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MsSaskia -> RE: how many of the pros get called a prostitute? (12/27/2007 2:39:39 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ElaineSubmits
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ORIGINAL: MsSaskia
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ORIGINAL: ElaineSubmits
It's interesting that the customers for the "pro dominants" are almost entirely male, as with customers for "sex workers" of all sorts. And why is it that "pro subs" are so rare?
Perhaps it has escaped your notice that men earn more money than women and have more disposable income, and that it's easier for women to find dominant, no-strings-attached partners than it is for males. If you're clear on that and still aren't sure why things are the way they are, an introductory course in economics could help you get an understanding of supply and demand.
That's a classic example of "the fallacy of composition." Obviously, women in general have less disposable income than men in general, but there are a significant number of affluent women. I don't think it's a matter of economics. I don't wish to get into male-bashing, but I think it is generally accepted that men have a greater willingness or ability to separate sex from intimacy than women have. The proportion of women seeking "no strings attached partners" in CM adverts is also much lower than the proportion of men. I don't see any obvious reasons though why there are so few submissives-for-hire. I have heard it suggested that it's because many ordinary prostitutes are willing to offer that service, but I've not seen any evidence cited.
People who make sweeping generalizations shouldn't throw stones at other people for making generalizations.
Yes, there are some affluent women who can afford a pro and don't feel like pursuing a non-professional relationship. We get those women as clients, too, maybe once a year, if that. And there are some women who send their husbands in for punishment and there are some women who come in with their male partners and watch them submit to the domme or learn how to dominate their mates or submit to the domme while the male partner watches. Again, less than 5% of our clientele.
There are few exclusive submissives for hire because the people with the money (you know, men) tend to prefer a complete break from reality in their recreation time instead of being in control and making all the decisions like they do everywhere else. There isn't enough work for many people to be available solely as professional submissives. What you'll find if you really pay attention, though, is that there are a lot of switches working as professional dominants the majority of the time who are willing to switch for a client under the right circumstances for a higher fee. Four of the six people in my house of domination are switches, but not advertise as such.
Pro submissives generally (there's that word again) command a higher fee because they're risking and incurring physical damage from even the most expert dominant clients, and there are few expert dominant clients out there that really know what they're doing enough to not unknowingly cause damage or leave marks, nor are they necessarily going to be conscientious about not leaving even if they agree to that ("Oopsie! Did I do that, you naughty girl?") . Professional submissives cannot work as often because they have to be able to present an unmarked body for a client, which means the pro sub cannot do as they please in their personal lives if it means being marked. Since marks from a heavy corporal session can last more than a month, it's really not worth the money to be out of commission for that length of time. Professional submissives also typically have a colleague in the room with them during a professional session to make sure that nothing happens to them while they're restrained that they haven't absolutely agreed to, and those colleagues have to be paid, too.
As someone who's extremely familiar with the industry you're questioning, you'll just have to take my "fallacy of composition" at face value. If you need statistical evidence of some kind, you're on your own.
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