exogenous -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/4/2007 8:09:18 PM)
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To unattached subs out there with not so perfect bodies, you're facing a definite double standard. There's a thread in Ask a Mistress about male subs desiring older bbw dommes that generated many positive responses (4 pages). I started a thread in Ask a Master about Doms desiring older bbw subs and there was only 1 response in 4 hours. I was wondering if any bbw subs out there ever considered becoming switches and ordering male subs to dominate them? The theory of person who is naturally submissive becoming a switch in order to be able to order a sub to dominate her is “interesting” as well as disturbing, to my way of thinking. I would always be wondering if the male sub was very fulfilled in dominating me. I tend to think of the male sub as looking for a relationship in which he is submissive and not necessarily interested in dominating (just as I am a submissive female and not interested or fulfilled by dominating anyone), and probably not find fulfillment in a relationship in which he is frequently commanded to dominate his Domme. That would set lead to confusion and frustration, to me. I am not interested in manipulating a sub into being something that does not jibe with who the sub truly is. No one is ends up satisfied or happy in that circumstance. Switch with switch, I understand where that would work out, taking turns as sub and Dom. I used to be concerned with being considered BBW, or an overweight, older sub, whatever. So what? I am not physically attracted to Doms who are shorter, or more slender, or younger than me. To each his/her own; and that realization is a freeing relief! There are all kinds of subs and Doms and somewhere, along the line, I will meet a Dom with whom we will find fulfillment from what we have to offer, who we are, inside and out. And Lord help me, if the OP is "older" at 34 years old, then I am most ancient at 47 years old. What in the hell does that mean… am I ready to be retired to BDSM convalescent home? Hell no!
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