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crouchingtigress -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 9:47:09 PM)
lack of follow through

LadyLegs -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 10:03:04 PM)
Have very restrictive definition for what your partner should be and be sure to get angry and bitter when they dont live up to your fantasy Have a strict role for yourself and force yourself into that mold. Deceive yourself and your partner as much as possible, then blame them for not really caring about you.

kitttty -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 10:11:03 PM)
"Oh honey, we can do whichever thing you'd like. I just want to make you happy"- from the Dom. That's one type of attitude that can wreck a BDSM relationship but probably not a vanilla one.

MystressDream -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 10:28:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyLegs Have very restrictive definition for what your partner should be and be sure to get angry and bitter when they dont live up to your fantasy Have a strict role for yourself and force yourself into that mold. Deceive yourself and your partner as much as possible, then blame them for not really caring about you. IMO, this is about the most accurate post here. It happens all too frequently.

DarkDaddyZ -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 10:29:51 PM)
Burning the bacon before the omelet!

Lashra -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 4:35:41 AM)
Be with the wrong partner and try to force it to work. I've know a few couples who went through this only for it to end horribly. They did everything by the "book" except look at how different their personalities, likes and dislikes were. ~Lashra

grumpieoldbitch -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 6:13:47 AM)
When you go to do the laundry and you wish he would wipe his ass cleaner cause of the shit streaks in his underwear. When you ask him if his arthritis is acting up cause the knots he tied you can undo with ease. When he asks you where his crop, paddle ect is and its within his grasp already.

bipolarber -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 6:18:29 AM)
Having your dominant tell you, "I just read these great fantasy novels.... and we're going to base our entire lives on them from here on out."

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 6:37:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sylkenkitten ~cracks up~ .. how about ... you're kneeling wearing what he instructed you to wear when he gets home, he forgot to call to say guests were coming, ie his boss, and he walks in with his boss.... you're wearing nothing but his collar it would be like wow dude you hve your own private maid very cool

KnightofMists -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 6:40:54 AM)
Lie in the Relationship.... it will kill anything... even weeds

grumpieoldbitch -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 6:44:37 AM)
Tell him he hits like a 5 year old girl and youve seen bigger cocks on the internet.

caught4u -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 6:50:05 AM)
not trusting enough

Dnomyar -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 7:05:00 AM)
Tell him you want to marry him. His wife will understand.

charmdpetKeira -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 7:14:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: grumpieoldbitch Tell him he hits like a 5 year old girl and youve seen bigger cocks on the internet. Really? This sounds more like "game on" to me. k

came4U -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 7:32:34 AM)
a man saying: I went off my blood pressure meds so that I can get boners for you. (gods, please DON'T!) lol that is mental. Talks about work, at inappropriate times, just to show off about needless and ridiculous things. (ie: a restraunt air conditioner is broken and he says 'I could (macho stance) fix that chop-chop for them for a fee of $....bla bla). Restraunt door is crooked, so he stares at it with deep thought on how to go about fixing it. lol ffs, we are CUSTOMERS, eat, drink and shuddup! "Don't throw away this (disposable) cup, it goes in the dishwasher". uhhg, it is a plastic beer cup you cheap bastard. "I don't redecorate in here, I inherited this place from my parents 4 yrs ago and it suits me just fine' (as I look around to see doileys, Royal Doulton in a china cabinet, flowered (pinkkkkk n blue)curtains and toaster cover). That was red flag creepy. Things he does: lies, endless, endless lies. sits online constantly, despite saying he owns a business (that doesn't exist). Sold property to rent property in the same area, all in the name of 'good decision making' lol. *that is lazy and a bad decision. uh huh, well, this is all the same one person. He still is in awe as to why these (and many, many other similar reasons) are why I found him to be 1. unmanly and 2. weak 3. just plain stupid and cheap. Oh and worse case ...he actually thinks he is sane too. [&o]

YesMistressIrish -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 7:57:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: treehugger42 Oooh, ooh, how about dishonesty PLUS long distance. That did'er in for me. Also, talking endlessly about all the crazy shit you're going to do to your sub... later... when you have more time... so, how about I give you a few spanks and then you give me a blowjob? Repeat x infinity. treehugger, you are so right on about long distance and dishonesty! You have my sympathy re: 'give me a blowjob'. Good time to kick that type to LaCurb. [;)]

amayos -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 7:58:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chickpea I’d like your comments on how to have a horribly dissatisfyingly dull inane BDSM relationship. I’m talking about HOW TO MAKE A BDSM [RELATIONSHIP] THAT WAS SUPPOSED TO GO RIGHT, GO WRONG. I will avoid cringing too much over the term "BDSM relationship" and instead address what I consider to be the poison of any human union: dishonesty, ineffective or non-existent communication and mistrust. Between Keeper and slave specifically, I would have to say it is wise for both to maintain the structure of authority around them. One would think this to be obvious, but it is amazing how easily things can erode and fall if not watched and maintained. In this there must be a concerted effort from the Keeper to lead well, and from the servant, to serve well. We must be willing to aim diligently with a single arrow, rather than hurl a dozen and never hit the target. We must concentrate our energies and live in focused intensity, planning all the way to the end. Divided, we will never rise above the filth of the ordinary; we will only be fooling ourselves.

treehugger42 -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 8:07:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bipolarber Having your dominant tell you, "I just read these great fantasy novels.... and we're going to base our entire lives on them from here on out." ohhh, lollerskates. I was waiting for someone to say this. quote: ORIGINAL: YesMistressIrish You have my sympathy re: 'give me a blowjob'. Good time to kick that type to LaCurb. Heh, that one's been gone awhile... I got the ol' subbie act together dusts off hands.

Sinergy -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 8:55:50 AM)
Spending the time two have been gifted to spend with each other focussing on what breaks the relationship apart, rather than on what binds the relationship together. Sinergy

hurricane67 -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/8/2007 9:08:36 AM)
Give your submissive no clear guidelines. When she/he breaks a "rule" she didn't know existed, berate her savagely, then ignore her for days. Do not let your partner come to see you, then blame her/him for not "being able" to see you.

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