Squeakers
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ORIGINAL: DarkDaddyZ This afternoon a female who identifies as submissive initiated an e-mail to me saying that she likes my profile and posts via the boards. As we exchanged a couple of e-mails she asked me if I knew her "protector" and mentioned him by name. My reply was what is he protecting you from. Her response back was she was surprised by my question since I have so much experience in the lifestyle. I replied back and probably was a little smart with my comments including all my years in the lifestyle hasn't taught me about protection, I teach, learn, dominate and own. She replied that I was clueless. So, am I clueless because I don't understand the protector label especially via online? Help me understand what a protector does in lifestyle relationships and is a protector only a dominant. Lastly as I asked this person, what does a protector protect you from? Thanks, Z- When I was an internet newbie, I spoke to a man who made the jump from AOL chat to msn chat. We were chatting about how to identify a collared submissive online. He said that AOL had a different protocol on how to set up a screen name of a collared submissive. If anyone remembers, msn was the subby screen name followed by the Dominant, screenname or just the intials of it. He went on to say that on AOL they could even identify if the collar was a collar of submission or a collar of protection. I'd personally never heard of this before and asked what they were being protected from. He said, fakes, trolls, stalkers. I always sort of wondered if this need for an online protection started on AOL. My personal thoughts. I think that at one time and anyone with more knowledge can correct me if I am wrong, that in some real time play parties and functions, there were different colored collars that submissives could wear to functions. I think one color did sort of serve as a collar of protection. Meaning, she was at the party with a person who did not identify as her Master, yet she came to the function with him and was not up for grabs for any Dominant. I could be way off base on this but it was explained to me once a long time ago and I do not think that this is fully practiced now. Anyways, I can understand this concept in a real time setting. Maybe the collar would not deter some asswipe, but another Dom stepping in, might. And in a real time setting, it is totally different than online. You can not block someone from contact with the pressing of a button. With that said, I think that somewhere along the line, the real time protection collars made their way onto the net. Because they began as real time, it was embraced online as a 'true' way. Now perhaps, and this is only my theory, because online collars got a ton of negative publicity, they have dropped the phrase, 'collar of protection' and simply parade as protectors. Whether this is the case or not it still sort of means the same thing. The protectors think they are protecting the submissives from--- online fakes, trolls, stalkers. Now thinking back to me as a newbie---if I had of begun my experience online---and some 'Dom' came to me and said, 'Squeakers, you need my collar of protection" and he explained why I needed it---yes I probably would have believed it if he made sense in his explaination. And further if this Dom was feeding the fantasy I had of the lifestyle as a newbie, I probably would have told you DarkDaddyZ that you did not have a clue. Because this other Dom was telling me what I wanted to hear, he was getting my lustful thoughts going and I could not think futher than that. So to sum it up to me, protector is someone who wants to give the illusion of being real time, but has yet to get out of the fantasy mode. And those who have protectors, might be new to the whole thing. They may not realize there is a block button. And maybe they are merely caught up in the fantasy end and think by having a protector they are emulating something real time. I personally do not think they are needed online. I have a block button, my computer turns off, I can block email messages--hell I can even block in coming calls and if some asswipe were to come to my home, (not at all likely) I have an adult son and 9-1-1 works but no online protector is going to keep me safe.
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