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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 12/14/2007 7:42:22 AM

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I am assuming the kitty nose gives you away like a motherfucker anyhow.........

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 12/14/2007 8:01:02 AM

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My household is out so not really an issue we think about.

I have a living will myself in place and I've talked to both the husband and my slave about what to do should I be injured to the point of being unable to make decisions -- pull plug, boys, I cannot possibly drain my households resources on me; the Divine wants me to live, I'll live; death is not to be feared.

My concerns about my household should I die though is a big driving force behind my making sure they can support themselves, they still social, they can do everything that needs to be done even if it's in theory because I explain the decisions I make.

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 12/14/2007 8:07:41 AM

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Honestly, I could care less what anyone thinks about me when I am dead. I would hope that my parents would not be around when I die and they are all I worry about anyway.

I care much more about who is going to get all my great jewelry and handbags that I obsessively collected over the years, I am sure some women in the family will be fighting about that too much to care about my toys.

Now THIS I can relate to! Mah jewelry collection is a sight to behold. The will that governs who gets what, of all my personal possessions, will be an ever changing document.

I hear you. Without having children, I never think about a will, but I guess I should. I would only want my twin nieces to inherit my stuff, they are little girls now but I am already turning them into little fashionistas!

So hopefully when I am dead, they will miss me but if they wear my jewelry they will look down at the jewelry and say, My Aunt Sexyred1, she rocked it!!

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 12/14/2007 9:06:22 AM

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My parents have chosen me to be the executor of their will, and my younger siblings don't know. When they asked me, I begged them to choose a different kid, because I have seen too many families torn apart over things...and that's all they are, things. I

My great grandmother was given a broach watch as an engagement present. Her five daughters were fighting over who would get it, so she decided to give it to me, her only great-grand-daughter at the time of her passing. I am a sentimental creature, so I think I was the appropriate person to inherit it. Unfortunately, my grandmother was so upset that it was willed to me, that she kept it for "safe keeping" until I was older. The reality was that she didn't want me to have it because my mother is adopted, and she didn't want my mom in the first place- it was my adoptive grandfather who really wanted my mom. 8 years later, my grandmother gave birth to a son. He married a selfish materialistic hose-beast who had a daughter who was trained at an early age to say things like, "How many credit cards do you have?" Right before my grandmother died, she gave the watch to my cousin, and I'm sure it's shoved into a sock drawer somewhere, and if she could trade it in for a more fashionable piece of jewelry, she's do it in a heartbeat.

It really hurt that I didn't get the watch, but I'm over it. Besides, I have something of my nana's that means much more to me. She used to read her bible to me. It's a well-worn bible written in Italian. She had wanted to be a nun, but met my nano and fell in love so got married. She willed her bible to me, and I have it. If I was given the choice right now to give up the bible for the watch, I'd keep the bible.

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 12/14/2007 12:24:39 PM

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sorry but I had to laugh at the OP heading...
because if i suddenly died i wouldn't give a shit about anyrhing....it's a long slow lingering painful one that worries me...but then again...on second thoughts....lol.....
to be serious i think if anyone i left behind found my lingerie or crops or tens or lube or whatever whatever yaddah yaddah they would say good on yer girl and at last all my ex's can meet up in one place and exchange experiences.....I will insist on best champagne and a cocktail of pills being served at my wake.and i will have..."i was bound to"....enscribed on my tombstome amyway....

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 12/14/2007 1:29:20 PM

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I don't think anyone would be a bit surprised. They would look, roll their eyes, and laugh a little.

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 12/14/2007 1:38:21 PM

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"Inside of these boxes are some things of a sexual nature that we enjoyed together. We respectfully ask that you do not look into these boxes and that you just dispose of them, and know that we loved each other very much. Thanks."

Bwahhahahhah! Like they're NOT going to look anyway. OMFG, if I were the one who found the box of a deceased relative with that note, I'd be in that box in a flash. Bless yer little heart for leaving them a nice note like that. ( I can't wait to hear what Muttling has to say about this one)

And personally, I could not care less what my parents will be thinking when they find my stash, because I'm going to be way too busy haunting all the motherf*ckers I don't like. I'm actually looking forward to death.....Imma have me so much fun once I'm gone. =P

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PS Actually, this has got me thinking; I want to be cremated, but where's the fun in that? Take my bag of kink clothes and toys to the fucking mortician and strip my body naked, embalm me and then bind me up in my favorite cords, gag and blindfold me. AND LEAVE THE CASKET OPEN AT THE SITTING UP AND THE FUNERAL FOR ALL TO SEE!!!!! YES!!! And please feel free to bring your loved one to visit my grave. Strip the bitch and bunk her over my headstone, fuck her brains out and leave your spunk on mah grave!! I would be most appreciative.

(I know, I know. Imma sick bitch, aint' I?)

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 12/16/2007 12:05:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

When I am dead and gone I am not going to care what they think when they start digging through my shit.

I couldn't agree more. I do not worry about dieing, for if I do, then I will never truely live. W/we do A/all have a terminal illness.... it is called life. Not O/one of U/us will escape the end.

Just because one makes plans for their demise does not mean that they are focused on dying. Many people cannot face the fact they will die so they put off making plans for what happens when they do.

Some of us would leave behind people that depend on us, so we plan for "what if", and in the big scheme of what happens when we die and how that impacts our loved ones, I suppose a few toys and pics do not matter

I was not clear.... I sure did not mean that plans for the eventual death shouldnt be made.... just that I do not fixate on the fact that I am going to die. Thank you for bringing that one to My attention.... I enjoy reading your posts in the forums.

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 12/16/2007 4:31:59 PM

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Sorry to put out a morbid question, but what if you died unexpectedly, meaning a car crash or some other tragedy? Have any of you made arrangements to explain your kink to the people who would take care of disposing of or distributing your kinky possessions?

My husband and I have a note inside of a sealed envelope that we attach to the top box of our "wickety-wack" as we jokingly refer to it. It basically says something to the effect of:

"Inside of these boxes are some things of a sexual nature that we enjoyed together. We respectfully ask that you do not look into these boxes and that you just dispose of them, and know that we loved each other very much. Thanks."

Have any of you made arrangements like this, or do you have any suggestions for us that we could do to improve on our plan? I believe that my loved ones would respect our request, and I'd rather that they just knew right off the bat that there are private things in these boxes, and not have them open these these things up and wonder what the hell we were into. If they did decide to open up our boxes of wickety-wack, I'd rather they had read the note in advance so they'd know, "OK, they were into some weird crap, but it was consensual."

Any thoughts?

As all of my vanilla friends know of my "kink" they know to come and take care of things for me. They would box up my things and give them to the people i've designated them to. ( some may be pleasantly surprised too!)

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 12/16/2007 7:15:14 PM

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There would be some very long and disappointed faces if people dug through my crap and didn't find a bunch of sick shit there!

Why prepare? I only regret not being able to see their reactions!

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 12/17/2007 12:05:04 AM

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The people who know me know enough to not be surprised, but to be honest, if I die, I doubt anyone will even know.

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 12/17/2007 12:17:06 AM

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That's honestly my only concern as well....That if i die, people that i care about that are important to me, will never know...

Although to the Op regarding what if i unexpectedly died?????? uhmm....i'd be dead...

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 1/21/2008 12:21:21 AM

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Sorry to put out a morbid question, but what if you died unexpectedly, meaning a car crash or some other tragedy? Have any of you made arrangements to explain your kink to the people who would take care of disposing of or distributing your kinky possessions?

Life (death) insurance ftw. And I dispose of all my kink gear among children in my neighborhood _FUKKIN NOT_ duh.

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 1/21/2008 1:17:03 AM

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I have a will. In it is a note to the effect of, "I've lived well and without regrets; I'm so happy to have been able to live this life knowing all of you, my loved ones. I've enjoyed my life.. largely thanks to you.. so I hope you may continue to enjoy yours with my blessing."

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 1/21/2008 8:37:15 AM

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I grew up on one of the Fire Island gay communities. I am, and my siblings are, unshockable. My offspring pretty much are also due to the time they've spent out there. Once you've stood on a beach chatting with the person who came to dinner the night before while this person is totally nude, or at the grocery store while they're in full drag, nothing can faze you.

My son is still young enough that he wouldn't want to think about me having sex. Nobody else in the family would blink an eye. My sister would get stuck with the job I'm sure, she'd look in the bag, yawn and dump it into a garbage bag. Same as we did cleaning out my mother's sex toy cabinet after her death. Although if they had been in a bag and I didn't have to pick them up to toss out, I would have been happier.

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 1/21/2008 9:09:45 AM

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We have a few very old close vanilla friends who know we are into this...
what about leaving specific instructions that your stuff is to go to these friends? make it easy on yourselves. orrr-- what about being ok w/ chance of someone looking at it? you might just inadvertently introduce someone to the lifestyle.

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 1/21/2008 10:33:01 AM

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My one gf that has a key to my house has already said she'd come in and clear all that stuff out including my dairies.

My family and freinds know to varying degrees what i am and what I do, but i'd still rather have it out of the house before my mother had to go through my stuff.

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 1/21/2008 10:53:33 AM

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we have um's and we have a designated person to care for all our 'incase we're killed/dead' events who gets how we are - we have living wills and specific instructions. She gets to be here before anyone else or with other people (incase of hospital stays etc) but she knows what she is to do and our families respect her position.

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 1/21/2008 11:58:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: gorgeous1

Sorry to put out a morbid question, but what if you died unexpectedly, meaning a car crash or some other tragedy? Have any of you made arrangements to explain your kink to the people who would take care of disposing of or distributing your kinky possessions?

My husband and I have a note inside of a sealed envelope that we attach to the top box of our "wickety-wack" as we jokingly refer to it. It basically says something to the effect of:

"Inside of these boxes are some things of a sexual nature that we enjoyed together. We respectfully ask that you do not look into these boxes and that you just dispose of them, and know that we loved each other very much. Thanks."

Have any of you made arrangements like this, or do you have any suggestions for us that we could do to improve on our plan? I believe that my loved ones would respect our request, and I'd rather that they just knew right off the bat that there are private things in these boxes, and not have them open these these things up and wonder what the hell we were into. If they did decide to open up our boxes of wickety-wack, I'd rather they had read the note in advance so they'd know, "OK, they were into some weird crap, but it was consensual."

Any thoughts?

I'll be completely honest, I haven't even thought about my toys/books and what my teenager or my other family members would do with them. I think it's a great idea to but a sealed envelope stating that my toys were a way to enjoy my sexual freedom...which is completely precious to each of us and as private or public as we each choose. I chose semi-private...gosh knows I love to mentally mess with my teenager son (I have to give him something to say to the pychiatrist, since it's ALL my fault!)...but he also knows that the toys were to me pure fun and enjoyment. When the time comes and if he's the one to deal with my effects, then he'll know there was always laughter involved with me and my toys!

Plus, my family thinks I'm crazy, the toys would just confirm what they already think!

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RE: What if you unexpectedly died? - 1/21/2008 11:59:53 AM

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I'm out to the people who would matter and I don't give a damn about those who don't. Of course the most important thing would be to quickly make a list of people whom I would haunt because being dead can be really boring if you can't haunt anyone.

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