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takenbyjohnr07 -> Assignments (12/11/2007 9:50:19 AM)
Do you get a lot of assignments if any from your Dominant? Do you like getting assignments? What was the assignment that you found the hardest to do or maybe understand?

lockmeupplease -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 9:55:03 AM)
I have a standing daily assignment to write in my journal here and e-mail my Miss at the end of the day. If you find an assignment hard to understand, I would strongly suggest asking for clarification so that you don't go through a lot of effort for something your Dom doesn't really want.

wisteriaV -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 9:55:56 AM)
Is this a test? No Master never did that.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 10:02:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 Do you get a lot of assignments if any from your Dominant? yes, daily. quote: Do you like getting assignments? like? lives for. quote: What was the assignment that you found the hardest to do or maybe understand? in the beginning, participate in this forum.

juliaoceania -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 10:15:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 Do you get a lot of assignments if any from your Dominant? Do you like getting assignments? What was the assignment that you found the hardest to do or maybe understand? I am given assignments on a regular basis... right now my assignment is to get into one of the top graduate schools for my chosen discipline in the nation... I am working rather hard on that assignment presently... I suppose I may fail at that assignment.... but then again I maybe able to get it done...smiles. I have other assignments as well, like report writing. These reports involve sexual things, movies he has me watch so I can point out the deep significance in them, and books he has me read. I have an ongoing list, so when I have free time I and want to rent a movie or read a book.. I go to that list. It is one of the most wonderful aspects of our dynamic. We get to discuss some insightful things as a result of these assignments. Edited to add that the assignment that I found the hardest was one that ended in failure for both of us.. but it taught us a lot about our relationship... In fact in my experience there is nothing like failure to teach you the things you need to know. I will not go into what this failure involved because it is personal... but it goes to limits..we do not choose our limits, they just exist outside of ourselves... and we both learned that we have them. But those who do not reach for more are often left with stagnation...and since it did not kill what we had, perhaps it made it stronger.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 10:19:17 AM)
nope - we don't have the type of D/s dynamic where my daily life is micro-managed

juliaoceania -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 10:22:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl nope - we don't have the type of D/s dynamic where my daily life is micro-managed Why would you assume that getting an assignment involves daily micromanaging? I have not had a report writing assignment in weeks because I am busy with my graduate school ap and on the computer a lot of the time awaiting email responses... Assignments do not equal micromanaging.. they are not necessarily daily, and they take endless forms... from journal writing, to movie watching, to report writing

KatyLied -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 10:22:47 AM)
I like assignments, I think becauseI always enjoyed school. My former dominant had me start an on-line journal. It was something that I sometimes had trouble with as I felt like I had nothing to say. But there were also days when the flowing stream-of-consciousness felt good and freeing to me. I also seriously undertook meditation. Meditation helped me to calm down in my life and to expand my thinking. I sometimes do both of these things for me, but not in the regimented fashion I used to.

agirl -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 11:01:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl nope - we don't have the type of D/s dynamic where my daily life is micro-managed (I don't think it has anything at all to do with micro-managing and I'm not sure how you associated them) No, I don't get a lot of assignments but if he thinks something will be beneficial he'll pass one. I had to join a Writer's Workshop a few years ago, that was one of the hardest things to do, and still is in some ways but I get so much out of it and enjoy it, even so. agirl

batshalom -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 11:09:45 AM)
In the past, I got a fair amount of assignments, some of them for my personal benefit (because I don't do Me Things often) and some of them at his whim for his pleasure. The hardest ones for me were the things like or "go spend the day out of the house doing things you enjoy" or "go get a pedicure / massage / nice lunch", things like that. It's not that I don't think I deserve these things, it's that I'd rather be of service to someone else.

Elegant -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 11:10:31 AM)
I have assignments all the time. My every day life consists of assignments (ie: something assigned, as a particular task or duty): Wake him up Clean house Laundry Secretarial work Financial work Leatherwork Scheduling Ironing Cooking Etc Etc Do you, perhaps, mean assignments such as ones a student might be given at school? (reading, writing and math?).

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 11:28:17 AM)
exactly. it has nothing to do with being mircomanaged. i am given assignments when it suits my Owner. So it is not an every day thing.

mhawk -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 11:52:07 AM)
i have daily assignments from my Lord and my Mistress.in fact they are up on sheets of paper on the kitchen cabinets so i am reminded of them everytime i get something out.for the most part they are easy stuff really,up keep of the house and done so in certain ways.in addition i get assignments from my Mistress when i go help Her at Her workplace twice a week.everythign has to be done correctly.if i do it wrong i am shown how to again but so far nothing i've done wrong has lead to punishment. i know it sounds silly but that hardest thing i have that i can't seem to get right is setting the table correctly.my Lord is very particular how He likes it to be set and so far i've just confused where things go but it hasn't been bad enough to cause any discipline.

juliaoceania -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 2:06:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Elegant I have assignments all the time. My every day life consists of assignments (ie: something assigned, as a particular task or duty): Wake him up Clean house Laundry Secretarial work Financial work Leatherwork Scheduling Ironing Cooking Etc Etc Do you, perhaps, mean assignments such as ones a student might be given at school? (reading, writing and math?). I did not even consider those things assignments... I guess I do have daily assignments... I call him every night when we are a part to remind him to take his medicine. And I do all the other things without being told when I am with him... There are times he has had me research things for him too.

SageFemmexx -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 2:23:12 PM)
I had a period in which I was severely depressed and mourning the loss of a loved one. I needed assignments in order to remind me of my priorities and to have a goal each day. At the time, my relationship was LD and he simply reminded me to make sure I went to counseling, I went to my dental appt., I needed to enroll in a class, etc. Believe me, grieving makes your mind blank and I needed and appreciated those assignments. However, they have become ingrained and every morning as I sip my coffee, I review what goals I have for the day and consider them as part of the tasks I report even when he is out of town--which is most of the time. Micromanaging is when someone's tiniest tasks are managed--I've seen subs begging to be allowed to use the bathroom or to get a drink of water. I would find that kind of intervention in my life intolerable. I work on tasks and goals in order to make him and me proud but thanks, I can manage my bodily functions by myself. Blessings and Be Well,

girlygurl -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 2:29:31 PM)
A daily journal and my weekly schedule. girly

MisterP61 -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 2:29:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Elegant I have assignments all the time. My every day life consists of assignments (ie: something assigned, as a particular task or duty): Wake him up Clean house Laundry Secretarial work Financial work Leatherwork Scheduling Ironing Cooking Etc Etc Do you, perhaps, mean assignments such as ones a student might be given at school? (reading, writing and math?). Hello Elegant, and please give My regards to Master Archer. Every Time I see the both of Y/you I learn things and it is always a pleasure. I had to reply to this post because the first time I met both you and Master Archer at SELF, He said some things that meant a lot to Me in a personal discussion I had with Him. I took it as an assignment and as a NEW Dom to the lifestyle I took His words seriously. Here is the gist of it. I had taken title (which I know are only words) that I had not earned... that was Master. He never came out and told Me I should change that, however; I understood what He was telling Me.... I needed to learn so much more about this whole dynamic before I could truely call Myself Master. I am learning all of the time, some lessons are great and some are harsh, but learn I still do. I need to add here that I was already told this by My Wife, but it was Me who is the stubborn mule that I am, that I could not hear it from Her. That has changed mostly, and I have since learned many things from Her, and She always tells Me to be a bit more original in My dynamic, but if it works, it works, and is it not the sincerest form of flattery to want to mimic those that One sees it working for? Maybe not, but I see that it does work, and I do not use all that She does, however; the things I do use that She has taught Me work I have learned that assignments are not just for Submissive/slaves. I have learned that assignments are not a punishment, but rather a learning vessel for A/all. I changed My name and have been happier for it, and for that I will ever be grateful to Master Archer, and though I never asked Him to be a mentor, I still use Him as One, by watching His actions, listening to the things He discusses, by watching you around Him. I look forward to the next time W/we get to see the both of Y/you in Atlanta at the club. May your day be blessed. MP

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 2:33:06 PM)
i have known loss too and you are right. Assignments and tasks do help. i also agree that i could not live micromanaged either. It sounds awful, but i guess everything is not for everyone.

curiousfox -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 2:43:56 PM)
In the past, my ex would give me assignments, although very rarely. With another there was a time I was set both a mental task (some weekly writing), and some physical tasks (practicing different positions, etc). Generally I think they each had things to offer. The writing was helpful just from a straight vanilla perspective of the things I was looking for in a relationship. The physical tasks had their advantage as well. Overall, I don;t think I'd mind someone I was seeing giving me things to accomplish, as long as they are not taking advantage of me with it. Yes, yes, I know I'm the sub, its my job to follow my dominant's orders, etc etc, but there is a line between being dominant and being an abusive ass. One I like, the other, not so much.

littleone35 -> RE: Assignments (12/11/2007 3:36:23 PM)
The only real assignment i have from Master is to get and 80 or above on my college tests. With my bad study habits i did nto think it was going to be easy. Knowing i have to do well has actually helped in my study habits. So haveing a goal to shoot for is great. Matt's littleone

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