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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet
Well, I'm just sitting here in my panties waiting for a Domme to come
and fuck me good with a big ol' strapon since it's my anointed destiny.

Thanks SO much.  I guarantee you have just supplied the four next newbie subs who send messages to me with their ingenious profile names.

I can't wait to hear what sittingherenpanties, waiting4straponDomme, fuckmegood and anointeddestiny have to say... 

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

First, all kinds of pleasure from giving to others can be eroticised.  Cardinal sins and punishment?  I think not.  This implies a great deal of guilt which one hasn't dealt with and religious overtones that likely don't apply to many of us.  I'll add though that certain kinds of scenes and impact play in particular can be very cathartic at times.
 
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From my point of view, we're all spiritual beings having a human experience.  So what is the nature of that spiritual being within us?  For me, it's realized as a submissive male.  Some people have the need to be in control of everything around them, others don't.  Some can surrender that control to another and release something deep within themselves in doing so.  The latter would be a description of me.  There's something deep within me at the core of my being that desires to submit to the will of another.  Part of that is "the submissive slut" as I refer to it, that seeks a woman who knows how to push the right buttons to release it and bring it out, then wants to play with it for both our enjoyment.  Not every woman can do that.  It's takes a special woman who identifies as a Domme to appreciate and accept that part of me.  In time, I hope to find that woman and show her how special that part of me is along with all the fun we can have with it together; as we enrich each other's lives.
 
 - pixel

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ORIGINAL: petpete

Dearest Aakasha,  as beautiful as You may look i still wouldn't let You near my rear end... When we declare that we are straight men that also means that we that we function as such dear poorly understanding Lady. As far as my submission stands i can remember chasing female legs from as far as i was able to crawl..

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha



Deep down, I think all mean have a secret desire to be fucked in the ass and forced to wear panties.
It just takes some a little longer to come to terms with it.

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: petpete

Dearest Aakasha,  as beautiful as You may look i still wouldn't let You near my rear end... When we declare that we are straight men that also means that we that we function as such dear poorly understanding Lady. As far as my submission stands i can remember chasing female legs from as far as i was able to crawl..

What's one's sexual orientation got to do with it?  The anus is one large nerve cluster capable of sending many pleasure signals throughout the body.  I suggest you drop the homophobia and enjoy what you body has to offer you!  Strap-on play doesn't have to be, and IMO shouldn't be painful.  Instead it can be a very pleasurable experience for the male as can be stimulation of the male prostate which often occurs during this kind of play.  This is one time where ignorance is not bliss and where experiencing reality with the right woman has to offer is much more enlightening and pleasurable if you allow yourself to be open to what's offered.

In case you hadn't noticed, what you see when Akasha posts is simply an Avatar available to all (including you).  It's not her photo.  Perhaps you might want to use it?

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood
given my name...the thought of being forced to wear panties also has appeal...just another way for me to feel my manhood is being taken from me.

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood
given my name...the thought of being forced to wear panties also has appeal...just another way for me to feel my manhood is being taken from me.

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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

First, all kinds of pleasure from giving to others can be eroticised.  Cardinal sins and punishment?  I think not.  This implies a great deal of guilt which one hasn't dealt with and religious overtones that likely don't apply to many of us.  I'll add though that certain kinds of scenes and impact play in particular can be very cathartic at times.
 
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From my point of view, we're all spiritual beings having a human experience.  So what is the nature of that spiritual being within us?  For me, it's realized as a submissive male.  Some people have the need to be in control of everything around them, others don't.  Some can surrender that control to another and release something deep within themselves in doing so.  The latter would be a description of me.  There's something deep within me at the core of my being that desires to submit to the will of another.  Part of that is "the submissive slut" as I refer to it, that seeks a woman who knows how to push the right buttons to release it and bring it out, then wants to play with it for both our enjoyment.  Not every woman can do that.  It's takes a special woman who identifies as a Domme to appreciate and accept that part of me.  In time, I hope to find that woman and show her how special that part of me is along with all the fun we can have with it together; as we enrich each other's lives.
 
 - pixel

This is a good and honest description. Thank you.

I have probably encountered 100’s of males in many levels of submission. Although I can’t speak for all nor would I ever attempt to try and figure them out, I do see a common thread that I believe is spiritual. Especially men that exceed the sexual realm and surrender a part of them no one ever sees except the woman they adore. They do it strictly to please her or at least they value that level of suffering as an offering of sorts. It is primal and complicated. The truth is that we all see it differently and then two souls connect and it makes perfect sense.


There could be some type of guilt on an unconscious level.  Who really knows for sure. I’ve experienced it but I would never claim to fully understand it.  I can even shape it sometimes and manipulate it to my will, however the truth is that I never  own it even if they are my property. It really is a personal journey.

Your welcome Dianna.  Thank you for the compliment on my post.

I do indeed believe it is a spiritual thing as one must accept the what exists in their heart within them and it's nature.  For me, it's been a journey of introspection and self-acceptance; one of letting go of any shame I felt for being "different" or not fitting society's expectations of me to fit their ideal of masculinity, despite the fact that on the surface, I'm far from effeminent.  It's been an experience of learning to love and embrace the submissive within me; appreciating that it's an important part of my being that I can't suppress and a part of me that needs fulfillment.  It's also something which I'm no longer ashamed of nor embarrased to admit, instead I'm proud of who and what I am, yet recognize there are those who won't understand nor accept me for being the person I am.  I'd also agree with you that it's a very primal thing; particularly as it's something which for me which is at the core of my being.  In my experience, those urges and desires are something that can't be denied without enduring great internal conflict and suffering until they've been embraced and accepted by a submissive who has them.

I've also learned that submitting to a woman is something that one sort of allows themselves to "let go" and "relax into", or stated in a different way, gives themself permission to "fall into".  IMO, it just can't be forced or expected to naturally occur with just anyone they meet.  As trust is built, it's natural for me to relax and slowly fall into the submissive role with a woman as our dynamic develops in what seems to me to be a natural manner, even though it's generally negotiated as to how we'd both like it to ultimately be and we then slowly work toward that as she subtly exerts her dominance and exerts more control over me.  In my experience, I don't believe it possible ofr one to go from being totally independent one night to being totally submissive to a woman the next.  For me, it's a gradual transition as a relationship and my attachment to a woman develops.  I rarely see that discussed here or elsewhere.  I often wonder what people expect in that regard and how realistic those expectations are.

There's also no doubt in my mind that whatever the source that drives one's need to submit to another, it's something they must own and accept as theirs.  Responsibility for it can't be transferred to the dominant in a consensual D/s relationship.  It has to be owned by the submissive.

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ORIGINAL: petpete

Dear pix... i suggest you worry about your own arse and stop worrying about the rest of us!!! There is such a thing called limit and as far as i'm concerned my limits have to be respected!! i believe biological gender and wish not to tamper with it!!You can make your arse available to anyone but you have no say about anybody else's!!!   And in case your wondering i have checked Aakasha's profile and She is a very attractive Lady. i just don't agree with what She has to say...

Nothing personal was intended, nor was worry being expressed for you.  I'd also hope anyone in this lifestyle would respect your limits or anyone else's.  I also find it interesting you didn't mention strap-on play or wearing women's panties earlier as hard limits, but instead referred to them in much different terms, which leads me to my next point.  I'd expect that anyone who claims to be a part of this lifestyle would show more tolerance of the lifestyle choices of others and choose their words more carefully to appear less judgemental of the choices of others.  We need the support of those in alternative lifestyles if we want to have the freedom to make our own choices without judgement from others.  It seems only reasonable to me that those in other lifestyles should be able to expect the same from us. 

On more than one occasion, you've expressed what I'd characterize as at least some degree of homophobia, which to me comes across as a judgement of those who choose a homosexual lifestyle.  Whether you realize it or not, enjoying strap-on play with a woman has nothing to do with gender or sexual identification.  Ditto with wearing clothes of the opposite sex.  I recommend you make an attempt to educate yourself on these issues before you continue to show your ignorance of them and the various aspects of this lifestyle and human sexuality in general.  I also strongly suggest you ask yourself why you feel the need to express intolerance of other's choices and seem to have such a strong fear of some of them.  I suggest this for your own personal growth, not because it matters to me.  The choice is yours as to whether to remain as you are or to learn more about this lifestyle and hopefully grow in the process.

Finally, while I can't speak for her, regardless of how attractive Akasha might be, I doubt she appreciates it being brought up as part of an intelligent discussion of the issues related to the psychology of male submission; which I've noticed none of your posts in this thread seem to have adressed.

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood
given my name...the thought of being forced to wear panties also has appeal...just another way for me to feel my manhood is being taken from me.

Given your name and your picture, i would guess that the word "forced" has absolutely no meaning in this context; and from reading your profile and previous posts, there is no taking of your manhood but actually a voluntary offering of your own design.

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood

this is where you're wrong...there needs to be the feeling that there's no choice...i love it when people try to analyze me from posts made in black and white...tell you what...i won't analyze your kink...keep your analyses of my kinks to yourself.

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood
given my name...the thought of being forced to wear panties also has appeal...just another way for me to feel my manhood is being taken from me.

Given your name and your picture, i would guess that the word "forced" has absolutely no meaning in this context; and from reading your profile and previous posts, there is no taking of your manhood but actually a voluntary offering of your own design.

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood
given my name...the thought of being forced to wear panties also has appeal...just another way for me to feel my manhood is being taken from me.

Why do you feel the need to be "forced"?  If it's something you might enjoy, why not try it yourself?  This is almost akin to the "forced homosexuality" debates that often occur here on CM.  If it appeals to you, you really don't need a Mistress' permission to explore it, even though it may feel safer and more acceptable to you if you have her permission or direction to do so.
 
 - pixel

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood

this is where you're wrong...there needs to be the feeling that there's no choice...i love it when people try to analyze me from posts made in black and white...tell you what...i won't analyze your kink...keep your analyses of my kinks to yourself.

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood
given my name...the thought of being forced to wear panties also has appeal...just another way for me to feel my manhood is being taken from me.

Given your name and your picture, i would guess that the word "forced" has absolutely no meaning in this context; and from reading your profile and previous posts, there is no taking of your manhood but actually a voluntary offering of your own design.

Since you enjoy wearing panties, wouldn't forcing you be forcing you NOT to wear panties?  Just curious.

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood
doing things like this on my own, implies control...something i do not wish for...i have done it on my own before...and got no real thrill out of it...but being taken out of my natural self by someone else it freeing...i'm sure we've all heard the saying here, we never feel more free than when we submit...it's an emotion along those lines.

Thank you for the response.  That makes perfect sense to me.

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With regard to the 'forced' homosexuality aspect...i've done that too...and it has needed to be forced, or enforced, if you prefer...because i'm not attracted to men....but have had sex with them when under the direction of another...except for once, when i did it on my own...just to see if there was that desire....and it did nothing for me.  What i find tiring of the debates you mention is this...if someone ridiculed their kink, they'd go nuts over it...but because they don't like the word 'forced' it becomes a whole big thing.

I really wasn't trying to go there, only using that recurring debate as an analogy.

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Anyway, thanks pixie for asking, instead of analyzing, as some others have done.

You're welcome.  I do my best not to judge others or their kinks; instead desiring to learn from their differing perspectives and experiences while also sharing my own.

Before closing, please note that I prefer to be referred to as "pixel", which is how I sign my posts (strong clue there, I hope).  My user name of "pixelslave" is fine too.  

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood
given my name...the thought of being forced to wear panties also has appeal...just another way for me to feel my manhood is being taken from me.

Why do you feel the need to be "forced"?  If it's something you might enjoy, why not try it yourself?  This is almost akin to the "forced homosexuality" debates that often occur here on CM.  If it appeals to you, you really don't need a Mistress' permission to explore it, even though it may feel safer and more acceptable to you if you have her permission or direction to do so.
 
 - pixel

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood
doing things like this on my own, implies control...something i do not wish for...i have done it on my own before...and got no real thrill out of it...but being taken out of my natural self by someone else it freeing...i'm sure we've all heard the saying here, we never feel more free than when we submit...it's an emotion along those lines.

Thank you for the response.  That makes perfect sense to me.

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With regard to the 'forced' homosexuality aspect...i've done that too...and it has needed to be forced, or enforced, if you prefer...because i'm not attracted to men....but have had sex with them when under the direction of another...except for once, when i did it on my own...just to see if there was that desire....and it did nothing for me.  What i find tiring of the debates you mention is this...if someone ridiculed their kink, they'd go nuts over it...but because they don't like the word 'forced' it becomes a whole big thing.

I really wasn't trying to go there, only using that recurring debate as an analogy.

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Anyway, thanks pixie for asking, instead of analyzing, as some others have done.

You're welcome.  I do my best not to judge others or their kinks; instead desiring to learn from their differing perspectives and experiences while also sharing my own.
 
Before closing, please note that I prefer to be referred to as "pixel", which is how I sign my posts (strong clue there, I hope).  My user name of "pixelslave" is fine too.  

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood
given my name...the thought of being forced to wear panties also has appeal...just another way for me to feel my manhood is being taken from me.

Why do you feel the need to be "forced"?  If it's something you might enjoy, why not try it yourself?  This is almost akin to the "forced homosexuality" debates that often occur here on CM.  If it appeals to you, you really don't need a Mistress' permission to explore it, even though it may feel safer and more acceptable to you if you have her permission or direction to do so.
 
 - pixel

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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood

i love it when people try to analyze me from posts made in black and white...tell you what...i won't analyze your kink...keep your analyses of my kinks to yourself.