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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

This isn't a question of you submitting to these men.  Rather, this is a case of you wanting to use these men without their consent.  If you found the men and negotiated with them, up front, to penetrate your girlfriend and leave, things would probably be working out much better - at least according to your plan.  As it is, your girlfriend is using your cuckold dynamics to cover her nymphomania.  When she invites the men ver, she is probably not telling them they are there to satisfy your cuckold kink.  Consequently, sure, the men don't leave and your girlfriend ends up playing hostess in the morning.  Even if your girlfriend says otherwise, you're not part of the equation.

I just read the post where you quoted your girlfriend's letter.  (Side note:  quoting private correspondence on the Internet is beyond bad form.)  Up to about half way through the letter, I was starting to sympathize with your girlfriend, but then she described her rationale for using subterfuge.  Wow.  Both of you lie to these men and, in all likelihood, to one another too.

The more I read about your relationship, the more the term "trainwreck" comes to mind.  Neither of you seems fit for a long-term, committed relationship.  Perhaps this is salvageable, but I must admit, given the multiple layers of ulterior motives and predatory behaviors on both your parts, I find this unlikely.

I wish there was some way to give you "feel good" advice, but based on your actions I'm not hugely motivated to do so.  You're asking for salvation when you created purgatory of your own choosing.  Sure, we all make mistakes and sometimes must rise above our behavior.  Okay.  Here's my advise.  Start acting like an adult and take responsibility for your actions.  Stop lying and using people.  Take some time to reflect on what you truly want from a relationship.  After you've examined your behavior, desires, and the way you've been treating others, hopefully your next relationship will go much better.

Elan.

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ORIGINAL: FaithfulYoungCuk
Why is it so hard to understand that a cuckold might not accept to be at the whim of another man? 

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ORIGINAL: FaithfulYoungCuk

This is what I've written so far:

"RE: "One thing I do want to say to you baby, and it is very important, if you want me to keep this up, you have to let me do it my way with out having you interfiering in it."

What does this mean?  Interfering.  Participating on some level?  This life of ours is my life too.  I deserve to be happy also, just like you do, just like they do.  You... you adamantly refuse at the slightest hint of me having any say in how we do this.  Am I not part of this for you?  I take care of your interests when you are with them but... maybe i haven't explained very well just what it means to take care of my interests.  The other morning was a good start. 

I wont be an absentee ballot cast in the vote of a fixed election.

I want you to take me seriously when I'm saying things that are important to me.  Nothing's changed for me.  I've brought things up in the best way I know how and I feel like you're only listening to and thinking about the words I'm saying until the moment I stop talking.  When I stop talking it's back to computer games, back to David, Andrew, Emad.... as if to say "I've stopped talking, problem solved".  Problem not solved. 

You have a priority list and I don't feel like I'm where I ought to be on it sometimes.  I believe that if i was, it wouldn't be me whose thoughts and feelings stopped being considered when my lips stop moving, it would be theirs.  Problem not solved. 

I feel like i'm chasing you, trying to keep up and see what it feels like to be in your eyes again.  You mess with me too much cuz I don't know what to believe in sometimes.  You threaten to cut off all ties with these men completely any time I really push for what I need, but don't I do all that I can to give you what you need? 

You've really made me wonder what would happen if i said "okay - cut them off - tell them all the truth, stop seeing them completely: you say they mean nothing, so that won't be a problem, right?"

What would happen baby?  Instead of being afraid of the answer to that question any longer, I guess it's time to know."