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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 12:45:47 PM

azropedntied

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I am willing to keep learning and growing
-To keep working on myself to be the best me i can be .
-To help those who wish help
-To share what i know and have learned those those who wish to further learn
-To teach those who are new and keep them safe
-I am willing to share an exchange with one whom i entrust
-I shall hold no expectations nor agenda
-I am willing to give respect to those who give respect yet i hsall remain respectful
-I am willing to remain Honorable in actions and deeds .
-I shall respect others limits and require the same of others .
-No unwelcomed advances shall be tollerated upon my person as i shall do the same in turn
-When an unsafe act where harm may befall another i shall not remain silent yet i shall still remain respectful
-I do not lie inturn do not tollerate lies
--Drama shall be at best kept to a min best if none at all
-i have no secrets dont ask me to hold yours
-I shall give open honest communications and expect the same in return
-we shall enjoy and live and laugh if not then why are we doing this
-I am willing with the right person be a submissive ,bottom ,or Top , Dom , maybe mentor educator , advisor , confidant ,supporter ,even pony to a trainer ,or we may share energy ,or just be with in a community in fellowship .A dynamic can be many things yet i shall strive to be the best me i can be in the end .
With out filling pages those are some of my main points .

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 1:20:27 PM

fit2pleaseu

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i am new to the lifestyle in terms of a signing a contract but that was my first major hurdle and a huge step for someone who had desires but also fears about the unknown.
Saying that i am now loving my experiences the most important aspect for me so far has been to communicate with my Mistress and to be completely honest with her.
The communication part in particular is a positive step for someone who used to bottle emotions and often thoughts inside and it is my mistress who has given me the confidence and trust to do this.
I feel that i am learning alot more about who i am and that is making for some intimate and intense feeling between us which we are both enjoying very much.
I think by being completely open and honest is far more rewarding for us both than any physical offerings or acts i may perform or submit to although of course the flow on affect to these is all the better for this.

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 1:36:31 PM

SunNMoon

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I’m willing to be myself, to be open and honest about my desires and need to myself and others. I’m also willing to keep on being happy while I enjoy looking for the right partner and hope to make friends on this journey. I’m not willing to put my life on hold or to limit what I want to do to have one desire met. I’m willing to work to have a fulfilling life.

I'm willing to laugh at myself.

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 1:59:52 PM

AFlyInYourWeb

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Or, what have you done to be pro-active in putting BDSM in your life?

After thirty-odd years of experience, I moved to a small town and took on professional and community obligations that kept me from doing anything about WIITWD for four years. Recently, I decided to "do" something about that.

First, I began cutting back on my community obligations to secure TIME to have a relationship [I plan on success, so I am preparing for it].

Second, I joined CM.

Third, I began reading the Message Boards. I wanted to know what people involved in WIITWD were thinking and talking about.

Fourth, I began posting to the Message Boards.

Fifth, when I have the occasion to write to someone, using the insights gained in Step Three, I take the time to read their profile, and where available, their journal entries and MB posts. As I read this material, with the time I had to invest because of Step One, I jot down little notes: "Lives for horses", "computer games", "NPR"...anything and everything but D/s and BDSM. I use these notes as the basis for an e-mail. I usually type the draft on Word so I can take advantage of Spell Check, Grammar Check, and the Word Counter.

Sixth, each night at midnight, I sacrifice a chicken at the altar of the FemDom Goddess. On special occasions, I spring for a cornish hen.

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 2:01:53 PM

mnottertail

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I am willing to swim a shit river a mile wide and swallow a turd every stroke just to kiss the spot she pissed on, but she better give good head, goddammit.

Ron

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 2:03:44 PM

Jeffff

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Remind me not to share a bottle of Jamesons with you....ok?

Jeff Bushmill

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 2:10:22 PM

Ryugen

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Without reading any of the responces, and in responce to the OP;
I have taken out a $4,000NZ (New Zealand) personal loan for travel expences to head over to the USA and collar a slave. Then her and I will be working to save up money to bring her back here to NZ. We had already planned on getting together and forming a relationship, but then I was introduced to BDSM by her and am now a lot happier being kinky than vanilla.
So, to fulfill my/our desires I'm heading across the world and bringing her back (although, sadly, not all at once).

Just remember people, you can really only hand your heart to someone else in person ;)

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 2:10:29 PM

SylvereApLeanan

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AFlyInYourWeb
Sixth, each night at midnight, I sacrifice a chicken at the altar of the FemDom Goddess. On special occasions, I spring for a cornish hen.

You may have better success with chocolate.

Otherwise, nice post. It's so refreshing to see someone who makes a point of noting another's interests that have nothing to do with "the scene" and everything to do with the person.

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 2:15:28 PM

Tigrita

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Most of these I'd never considered doing before I came here. But then I came here... and found so many more things about myself that I couldn't put back in the box and now I'm willing to:

*Never say never; open my mind to ideas and perspectives I'd never imagined.
*Bring down the walls. Being fiercely, defensively independent for years (read: over-compensating hehe), I've finally found the reason and the beauty behind vulnerability and intimacy. This has been the hardest, and most rewarding thing for me. This encompasses so many things... trusting someone enough to actively submit to them in ways that make me painfully vulnerable, letting someone inside my head enough to give them the power to hurt me and trust that they won't, letting someone be a priority in my life and truly try to build a partnership...

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 2:19:28 PM

eldervelvet

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SunNMoon

I’m willing to be myself, to be open and honest about my desires and need to myself and others. I’m also willing to keep on being happy while I enjoy looking for the right partner and hope to make friends on this journey. I’m not willing to put my life on hold or to limit what I want to do to have one desire met. I’m willing to work to have a fulfilling life.

I'm willing to laugh at myself.

Wonderful words. Just the thing to remember when the going gets discouraging.

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 2:22:52 PM

Skully7000

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one of my favorite quotes(though its not a literary masterpiece): "Don't tell me what you want. Tell me what you are doing to get it!"

-I wasn't a fan of the clubs I was going to in the locations I wanted, so when the oppurtunity presented itself I became a partner in a club night that was exactly what I wanted... it lasted more then a year!... not bad considering the average length of new club events especially in the location.

-I didn't understand alot of BDSM concepts that were hurting my mostly vanilla relationships... so i started going to different organizations in NYC learning as much as I could. and I still activly search out new information.

-I've discovered not just passing interests but true Desires in various forms of kink that I wasn't aware of before. the more I learn about things the better I am, the better I am the more I contribute to the scene. the more I can share with newcomers. the more I can experience with partners. the further I can safely take my submissives.

-I am willing to steer people in the right direction so that they avoid some of the pitfalls plagueing the scene.

-I am willing to keep learning and keep trying new things.

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 2:31:56 PM

thetammyjo

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I'm willing to be myself.

Myself though has two stable relationships and a household I'm in charge of so honestly most of the compromise in any future relationship will by necessity come from a new person fitting into our lives.

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 3:00:58 PM

slavegirljoy

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

what have you done to be pro-active in putting BDSM in your life?

i was willing to keep searching for the BDSM relationship that i desired, even after having gone through some failed attempts. i was willing to put myself out there and not just sit back, hoping that, somehow, the fates would magically put me in the right place at the right time with the right person. i was willing to be persistent but, not with single-minded obsessiveness, about pursuing the type of relationship with the type of man that i felt would be mutually satisfying and fulfilling. i was willing to keep myself open to other possibilities for relationships that i hadn't considered, without forgetting or ignoring my desires and needs. i was willing to be honest, first, with myself, and then, with others, about who i am, what i was wanting/needing/expecting from a relationship, what i have & haven't done, what i consider my strengths and weaknesses to be, what's important to me, in terms of my values, beliefs, and goals, and, what being in a 24/7, TPE, M/s relationship means to me. i was willing to do the necessary work to find out that the man i was interested in had the character traits, ethics, personality and, style that i could commit to serving, without hesitation, question or, regret. i was willing to take the risk of driving to meet a man, 2 states away, who i only knew through His emails, chatting on-line and, speaking on the phone. i was willing to keep my head on straight and not allow my desires to overstep my sensibilities. i was willing to make promises and commitments that i knew i was capable of and intending to keep and nothing more. i was willing to follow through on my intentions and keep my promises and commitments. i was willing to stay true to myself, while adapting to a new relationship with a new man in a new location. i was willing to be flexible about my vision and expectation of what this relationship would entail, even as unexpected events caused necessary changes to take place. i was willing to believe that good things could happen for me, as long as i didn't give up. It has paid off in a very positive way, with 2 of the best years of my life now spent serving my wonderful Master. slave joyOwned property of Master David

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 3:06:05 PM

ExSteelAgain

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With the internet is it incredibly easy to meet someone to play with who meets your criteria. It doesn’t matter if you are in rural Texas or NYC, you can talk to someone online, get to know the person and end up playing or whatever. In reality those who say they can’t find anyone are putting up their own road blocks.

I know I’m happy enough and owe it to the internet. I’m also a very private person due to my career and wouldn’t publicly be known around this town (Lady Pact’s town, also). If I desire public company in lifestyle clubs it will be in Atlanta. If I weren’t happy and wanted something else I’d start getting to know others online. Really most anyone can meet people online and live out their desires if they want to.

As far as learning more, I can always do that because learning about BDSM is a pleasure for me and not something I have work at. What I particularly like doing is reading about the motivation of different people on both sides of the coin. That leads me to a deeper understanding of many things. I want to be a better Dom and person next year to turn it into a New Year’s resolution.

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 3:46:58 PM

littlehumbledone

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First big thing was actually admitting to myself what it was that I was feeling, and what I needed, and then the second big thing was signing up on here, which has been an incredibly interesting experience, I have met some absolutely wonderful people that I will be pursuing further talks and meetings with.

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 4:07:54 PM

LittleWench

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I was willing to do something that I believe can be very frightening for a lot of people. When I realized that I wanted to be dominated, I sat and wrote a long letter to a man I had already invested a lot in a vanilla relationship with, wrote honestly and openly about my desires. I outed myself and risked being called a freak, risked judgement, risked rejection. As difficult as it is to find the right person for your BDSM relationship, when you meet at a munch, or through collarme, you are meeting with that facet of yourself out in the open. It's not a skeleton in your closet, it's something you automatically accept about each other, and then you work on the rest.

In that context, a vanilla relationship formed into a BDSM relationship I am willing to
- be patient
- let him take his own time to become the dominant he wishes to be
- allow him to become the dominant he wishes to be, without topping from the bottom
- communicate honestly and openly about everything
- be open minded
- be respectful
- work on my own flaws

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 4:18:22 PM

Peridot

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This is a thread worth saving. Thank you LadyPact!

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 4:18:54 PM

slavemaia

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Little mini rant here, but still in the form of a question.

The question is simple enough. If there's an interest, desire, want, need for any of those wonderful little things that are under that BDSM umbrella, what are you actually willing to do to obtain it?

The reason I ask this is because there seem to be a number of comments on the threads lately that are a lot about talk, or a person needing things to happen to them to be happy, but it's very rare that I notice what the person is actually willing to do to achieve their goal. Whether it's complaining about fakes, or they are married, or they are too young, or whatever, it's seldom that they are actually doing anything. Just for clarification, the word "do" is a verb. It implies action. It doesn't mean sit and wish for things to happen to you.

So, just for curiosity's sake, what are you willing to do? Or, what have you done to be pro-active in putting BDSM in your life?

Maybe, this thread will get some answers that will be appropriate for LA to use as a link when these types of things are brought up week after week.

i am a 24/7 slave who lives with her Master. That's what i do. This means i get up each morning and make His breakfast and lunch, keep the house clean and organized, do all the laundry and ironing, plan our social events, work a parttime job, listen attentively when He talks, even if it's about something that doesn't particularly interest me. i meditate and study to internalize my slavery so that i don't look to Him to keep me in place. i seek ways to make His life easier and more enjoyable. i make requests, not demands and i accept when those requests are denied or delayed. i accept that M/s is under His rule, not mine and i submit to what He wants and how He wants it to the very best of my ability. Last night He said, "life is good with you, my girl." So i am successful in what i do.

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 4:19:22 PM

DarkDaddyZ

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I'm willing to be vulernable when something or someone is worth it no matter the outcome.

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RE: What are you willing to do? - 12/17/2007 4:32:52 PM

bipolarber

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What am I willing to do?

Considering the fact that everytime I've gone home with someone new, I've taken the chance that I may have accidentally hooked up with a psychotic, I'd say I've risked a awful lot to get my needs met... don't you agree?

I think I sense a slightly insulting implication in the question, or the way it is being posed...

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