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RE: Approaching Strangers... - 12/30/2007 2:04:13 AM   
Prinsexx


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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Prin - LOL!  Isn't Cock and Ball Torture the same as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy????  I would think it has the same effect.

Cali


yes and often misheard on the phone as CB3 (the milking thang for the larger penis)
ed to say
when training (not as a sub btw lol) I was being taught the a,b,c,d,e of cognitive behavourial.....activation, belief, consequence, dispute and event......I said oh if the a,b,c,d,and e doesn't work try the f,g,h....my lecturer said f,g,h?
I said yes fuck off and go home........
you have to hand it to these classic psychos they really do find catchy roads to intellectual fraud......


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RE: Approaching Strangers... - 12/30/2007 2:13:09 AM   
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Unless I some 'act' submissive unconsiously, I can't understand it either.

purely unconscious then lol...........

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RE: Approaching Strangers... - 12/30/2007 2:14:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		tonight while reviewing a 5-band lineup, i was asked whether i was bottom or top by a stranger. i wasn't dressed in any kink wear ...just my "normal" clothes, leather collar and chains. the reason the person asked was because he recognized my o-ring which i wear on my left hand.

i know a few people in bands who are tops (the one i reviewed tonight the bassist is a top) however you wouldn't know it by the way they're dressed unless you're their friends.


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RE: Approaching Strangers... - 12/30/2007 7:29:44 AM   
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I once had an obviously very attractive single female ask me if I was into BDSM on a sort of impromptu date. I said yes I know what it is and have a little experience not wanting to overdo it. She shook her head and winced as if it was something terrible.


The only answer I'd give to a question like that would be along the lines of, "Why do you ask? Does that interest you?" The ball stays in her court unless she commits.

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RE: Approaching Strangers... - 12/30/2007 12:02:57 PM   
Prinsexx


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Status: offline 		The last time out with Master B I wore my dog collar. No-one blinked an eyelid....either collars like that abound in NW London or I look like a dog.....I hope it's the former. 

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RE: Approaching Strangers... - 12/30/2007 12:50:21 PM   
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Interestingly enough, a very good friend of mine is a Dom who moved to this country from Europe.  The part of Europe he lived in had a BDSM community that believed in training for people new to the scene or lifestyle.  One of the things they used were very subtle hand signals to communicate.  His example was you can get on a bus, one person will give a subtle signal, and if the other person is into this, they will signal back.  If they aren't, they don't have a clue that you just communicated in any way.  He went on to show me hand signals they used to indicate Top/bottom, bondage, whips, desire to meet and talk, etc.  As he said, you could get on a bus, know if someone is into bondage, whether they are a D or s, Top or bottom, and whether they would like to meet and talk after leaving the bus.... all without anyone else on the bus even knowing you have communicated.  It has been fun to learn and use when a slave is serving in high protocol because we also use hand signals for "drink", "kneel", etc.
 
Those subtle little hand signals would be wonderful if they were used all over, but, they are not.  And, when we can't even agree on the definition of Dominant and/or submissive, how in the hell would we EVER agree on a universal way of communicating with hand signals??  lol  Actually kind of funny to think about.... yet, it sure would be nice if it was adopted and accepted.  Just not possible.


was your friend trained in a 5000 year old House? did he have anything to back up his stories besides his stories?



Over here in the states we have this elaborate system of silent signals too...they're called hankerchiefs.

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RE: Approaching Strangers... - 12/30/2007 3:19:11 PM   
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Over here in the states we have this elaborate system of silent signals too...they're called hankerchiefs.


the hanky code is not known by the vast majority of hetero people, and i'm not sure how many gay and lesbian people know the hanky code that well either...i know it better than many leather title holders i have talked to...and that is sad...

chelle


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RE: Approaching Strangers... - 12/30/2007 4:18:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ghitaPVH
Over here in the states we have this elaborate system of silent signals too...they're called hankerchiefs.


the hanky code is not known by the vast majority of hetero people, and i'm not sure how many gay and lesbian people know the hanky code that well either...i know it better than many leather title holders i have talked to...and that is sad...

chelle


A Union Jack has its uses chelle......

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RE: Approaching Strangers... - 12/30/2007 4:24:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ghitaPVH

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ORIGINAL: chellekitty

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ORIGINAL: MystressDream

Interestingly enough, a very good friend of mine is a Dom who moved to this country from Europe.  The part of Europe he lived in had a BDSM community that believed in training for people new to the scene or lifestyle.  One of the things they used were very subtle hand signals to communicate.  His example was you can get on a bus, one person will give a subtle signal, and if the other person is into this, they will signal back.  If they aren't, they don't have a clue that you just communicated in any way.  He went on to show me hand signals they used to indicate Top/bottom, bondage, whips, desire to meet and talk, etc.  As he said, you could get on a bus, know if someone is into bondage, whether they are a D or s, Top or bottom, and whether they would like to meet and talk after leaving the bus.... all without anyone else on the bus even knowing you have communicated.  It has been fun to learn and use when a slave is serving in high protocol because we also use hand signals for "drink", "kneel", etc.
 
Those subtle little hand signals would be wonderful if they were used all over, but, they are not.  And, when we can't even agree on the definition of Dominant and/or submissive, how in the hell would we EVER agree on a universal way of communicating with hand signals??  lol  Actually kind of funny to think about.... yet, it sure would be nice if it was adopted and accepted.  Just not possible.


was your friend trained in a 5000 year old House? did he have anything to back up his stories besides his stories?



Over here in the states we have this elaborate system of silent signals too...they're called hankerchiefs.

my friends in the deaf community...ok ok the hearing impaired.....are some of the best communicators I know
and I can sign
I love you
forever
straight
gay
coca cola
and get by just about anywhere

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RE: Approaching Strangers... - 12/30/2007 4:38:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		i used to know all sorts of cuss words in ASL, and i am sure if i thought about it for a while, i could remember...lol....

on the slightly more serious side...one of the coolest experiences i have ever had was sitting in a room full of almost all hearing people and one or two (maybe a couple more) deaf people, at a international leather event and when it came time for people to applaud, instead of clapping, almost everyone in the room did the sign for "a round of applause"...not because anyone instructed them to, or because anyone was looking...but because they wanted to...it was a moment of unity, without expectations or demands...not for the majority, but for the minority....not organized, but spontaneous...so, yea, that was cool...

chelle


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RE: Approaching Strangers... - 12/30/2007 6:00:12 PM   
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I won't ask about bdsm per se' but I always mention that I am a kinkster, and ask if they are into kink...if I want rid of them I ask if they have ever been tied up etc etc


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