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RE: bottom to be a better domme? - 12/21/2007 3:53:10 AM

MistressR526

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I would say that it has helped me. I feel that I have a pretty good insight into what goes through a subbies mind... what things feel like...

Would I recommend it? Probably. Do I think you can be fine without spending time 'on the other side'? Absolutely. The reason I would recommend it is for the knowledge of what something feels like. At the same time... it does not take into account wiring that can sometimes make the most uncomfortable thing exciting. So.... I'm not too sure.

How's that? I started off reading these posts thinking ABSOLUTELY it is beneficial... but the more I read the more I was amused by the Ladies whose experiences as a bottom did nada for them; I loved the one post I read by LadyHibiscus regarding her experience in Chicago. *laughing* Sooooo... definitely not for everyone.

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RE: bottom to be a better domme? - 12/21/2007 8:42:28 AM

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I would say that it has helped me. I feel that I have a pretty good insight into what goes through a subbies mind... what things feel like...

Would I recommend it? Probably. Do I think you can be fine without spending time 'on the other side'? Absolutely. The reason I would recommend it is for the knowledge of what something feels like. At the same time... it does not take into account wiring that can sometimes make the most uncomfortable thing exciting. So.... I'm not too sure.

How's that? I started off reading these posts thinking ABSOLUTELY it is beneficial... but the more I read the more I was amused by the Ladies whose experiences as a bottom did nada for them; I loved the one post I read by LadyHibiscus regarding her experience in Chicago. *laughing* Sooooo... definitely not for everyone.

*smile*

I started into this lifestyle thinking I was submissive. I was raised to think I was suppose to be. <grin> However, I have been a very dominant person in all aspects of my life, for my entire life. My "experience" at being submissive was a joke. I met the man online. It was easy to be his "submissive" online. I knew all the right things to say. But, when we met real time, it was a whole different thing. <chuckle> I was "submissive" for..... ummm... well... about 45 minutes. He smacked me on the butt and told me to get him a coke. I spun around and slapped him back and told him if he wanted something to ASK, not TELL. After we both stopped laughing, we spent the rest of our time together talking about my exploring the other side of this whole thing.

I have a zero pain tolerance. If I feel something painful, I hate it. "Fight or flight"?? I fight. How I respond to something like a cane or a singletail would be entirely different from the way the masochists I know respond. If I had to "feel" everything I use on people so I would know what it felt like when I applied it to them, I would hate the feelings and never want to inflict them on anyone else. We all process pain and/or sensation in different ways. How I would process it would have nothing whatsoever to do with how a masochist would process it.

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