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sweetsubPa -> Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:09:50 PM)
I have a question for both Doms and subs. How do you feel about having to get naked on the first meeting? Not necessarily for sex, but just to have to be naked, (for inspecption, humiliation)? Also, how do you feel about getting naked on cam for someone that you haven't known long?

breatheasone -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:14:17 PM)
Getting Naked on the FIRST MEET!!???....Holy Cow!! [:(] .....that would be a no....I'm not in favor of that....and I also Don't do cams for people I've haven't known long I actually just don't do it.....Having said that, I have been on cam for my Master... I believe the two are very different.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:15:59 PM)
I was naked for our first meeting. It was intimidating. But then due to our conversations and the length of time we had been conversing, it just felt appropritate to do so. Others may feel differently. I have concerns about being on cam, as people can take screen shots and do whatever they want with them. Unless this is someone you know and trust very well, I would say to use caution in what you choose to do and with whom. I'm one of those rare people on this forum who thinks it is possible to know and submit to someone you have not yet met. But I also believe that should be done with great discretion and care, and if it doesn't feel right to you, then listen to yourself and ask yourself why. Often times your answers are within.

toservez -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:17:02 PM)
Would laugh them off. To serve someone is to respect them and them to respect me. Being ordered to get naked on a webcam or on first meet if I have not agreed to start anything with them would be not about trying to see if we were a fit but the sign of just another horny guy. Takes little to get me naked but it does take me to want to be naked not being ordered by a stranger. Edited to add in reference to ownedgirlie, I agree with you but it is clear you infer some time spent and my comments are based on little time spent.

Lordandmaster -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:18:20 PM)
I've made women take off their clothes on a first meeting and, well, no one's ever sued me yet.

sexyred1 -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:21:54 PM)
It is up to individuals whether they get naked or hang from chandeliers with monkeys on a first meet. Cams? Eh...I could not be bothered with 'em. If I want to see you or you want to see me, show up.

AquaticSub -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:23:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetsubPa I have a question for both Doms and subs. How do you feel about having to get naked on the first meeting? Not necessarily for sex, but just to have to be naked, (for inspecption, humiliation)? Also, how do you feel about getting naked on cam for someone that you haven't known long? I'm a bit of a nudist and wouldn't find anything humiliating about being naked. I don't see any point in being inspected since I'm not being bought. If we were meeting at a play party it is entirely possible I would disrobe to play with someone. As for naked on cam... it's just not something I do for someone who doesn't already own me.

ottRopesandKnots -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:26:45 PM)
Getting naked in person on the first meeting is probably up to the individuals and how the situation feels. I've had people get naked for me on the first meeting, as well as gotten naked with them on the first meeting but both are more of a rarity than the norm. Typically I expect first meetings to be relatively casual, getting to know one another, and perhaps setting the tone for future meetings. If there's play involved I'm all about stripping down to sexy underthings. I'd rather leave some things to the imagination so they can smoulder looking forward to the next encounter. I dislike cam play, I find no need for it.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:29:28 PM)
I am not a person that can be bothered with cams, and I can't imagine wanting someone to get naked for me on cam. What would we be proving? I am not a nudist, and I have no issue with the nudity of others. It seems like a very cheap bit of power play, but that is just me being offhand. I can absolutely see getting my date naked....and yes, I have done it, and wow, no one has sued me either! But that is also a matter of how the evening was progressing, and not a predecided thing at all.

camille65 -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:29:31 PM)
I was naked within ten minutes of our first in person meeting, ohjeez it was really difficult for me which is why he did it. It seemed like with each piece of clothing I removed I would have flashes of what the perfect body should be and of course it wasn't my body. I was sound asleep in his hotel room when he came in. He gently woke me up and after kissing me he ordered me to strip. It felt like an impossible task, to expose myself to his eyes even though we had been speaking for 2 years. I never did the nakie cam thing and I was really frightened of his reaction, I let the fear build up inside way too much. Every time we meet it is the same thing, naked me within a few minutes to try and push me past my self-conciousness. It is very uncomfortable for me to be naked and standing in front of him while he is still fully dressed even now. Once I get past that emotional barrier I feel free and I am quite happy to romp around in the nude with him watching me. On Sunday it will be happening again and once again I am tangled up in fear and apprehension. Knowing he will want me naked immediately is difficult, I've gained weight and do NOT like my body. But he loves me & loves my body. I am lucky that he understands the depths of my fear and luckier still that he pushes me past it each time. He knows I have all sorts of body issues, but once past the initial hurdle its................wonnerful. [:)] 120 hours and he will be hereeeeeeeeeee.

daddyncherry -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:31:42 PM)
i think that would all depend on the amount of time you'd spent getting to know eachother through online and phone correspondance first....or if you met at a play party...or the people involved. ....So many variables. i got naked with my Daddy on the 4th meeting (which was the first private one) but we had been talking and stuff for 6 months by that point.....i was still scared as hell... He had already told me he loved be before...and i kept saying, "But you haven't seen ALL of me...you don't know me enough yet....what about my flaws???" etc....He brought a stamp of approval with him (which didn't get used due to lack of scissors to open it up, but was very sweet :))...i was imagining this HUGE thing...this inspection THING....where i would be under some light and having to be on display to him....He didn't make me do that...just made me show him my "flaws" and then he kissed each place and then asked "Is THAT it???"

juliaoceania -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:32:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetsubPa I have a question for both Doms and subs. How do you feel about having to get naked on the first meeting? Not necessarily for sex, but just to have to be naked, (for inspecption, humiliation)? Also, how do you feel about getting naked on cam for someone that you haven't known long? With Daddy it was rather a hot experience...smiling here...

azropedntied -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:32:59 PM)
hey great to meet you i am already naked .glad we got that outta the way ! I dont cam ,naked in your own home well duhh no biggie , naked in a dungeon setting YES please .Naked at a play party with a private setting and known community members sure why not .met you at the last much lets go get naked .. pass . There is a time and place and comfort zone and few people have all the same levels .Red can i have those directions so i can show up sometime -chuckles* After you have been on stage nude infromt of many i guess its no big deal anymore , i also streaked in the 70's where today umm i would pass .

RCdc -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 12:54:30 PM)
Just be well informed. Remember that there is a possibility the first meet may end up the only meet - so be responsible for your actions and if you don;t have any expectations then just go with what you are comfortable with. As for cam - I wouldn't go there personally. But as a warning, from a media POV, remember that any visuals can be recorded - so if you wouldnt send a photograph, don't cam. the.dark.

childoftheshadow -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 1:01:14 PM)
I personally love flashin' my bits about. Nude pics, little dance on cam, I don't care it's all fun. My partner and I both got naked when we met for the first time.

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 1:01:45 PM)
We talked for about a month and a half before we met. We met in the morning and that evening i was naked. i was not inspected or humiliated. i was handled and i was loved. It was so perfectly natural. Somethng that i didn't think was possible.

probablyknowme -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 1:15:16 PM)
Well, to perfectly honest, I have an exhibitionist streak about a mile wide, so for me to get nekkid is really not a big deal. At a play party, at a private party, in the dungeon, I am normally the first one to get nekkid...and probably stay more undressed than dressed. That being said, as for the first meeting, I have normally spent quite a bit of time getting to know someone before I meet them. So if the chemistry is right when we do get to do the face time thing, then I say go for it. If not, then the nekkid thing isn't gonna happen. That has little to do with the first meeting and more to do with the person I am meeting. Going to play with my crayons now, kat

SunNMoon -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 1:31:29 PM)
I normally meet people for the first time at coffee shops so no nakedness going on. I do feel that it's up to the person if and when they feel ready to get naked. I personally like to wait a bit, I like the mystery of not seeing everything. But that's just little old me. [:)]

wisteriaV -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 1:31:35 PM)
I'm a nudist at heart, so no problem there.

DesFIP -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 1:32:56 PM)
We met at a coffee shop, I wasn't getting naked there. My rule of thumb for this is to do what you feel comfortable doing. If you don't feel comfortable camming for a stranger, don't do it. If you need to date clothed for a month first then do that. The ones who demand you do it even when you don't feel right aren't interested in knowing you, just in getting their rocks off.

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