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To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/13/2007 11:06:03 PM

kennyautopsy

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Are any of You being met with the opposition of age that I am? I have been mocked, ignored,etc by many "subs" on this site simply due to My age. I don't by any means know nor claim to know everything there is to know about BDSM or D/s. I would say I am of average knowledge and still learning everyday. However, there are many Dom(me)s decades older than Me with equal or EVEN LESS knowledge and experience than Myself that are met with more respect and courtesy (and certainly less opposition) than I have been. While agree, in many venues of the world, age does play a major part. I'm sure I could never explain the Vietnam War and vividly and explicitly as a 60 year old veteran could, but this lifestyle is completely different. With so many resources available, I could have as much knowledge and experience as some twice my age who's spent an equal amount of time in this lifestyle.

All I'm saying is, the entire outside world is ignorant to O/our way of life, and continuously demonizes us for the choices we make in our personal lives. What makes any of U/us any better if W/we cruise around this site (or anywhere else) with O/our noses in the air as though W/we are too good to learn something from someone younger than O/ourselves? Ignorance makes U/us all look bad.

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/13/2007 11:07:48 PM

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kenny we all read most of the sections and it's a violation of the TOS to make multiple threads on the same topic.

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/13/2007 11:09:18 PM

kc692

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I haven't that problem, but then again, I'm old.

Not trying to be snarky, but complaining on a post when so new, sometimes makes just a bad impression as ignorance. JMHO

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/13/2007 11:10:02 PM

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People have preferences AND choices. If their choice is an older D, good luck to them. Bitching isnt going to change a thing. Ranting about how badly done to you are IS going to get you ignored as a petulant child.

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/13/2007 11:39:59 PM

kennyautopsy

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Actually, one posing a question to Doms.Another to subs.

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/13/2007 11:42:00 PM

MissMagnolia

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Its still a boo hoo, poor me thread about an18 year old wanting to be viewed seriously.

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 12:12:06 AM

LittleWench

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quote:

I have been mocked, ignored,etc by many "subs" on this site simply due to My age.

I will give the same answer that I did on the submissive thread you createed.

I would not want to be dominated by someone still in or barely out of highschool.
Not even if you were Doogie Howser...

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 12:47:17 AM

MasterFireMaam

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People may not be saying no to your lack of BDSM experience, but no to your lack of life experience. Unfortunately, there's no way to change that but to live. Get into your local community, especially if you can find a TNG chapter...keep learning...and keep looking.

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 2:11:52 AM

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Sit, Watch, Learn.

Be who and what you are without caring about what others think.

Complaints like this generally don't help.

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 3:56:53 AM

OldBastardly1

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So you have read books and have practiced on-line. You know all the right words to say. You know how to do the the "W/we" & "O/our".

BFD!

You do not have the hands-on experience required. You do not know the inner workings of the mind. You do not know how the human body ( and mind ) processes and responds to stimuli.

What do you think that you have mastered? Toys? Techniques? Philosophies?

Just sit down, relax and eat your cocoa puffs. There is nothing wrong with being new and inexperienced. What *is* wrong is *staying* new & inexperienced. Many older, experienced Doms/Masters would be glad to help you learn & grow.

All the best to you.

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 4:30:04 AM

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Ahhh, yes, the mysteries of why many a teenage dom isn't taken seriously.... So you have at least an "average" knowledge of BDSM or D/s and you're even indignant about how you may know more than some decades older! *gasp* But what you don't have is *maturity*....

Consider this... A D/s relationship is based on a control dynamic, where the sub looks to the Dom to take charge and make decisions etc. Doubtless that's right up the alley of your average teenage egomaniac who's da man at video games or artistic graffiti tags etc but you've gotta see it from the sub's perspective.

Forget BDSM for a sec, what is *your* track record for being a mature and responsible adult? Those geritatric doms with less lifestyle knowledge and experience than you can usually point at other things that portray how they have their general life shit together. You know, a job, car, own home, a certain amount of financial security, maybe have or already raised a family etc - things that demonstrate stability and responsibility! And if they have those things under control...., you see where the sub's mind is going? BTW, how's your personal yardstick measuring up now?

You're a kid in comparison! Scratch that - you're a kid! My question is simply "Why are you even here"? What tha hell need does a teenager have for a control based dynamic that charges you with responsibility for another's wellbeing? Pardon my prejudices but most your age are looking for a good time and couldn't care less who picks up the damage bill or where you throw up/wake up afterwards! Grow up, go get some *LIFE* experience, then check back in a decade or so if you still have a burning need to add to your other life's responsibilities by owning a slave, too! Real life ain't a video game where you just shrug off your losses and hit the "Play Again" button....

Focus.

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 5:57:22 AM

sambamanslilgirl

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what i said in the other thread on Ask Submissives/Slaves and one more thing, it's hard to believe that many of you are such "experts" in BDSM activities. i have my doubts if you're an "expert" in objectification or humiliation.

edited to add - many younger doms are in the habit of demanding respect from older Dom/mes and submissives/slaves. well, junior, respect is earned ...just like your title. acting immature will not give the respect you so desire.

< Message edited by sambamanslilgirl -- 12/14/2007 5:59:50 AM >

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 6:00:39 AM

mnottertail

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I dont think they have it broke down by receiving or anything................

Ron

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 7:17:47 AM

kennyautopsy

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Maybe I need to clarify. This post is less of a complaint and more of a question to figure out why there is such a stigma towards younger Dom(me)s.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Qithoras

Sit, Watch, Learn.

Be who and what you are without caring about what others think.

Complaints like this generally don't help.

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 7:20:38 AM

OldBastardly1

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Maybe *we* need to clarify. We are all blessed with 2 ears & 1 mouth...notice the ratio there? I think we addressed the reasons for the stigma. Just because you choose not to hear us, does not mean that we didn't say it.

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 7:22:48 AM

kennyautopsy

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You make a fairly valid point through most of you response, but you don't know me or anything about me. This is just the point I'm making. People (in or out of BDSM) make assumptions based on superficial ideals. you haven't taken the time to interact with me on any significant level to determine my level of maturity, or if I'm one of these teenagers who believes they're "da man".All I'm saying is, isn't it possible that we can learn from eachother rather than it being a one way street?

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

Ahhh, yes, the mysteries of why many a teenage dom isn't taken seriously.... So you have at least an "average" knowledge of BDSM or D/s and you're even indignant about how you may know more than some decades older! *gasp* But what you don't have is *maturity*....

Consider this... A D/s relationship is based on a control dynamic, where the sub looks to the Dom to take charge and make decisions etc. Doubtless that's right up the alley of your average teenage egomaniac who's da man at video games or artistic graffiti tags etc but you've gotta see it from the sub's perspective.

Forget BDSM for a sec, what is *your* track record for being a mature and responsible adult? Those geritatric doms with less lifestyle knowledge and experience than you can usually point at other things that portray how they have their general life shit together. You know, a job, car, own home, a certain amount of financial security, maybe have or already raised a family etc - things that demonstrate stability and responsibility! And if they have those things under control...., you see where the sub's mind is going? BTW, how's your personal yardstick measuring up now?

You're a kid in comparison! Scratch that - you're a kid! My question is simply "Why are you even here"? What tha hell need does a teenager have for a control based dynamic that charges you with responsibility for another's wellbeing? Pardon my prejudices but most your age are looking for a good time and couldn't care less who picks up the damage bill or where you throw up/wake up afterwards! Grow up, go get some *LIFE* experience, then check back in a decade or so if you still have a burning need to add to your other life's responsibilities by owning a slave, too! Real life ain't a video game where you just shrug off your losses and hit the "Play Again" button....

Focus.

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 7:37:57 AM

mnottertail

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and all the 18 year old girls run up to the old guys...begging collars......

look superficial or no........

give it some time is is out of focus on both ends of the spectrum.

Ron

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 7:39:45 AM

OldBastardly1

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That reminded me of a "Maury" show, where the unruly teen screams " you don't know me, you don't know me....."

I am open to learning from each other. I have experinece, knowledge, wisdom, maturity, etc......what do you bring to the table?

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 7:40:35 AM

mnottertail

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I liked the ones where the girl turned out to be a guy........

screamy bitchy teenagers don't require a tv show....you can get them anywhere

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RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s - 12/14/2007 8:13:11 AM

deeddlit

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To the OP...I think your lack of just the day to day real life is showing. You seem to be assuming that if someone is rejecting you for your age they don't have a good valid reason and are just being jerks, sounds like a personal problem to me! Not to mention, you want everyone else to be so accepting of you and what you have to offer, yet you don't seem to be accepting of anyone that does not want what you have to offer. Last time I checked, the practice of acceptance is supposed to be practiced even when you don't like the answer!

There are exceptions to every rule and you may be that exception, that does NOT change the fact that you are 18 and for a lot of folks that alone will be an issue, for some reason...and guess what...thats ok!! Their reasons are valid for them and that is enough.

The quote "Be the change you would like to see in the world" came screaming to mind when I saw this post. Be more accepting...start there and then see where that takes you...btw, that doesn't mean when you still don't get your way in 6months it is time to come back and start whining. Whining and pointing the finger at the other folks calling them not fair disguised as a question is STILL WHINING!!

Live!! I am sure you will eventually find someone willing to travel your chosen road with you...one of the things I have learned over the years...NO matter what your kink is or isn't...there are always others out there that share it and would enjoy the journey...she/he may be 18 themselves.

My 2cents

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