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KindLadyGrey -> RE: "Age, race, and looks unimportant" (12/7/2007 9:03:14 PM)
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I say something similar on my profile, and I hope it doesn't make people think I am unattractive or desperate!
In fact, personal appearance is very important to me. I expect people I am interested in to be clean, well groomed, and attractive to ME. It's simply that age, race, and body type rarely play a role in what I do or don't find attractive. I mention specifically in my profile that I am often attracted to people with a slightly larger body type. I've dated drop dead gorgeous guys that could be models for Calvin Klein and felt absolutely no desire to have sex with their hot skinny selves, but my libido goes gaga for the more cuddly guys, many of whom often feel like an attractive woman won't look at them twice because they carry a few extra pounds. And women, well, I just find more curvaceous women more attractive period, in all ways. So I always say something about this in my profile
I myself am very tall and slender and relatively fit. I can't explain why I am attracted to the people I am attracted to, but it has nothing to do with codifiable characteristics like age, race, or appearance. It's something chemical. This is another reason that I refuse to have online and LD relationships.
Maybe I'm just more in touch with my animal side, but I've met people and thought "Totally not my type, god I want to fuck them!"
My aesthetic sensibilities and my body chemistry are often at odds, because my aesthetic sensibilities are influenced by my culture, while my body chemistry is not.
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