread from Oct. 07 being resurrected?

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RE: tested by your Dom - 1/18/2010 3:24:19 PM

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Since this thread is a few years old I'm sure this issue is resolved one way or another.

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RE: tested by your Dom - 1/18/2010 3:27:12 PM

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Why is this thread from Oct. 07 being resurrected?

Osf, I have the perfect woman for you.....http://www.collarchat.com/m_3010986/mpage_2/tm.htm

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but baby your the perfect woman for me, you just dont know it

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RE: tested by your Dom - 1/18/2010 3:29:46 PM

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LOL You are growing on me....

Do me a favor and check her out, ok? belladevine.

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RE: tested by your Dom - 1/18/2010 3:37:36 PM

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LOL You are growing on me....

Do me a favor and check her out, ok? belladevine.

i already told her that i was stealing that, i love it

in a way it is very true
ty for mentioning it

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RE: tested by your Dom - 1/18/2010 3:38:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: serisa

should have added in case unclear, he says he didnt get drunk. this made up and part of the testing to see if i react appropriately, apparently moral to teach me was 'this type of behaviour long term leads to lack of trust and if one day there is a serious problem and you do this alot no one will care about you as they will think you are messing them about'. this is what told him and hence he said i hade passed test. i guess trying to teach me exactly why i shouldnt do this type of thing (not that i ever would).
However, yes i was still worried sick about him all night that he could have had car crash or whatever which is why i worry so much whats going to happen next,

Lemme tell ya something, honey. Guys don't think that hard. Especially when there's a hot chick waiting behind an unlocked door. I mean, come on.....he has the chance to get laid, knows you're waiting for him, way past midnight, with your doors unlocked, but he decided to stay home and "test" you instead??? Seriously??? He stopped to have "a beer" and lost count. This "you passshed the *hic* tesssht" is a bunch of crap to justify what he did.

He has a drinking problem, and ooh boy, if you do make the grade? You become his enabler. And let me give you some hard-earned, first-hand advice. He won't stop drinking for you, no matter how hard you love him. Get rid of him now and enjoy your life.

3 year old thread??? Ah shit, got me!

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RE: tested by your Dom - 1/18/2010 3:41:14 PM

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Lemme tell ya something, honey. Guys don't think that hard. Especially when there's a hot chick waiting behind an unlocked door. I mean, come on.....he has the chance to get laid, knows you're waiting for him, way past midnight, with your doors unlocked, but he decided to stay home and "test" you instead??? Seriously??? He stopped to have "a beer" and lost count. This "you passshed the *hic* tesssht" is a bunch of crap to justify what he did.

He has a drinking problem, and ooh boy, if you do make the grade? You become his enabler. And let me give you some hard-earned, first-hand advice. He won't stop drinking for you, no matter how hard you love him. Get rid of him now and enjoy your life.

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RE: tested by your Dom - 1/18/2010 3:50:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: serisa

these were my words not his 'if i dont make the grade' it just describes the enormous pressure i feel under. actually i remember him saying something like 'if we dont get through it id still like to see you, but it wont be in the same way id like it to be'. however dont know quite what this means (dont get collar ? ?). he said he has undergone this heavy testing with other subs but none have got this far b4 (i think he means they couldnt handle the pressure and ended it) and it all goes to test the strength of my commitment to him (knowing that what happens could be a set up). he knows i do alot of learning D's online and said he doubts i could find alot of info on this style testing online and he is correct in that. hey it not part of the test is it that i should be saying this style of testing is out of order??? ! ! He really does seems a wonderful guy and i madly truly care about him. i just wish all this stuff wasnt going on and I understood it all a bit more

Ok, I didn't read the rest of the posts yet, because you make excuses for this guy was driving me nuts.

Do you know why the other women didn't "get that far?" Because they weren't going to tolerate that kind of crap. Ok, there are many here who believe that a dominant doesn't need to explain his whereabouts. However, if someone tells you they are coming over and then don't just to see if you would wait for them and what you would do? That is unreasonable. So he could say "hey I'll meet you at the coffee shop at 7 and then he decides not to come, you think it is ok?

You can't find anything about this kind of "heavy testing" on line because he is making it up. He is "testing" you and making you believe that you can expect him to be unreliable and that you can't count on him to do what he says.

As Cyntilating said, is HE passing YOUR tests? You seem like a reasonably attractive woman. Don't you believe you deserve better than that? Just saying "I had too many beers" as an excuse for not showing up for a PLANNED meeting is enough that YOU should be saying goodbye.

ETA Yep, I missed the fact that it was 3 years old too. I still wonder what happened, though. lol

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RE: tested by your Dom - 1/18/2010 3:57:25 PM

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