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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/3/2007 7:23:32 PM

LotusSong

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Never been asked, sorry.

Slave Peter... DO you have large nipples??

(now you can add this experience to your resume)

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/3/2007 8:45:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: honeybunch06

Do any of you other submissives find it offensive when a 'dominant' (in quotations because there is some doubt about some who label themselves such) IMs you and question number three is "what is your boob size"? and...question number four is "do you have large nipples"?
To me..that is very offensive and shows me that this guy is only interested in using my body...and, therefore, in my opinion, is not really a dominant man. Am i wrong about this? Am i too quick to judge? i usually do not continue the conversation with him after this and leave the entire experience a bit hesitant to even answer IMs!
There is so much more to this than the physical aspect and when he begins the conversation with nothing but physical questions..i am immediately wary. Does anyone else have this problem? Is anyone else offended by such questions so quickly in the conversation? And, if so, how do you respond to him?

Fast reply..... I would NOT judge whether he were dominant or not...I would realize it is HIS fetish, not mine.

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/4/2007 12:01:38 PM

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Offensive? Not really.

Good snark fodder? Yes.

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/5/2007 6:40:37 PM

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I often find myself getting asked similar questions. This is why I don't give out my screen name as much as I used to. My response to those types of guys is usually hitting the block button.

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/7/2007 3:03:36 AM

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I have not been asked this type of question, at least not as of yet anyways.... it would probably put me off abit. If this was the first-beginning exchange of an "introduction" so to speak....You could turn the tides and ask him back the same intention? I agree with the above statements, he has his own fettish, and obviously needs to have that fulfilled to enjoy his dominance. Take his question as a clue to intelligence, and is it equal to yours?..... I think not. Where would your relationship go from there? No where.... exactly! He'll need to find the same type of female sub. He could of mentioned what he prefers, in passing, some subtle interjection during your correspondance.... but to come out and ask this right off the bat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!....................Hit the "reject" button and move on.... he doesn't deserve your talents!

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/7/2007 4:01:31 AM

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What she said <giggle>

Adding to that: Would I be the least bit interested in pursuing further acquaintance with the individual in question? Not a chance!!! He goes straight to the "blocked" list. Fortunately, CM has put no limits on the number of people I can block ;)

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Offensive? Not really.

Good snark fodder? Yes.

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/7/2007 2:55:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

fast reply-
Any male over the age of 12 who uses the word "boobs' should never be allowed to see one.

THANK You!

You are now my hero! ;)

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 12:17:30 AM

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I think it is the fact that we are on the computer and no one can see the person on the other end for what they are... PEOPLE...

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 12:22:42 AM

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I find it more offensive when I get asked what size my tits are.

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 1:18:46 AM

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Ooh! I just got a delicious email! This isn't a size one but I just had to share this little gem.

"Your cute. If you were my girlfriend I would set you up for gangrape, and have it video taped, and make you watch it over and over again.... am I a bad boy?"

^Actual contents of email.

My reply:
"That would just make you someone I don't want to know. Gangrape is not high on my 'things to experience list'."

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 1:20:12 AM

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Oh YOU!!! I never get good ones like that.

I am SO jealous.

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 1:23:31 AM

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For me, most size questions, when not on IM, come somwehat later in the conversation.... On IM... well... *shrug* any time. I don't mind, usually. Often I don't care. It's whether I really feel the person is worth my time that I'll say anything. Of course, if I am in one of my "moods" they may get a bitch reply, or a flirt reply, or just a "I'm messing with your head and going to wait to see if you catch on" reply.

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 1:25:54 AM

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I'm not even female and I find it offensive on behalf of anyone with standards.

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 1:26:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

Oh YOU!!! I never get good ones like that. I am SO jealous.

I know. I'm just so damn lucky!

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 1:41:32 AM

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Although, re-reading it, it looks as the rapidity of the questioning is the problem.

On the other hand, beating around the bush can be nasty - i've started liking many a girl who turn out to be bottom of the barrel.
Don't get me wrong, i ain't shallow, i like normal women. We're talking radioactive deformities here. As in, only tons of bleach would think about helping - but would then dry the skin out to look like a saltlake.

ok, ill stop now, before everyone thinks im a bigot.

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 1:44:55 AM

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Well we from the bottom of the barrel, with massive deformatives, will just bugger off back to the underground sewer system then. Come on girls. We have deformed popcorn.

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 1:55:29 AM

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a little late for that darlin'. But good luck! ;P

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ORIGINAL: mimkyodar

Although, re-reading it, it looks as the rapidity of the questioning is the problem.

On the other hand, beating around the bush can be nasty - i've started liking many a girl who turn out to be bottom of the barrel.
Don't get me wrong, i ain't shallow, i like normal women. We're talking radioactive deformities here. As in, only tons of bleach would think about helping - but would then dry the skin out to look like a saltlake.

ok, ill stop now, before everyone thinks im a bigot.

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 2:10:31 AM

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Why does this question even deserve a post???????

Just roll your eyes and put them on the blocked list.

If a domme is more concerned with the size of my dick than who I am then I don't want to be around her and I sure don't want to give her the pleasure of my manhood.

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 5:22:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: Muttling

Why does this question even deserve a post???????

Just roll your eyes and put them on the blocked list.

If a domme is more concerned with the size of my dick than who I am then I don't want to be around her and I sure don't want to give her the pleasure of my manhood.

its always more interesting to me to find the size of a person's intellect, or sense of humor, or ability to hold up their end of a conversation.....rather than to have the dimensions of their dangly bits.

someone asked me the other day "what attracts you in a partner?" my answer was "their heart and their mind".

kitten, thoughtfully

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RE: Anyone find it offensive.... - 12/13/2007 5:29:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: IilaStarfire

Ooh! I just got a delicious email! This isn't a size one but I just had to share this little gem.

"Your cute. If you were my girlfriend I would set you up for gangrape, and have it video taped, and make you watch it over and over again.... am I a bad boy?"

^Actual contents of email.

My reply:
"That would just make you someone I don't want to know. Gangrape is not high on my 'things to experience list'."

I would have replied:

"Wow, what a FAB idea! But listen, I really don't know how to do that, being a sub and all, so why don't YOU get gang raped first, videotape it and let me watch it, so I can learn from the MASTER. I promise to watch it over and over again till I get it right, 'k?"

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