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AAkasha -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/14/2008 9:32:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha I have a pretty close relationship wit those subs on my site who enjoy (forced) feminization and they know what I am into. Akasha One might even say you have a working, professional relationship with your clients. Sure, if you consider paying for my web site or a phone session, I do that from time to time. But there are also those subs that get to enjoy being "stalked" (in the best possible way ) by me, who never pay a dime for anything, including the toys I use on them. I have a sweet hot thing I just sent a package to today and have probably invested $200 on him in a couple of months. If/when we go to real time, you can bet I will be paying for everything. I wouldn't have it any other way. Ain't life grand? He feels quite spoiled but nervous at the same time, as you can imagine. Anyone ever want to guess what I spend on my personal boy toys, just give the Stockroom a call and ask them how much I have personally shipping out over the last few months. I love being in this position. Akasha

AAkasha -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/14/2008 9:35:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Griswold You hit those triggers...and we're off to the races....unaware of our own circumstances...because we want it...or because we simply have no ability to comprehend what's happening to us at that particular moment. We're entirely lost, even as we're held safely in your hands, awash...disparately running amok...helpless...endangered....surely about to hit the wall..... And we are all...at the same time, wishful that we could control it...and entirely succombed. Where am I going...? I'm not sure...I think you struck a note.... (I'm rambling....enough from me). Thanks, I appreciate that. You know, femdoms have triggers too. They just might not be quite as obvious. But when you figure them out, oh my. Then there are fireworks... Akasha

AAkasha -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/14/2008 9:42:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne This issue is not sissies, it is kink compatibility. Some people only into domination don't really understand or like sadism, masochism, bondage, role playing and fetishes. But these kinks are equally legitimate, popular and - often - much more fun!!!!!! Live and let live. I have met great sissies and creepy sissies. I have met great Dommes and creepy Dommes. Let's not judge a book by its cover. You make great points in your post. But it would seem that, based on the number of threads here even (just do a search for sissies or sissy), sissies are either lamenting the lack of partners, or femdoms are sharing bad experiences with sissies far more than "bondage bottoms" or "rubberists" for example. Why would that be? Akasha

cloudboy -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/14/2008 9:43:41 PM)
Dear LadyHibiscus, You've weighed in on this thread six (6) times (x) by my count. Oddly, on your profile you have CROSSDRESSING as a HARD LIMIT. (Lotussong only lists Crossdressing as something she "dislikes" in her profile.) What exactly is your interest here? One of my hard limits is SOUNDS. I avoid those threads like the plague. (To say that's not my interest would be an understatement.) What do you hope to gain and share by participating in this thread?

cloudboy -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/14/2008 9:54:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha You make great points in your post. But it would seem that, based on the number of threads here even (just do a search for sissies or sissy), sissies are either lamenting the lack of partners, or femdoms are sharing bad experiences with sissies far more than "bondage bottoms" or "rubberists" for example. Why would that be? Akasha a. Sissies lament a lack of partners b/c women are turned off by that kink, not because anything is intrinsically wrong with sissies. b. Not many femdoms here share "bad experiences," but many femdoms hold "bad opinions" about sissies. The answer to your question is bigotry and false stereotyping. This is why you've been called to task. Your OP had many bigoted elements to it. Subnote: There is no more griping here about sissies than there is about FEMDOMS, Malesubs, etc. As Sea pointed out, your inductive reasoning results in false and misleading generalizations.

AAkasha -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/14/2008 10:02:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha You make great points in your post. But it would seem that, based on the number of threads here even (just do a search for sissies or sissy), sissies are either lamenting the lack of partners, or femdoms are sharing bad experiences with sissies far more than "bondage bottoms" or "rubberists" for example. Why would that be? Akasha a. Sissies lament a lack of partners b/c women are turned off by that kink, not because anything is intrinsically wrong with sissies. b. Not many femdoms here share "bad experiences," but many femdoms hold "bad opinions" about sissies. The answer to your question is bigotry and false stereotyping. This is why you've been called to task. Your OP had many bigoted elements to it. Subnote: There is no more griping here about sissies than there is about FEMDOMS, Malesubs, etc. As Sea pointed out, your inductive reasoning results in false and misleading generalizations. So you are thinking that I don't have any first hand experiencing dominating sissies or being courted by them, and the other femdoms that have stated why they do not like them are just making up reasons, and it's not based on actual, real life encounters? Do you think it would be better if I list the experiences I have had down to the specifics? Would you like other femdoms to get into their specific, first hand experiences with sissies? If that's your issue, I apologize. I could tell many stories about it. Where do I start? Akasha

cloudboy -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/14/2008 10:33:02 PM)
No, I am thinking you find sissies "non erotic" and that at your core, you are not into them. This means you'll never really get them or be able to relate to them. You just don't have the humility to ever admit such a thing, much less see it. (Something is always someone's else's fault in your universe.) At least you don't have CDing as a hard limit like Hibisicus or under "dislikes" like lotusong. As for your experience, I agree with Sea who pointed out that you take your own handful of experiences and thereafter make sweeping generalizations. When anyone calls you to task for this, you are unresponsive and attacking. In the 2ish years I've read your posts, you've never admitted to being wrong about anything. Its just not in you. You prefer to instead self-define (I am not a pro femdom.) When we first clashed, you accused me of being realone's alias. Next you accused me of being a loser with no women in his life. It was pretty amusing, but that's what you do when you lose an argument. (And you had no factual basis to make either accusation, but you let them fly anyway.) Instead of acknowledging facts: a pay web site, a femdom phone operation, and paid "training classes," you sweep all this aside by peddling false logic: aka, that because you are married and part time about your business, you are not a professional with professional interests and relationships. By this logic all professional employees who are married and part time aren't really "professional." When you won't even admit a point on which a jury would convict, I guess there's only a limited amount of hope you would concede more nuanced points about the elements of bigotry in your OP or how the surface "goodwill" of your posts might be called into question because of a conflict of interest one might spot in your motivations.

AAkasha -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/14/2008 10:40:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy No, I am thinking you find sissies "non erotic" and that at your core, you are not into them. This means you'll never really get them or be able to relate to them. You just don't have the humility to ever admit such a thing, much less see it. (Something is always someone's else's fault in your universe.) At least you don't have sissys as a hard limit like Hibisicus or under "dislikes" like lotusong. As for your experience, I agree with Sea who pointed out that you take your own handful of experiences and thereafter make sweeping generalizations. When anyone calls you to task for this, you are unresponsive and attacking. In the 2ish years I've read your posts, you've never admitted to being wrong about anything. Its just not in you. You prefer to instead self-define (I am not a pro femdom.) When we first clashed, you accused me of being realone's alias. Next you accused me of being a loser with no women in his life. It was pretty amusing, but that's what you do when you lose an argument. Instead of acknowledging facts: a pay web site, a femdom phone operation, and paid "training classes," you sweep all this aside by peddling false logic: aka, that because you are married and part time about your business, you are not a professional with professional interests and relationships. By this logic all professional employees who are married and part time aren't really "professional." When you won't even admit a point on which a jury would convict, I guess there's only a limited amount of hope you would concede more nuanced points about the elements of bigotry in your OP or how the surface "goodwill" of your posts might be called into question because of a conflict of interest one might spot in your motivations. You didn't answer the question and chose to attack me instead, so I prefer to take the high road. If anyone on this site thinks I hide the fact that my web site is a membership site (I promote it in my sig line), more power to them. You love to keep bringing up my web site, and you drive more traffic and promotion to it than I do. I've had a lot of experience with all kinds of submissive men and bottoms, and I call it like I see it. Apparently, you have a probelm with that. I speak from personal experiences in real life as well as online - if you don't think I am credible, that's fine. I find your approach of baiting me into a question and then taking an opportunity to smear me pretty tacky. If it makes you feel better - great. I don't really need validation from you. If you claim to be so bright, why don't you crunch some numbers and figure out how operating a site for free for ten years (writing more than 500 stories, free), including hosting, and then making it a pay site for 2 means I am rolling in dough from it. Yeah, I thought so. Akasha

cloudboy -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/14/2008 10:58:35 PM)
Only you would call that the high road.

BitaTruble -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/14/2008 11:31:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha I'm directing this post more toward men who have feminization at their core - they crossdress for their own pleasure, they have a sissy name or feminized picture on their profile, they are fixated on sissification and all things feminine more than anything else. When I first got into BDSM, I was fixated on getting my needs met more than anything else. (What those needs are is sorta moot.. the same principals apply.) The issue isn't really gender based after all, so hopefully my perspective will be appreciated as well as a man's would. Delving deeper into service and submission came later. Look up do-me in a dictionary from about 1982 and you'll see my picture right there. I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it's probably fairly normal in the grand scheme of things. quote: Perhaps a new approach that may work better as you search for a femdom is to try to show her how your crossdressing or feminine side can be fun or rewarding for her. Unless and until service with substance is internally motivated, external considerations are probably 'not' going to be a course of action that one will choose to take. For me, I was willing to pay for my play .. it's just that my payment took the form of accepting a beating, scrubbing a toilet, cooking etc in order to get my needs met by my chosen fleshy flogger. It wasn't a cash transaction, but it came from my selfish desire to get my 'wants' not from any sort of desire to feed my fleshy flogger. Soup to Nuts: it didn't matter 'who' .. all that mattered was 'what' they were doing that was in keeping with what I wanted. It's not a 'sissy' thing at all. So, it rather bothers me when posts like this one make it seem as though it is the baliwick of a single, selfish group who happen to share one commonality. It goes across the all boards, kinks and gender lines and I've seen it for most of my 25+ years in BDSM. quote: One of the challenges I see with sissies is that they can be high maintenance and fixated as submissives (or bottoms), and it is limiting and can be incredibly non erotic to me. It certainly doesn't push many of my femdom buttons when it's 100% voluntarily and with glee that a man dresses and adopts feminity, I am more drawn to the type that have to be put into panties kicking and screaming. Well, you're certainly entitled to your personal preference, but your way is not 'the' way, of course. Plenty of folks will feel the opposite and find that a sissy who doesn't need micromanaging, force or coaching to get into their sissy mindsets or embrace being a sissy is pretty cool, too. quote: But if that's not what you are, you have to think about what would make your kink fun for a femdom. I actually don't get this. If my dominant doesn't care for one of my kinks, why should I try to think up a way to manipulate them into indulging that kink? I'd simply find someone else who was willing to indulge rather than me having to force them to do so. I don't want someone who doesn't want and accept who I am as an individual. I've outgrown the 'fleshy flogger notion' so I'm not about to embrace the 'one target is as good as another' notion. quote: I was talking with a kinky girlfriend of mine about a CD we used to know, and "she" was a riot. The approach that was different is that this person made was to bring us into his sissy circle, so to speak, by purchasing fun lingerie for us, shoes, make up, etc. Now, purists will get agitated perhaps that this "spending money on the femdom" approach is basically pay-for-play, and in a sense, it is. But sissies spend a tremendous amount of money on their OWN clothes, shoes and accessories as is. They know what it costs. Why not share in those costs and celebrate feminity with your femdom -- in a sense that you can form a playful bond, and then the play is integrated from there, whether it be shopping trips or dress up nights with a little roleplay added in. Well, again, to have to manipulate someone into playing my games isn't exactly a satisfying sort of way to live life for me, so I'd pass on that approach. quote: A sissy that states in their profile they like to make their feminization FUN for a femdom may get a second look - propose shopping at Sephora together or getting a pedicure. State that you want to celebrate feminity, and in doing so, your femdom partner will enjoy being pampered and sharing in those shopping experiences. I have no problem with this sort of idea if it's true .. but I wouldn't advice someone to put it in their profile just because they are desperate and think they'll get more hits that way. It seems very disingenuous to me. quote: Sissies, by the nature of their fetish, are locked into having to invest in their kink. There are a lot of kinks in which you have to invest in various paraphenalia. Enema lovers, flogger lovers, whip lovers .. we all have to buy the various pieces of equipment to meet those needs. I spent $400 on a matched pair of custom made floggers because I have this 'thing' for floggers .. multiply that out by the 25 floggers Himself and I have in our collection and it adds up and that's just one of our myriad of indulgences. quote: I propose they carve out part of that budget and turn it into a pleasurable experience for both. With our "sissy friend," it was only a matter of time before we were including "her" in our girls'shopping trips. The other great thing about this sissy is her taste was fabulous and she could be a personal shopper. What a joy to have during a shopping quest for a perfect outfit. I would have no problem putting part of my income into someone with whom I shared a live-in relationship, but I'm not inclined to buy affection for the purpose of getting a kink filled. If my kink is not a pleasure in and of itself, then I'm not with the right dominant. quote: If you have a fetish, find a way to make it useful to your femdom partner, if she is not directly aroused by it. Personally, I'd pass. As someone who is submissive to my partner, the last thing I'd feel comfortable with is feeling like my partner was indulging in something 'just for me' and not because they truly desired it as well. My brain just doesn't work that way. quote: The desire to dominate, to share passion and lust, will come from the friendship and affection built around it. Then the sissy fetish won't seem so selfish and focused on self; instead, it will be seen as something that two people can share. Akasha I just can't state strongly enough how much I disagree with this statement. It was the reason I decided to write to this thread. If there is a fetish, any fetish, that doesn't do it for me, no amount of coercion, manipulating, sharing, trust, passion or lust is going to change my core view of that fetish. I don't see a sissy fetish as selfish though. I see that as a people thing. Some people, regardless of the fetish are going to be selfish (as I most certainly was when I first started) and some will be quite selfless (as I now strive to be and, regrettably fail at times in my attempts.) Just my two cents and, of course, IMO, Celeste

AAkasha -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/14/2008 11:44:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble Personally, I'd pass. As someone who is submissive to my partner, the last thing I'd feel comfortable with is feeling like my partner was indulging in something 'just for me' and not because they truly desired it as well. My brain just doesn't work that way. quote: The desire to dominate, to share passion and lust, will come from the friendship and affection built around it. Then the sissy fetish won't seem so selfish and focused on self; instead, it will be seen as something that two people can share. I just can't state strongly enough how much I disagree with this statement. It was the reason I decided to write to this thread. If there is a fetish, any fetish, that doesn't do it for me, no amount of coercion, manipulating, sharing, trust, passion or lust is going to change my core view of that fetish. I don't see a sissy fetish as selfish though. I see that as a people thing. Some people, regardless of the fetish are going to be selfish (as I most certainly was when I first started) and some will be quite selfless (as I now strive to be and, regrettably fail at times in my attempts.) Just my two cents and, of course, IMO, Celeste It's interesting to hear a submissive perspective. I get what you are saying. So what is a submissive with a fetish to do if in reality very few people share that fetish? Speaking strictly from a numbers sense, men into feminization who want to do it daily and adopt a sissy personality are probably going to have a hard time finding a compatible partner unless she is willing to indulge him - at the very least, to test the waters. There are a great many fetishes I don't share with submissive men, but in the right context, I can develop a taste for it because it's manipulated in a context I enjoy - this is quite easy to do with pain play or certain kinds of hardcore objectification that perhaps would not have crossed my mind. That's one way of integrating a fetish into a relationship - you don't expect your partner to enjoy the fetish, but instead, enjoy what it creates between you. The other way to integrate a fetish into a relationship is to do it with a sense of playfulness and mutual fun. That takes the "sting" away if a woman is potentially borderline squicked by it. I've seen many women slowly evolve to enjoy pain play this way - they shrink back initially at the idea of EVER striking their partner with an instrument, let alone hurting him! But remove the "sting" of the play by starting out playfully, with spanking and a little tease of the riding crop, and in a situation where the man is laid back, enjoying it, maybe being "campy" about it - then she's got something to build on. Can you ever "turn" anyone into a fetishist? Of course not. But where does that leave the legions of men with various fetishes that are hardwired? Women just are not as fetish-wired as men. I think more women are prone to enjoy emotions, interactions, sensuality and playful bonding. That's the starting point for bridging a fetish with a partner who isn't quite into it. This has been my experience with introducing kinks to female friends. Akasha

BitaTruble -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/15/2008 12:10:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha It's interesting to hear a submissive perspective. I get what you are saying. So what is a submissive with a fetish to do if in reality very few people share that fetish? Unfortunately, my answer is not going to be popular nor will it be very inspiring to all those who seek, but it is realistic. Let me begin by saying that I was involved with BDSM for 15 years before finding a truly compatible partner. 15 years and I'm a woman who likes damn near everything, so when I say that it takes patience, I do know of where I speak. The 'gotta get it now' mentality needs to get discarded and self-improvement needs to be embraced. People, (any people) as a general rule, don't get handed a brass ring just for coming into BDSM. It still requires working on self and personal growth. Of course it's hard work to find someone. If it was easy, everyone would already have someone. What makes it worthwhile is finding that person out there who touches you as much as you touch them and, you know, I'm sorry, but that can take years, not months, and sometimes, as in my case, it can take several years. What I did in the meantime was attend events, go to munches, go to demo's, lectures and classes, join various groups, play casually, get to know a lot of people and build a network .. and building that network was how Himself and I hooked up. We had a mutual friend who thought we would be perfect for each other. He knew we were both looking, knew what we both liked and sure enough, I've been wearing Michael's collar for over 10 years now. So, if I had a single piece of advice to give to sissy's (or anyone) it would be to network. Get out into your community and be your natural self while you continue to improve who you are as a person. Make yourself shine so bright that you can't help but be noticed. Then it won't matter if there are 100 to 1, you'll be the 1 and, for most of us, 1 is enough. quote: Speaking strictly from a numbers sense, men into feminization who want to do it daily and adopt a sissy personality are probably going to have a hard time finding a compatible partner unless she is willing to indulge him - at the very least, to test the waters. Eh. I'm not so sure the numbers are all that important. I mean, how many dominant males are out there looking for fem subs and it still took me 15 years to find someone with whom I connected at the right, long term, level. If you're a diamond, you're a diamond .. and I have yet to met the lady who doesn't love diamonds. quote: There are a great many fetishes I don't share with submissive men, but in the right context, I can develop a taste for it because it's manipulated in a context I enjoy - this is quite easy to do with pain play or certain kinds of hardcore objectification that perhaps would not have crossed my mind. That's one way of integrating a fetish into a relationship - you don't expect your partner to enjoy the fetish, but instead, enjoy what it creates between you. Well, that does seem a bit different to me. If there is something out there to which I have not been exposed, then it's pointed out to me, I would not be adverse to giving it a shot. Generally, I don't have preconceived ideas about lifestyle activities and am willing to do that 'try anything once' thing to see if I like it. But, if I have an aversion to it, I have an aversion to it. Queening would be a good example.. I do not like it, don't want it in my relationship and nothing and no one is going to be able to get my head wrapped around any notion that I will ever like it. quote: The other way to integrate a fetish into a relationship is to do it with a sense of playfulness and mutual fun. That takes the "sting" away if a woman is potentially borderline squicked by it. I've seen many women slowly evolve to enjoy pain play this way - they shrink back initially at the idea of EVER striking their partner with an instrument, let alone hurting him! But remove the "sting" of the play by starting out playfully, with spanking and a little tease of the riding crop, and in a situation where the man is laid back, enjoying it, maybe being "campy" about it - then she's got something to build on. I can't argue this point at all. S/m seems to be a different ballgame and pain, when it's built up, can absolutely grow on a person. I don't think of S/m as being a fetish though, so that could be the separation in my mind. That said, I'm a heavy masochist so I admit to being biased in this area. ::chuckles:: quote: Can you ever "turn" anyone into a fetishist? Of course not. But where does that leave the legions of men with various fetishes that are hardwired? Women just are not as fetish-wired as men. I think more women are prone to enjoy emotions, interactions, sensuality and playful bonding. That's the starting point for bridging a fetish with a partner who isn't quite into it. This has been my experience with introducing kinks to female friends. Akasha My opinion is that it leaves the legions of men (and women seeking a partner, too!) with a lot of work to do and patience to build. I wish there were some short cuts. I'd love to see everyone happy and dressed up in their frills or sweating from their delicious sessions.. whatever it is they are looking for because I do believe on a planet with more fucking and playing, people would be too tired and smiling to have time to build bombs and blow up their neighbors or go out and shoot someone because they're wearing the wrong color scarf. What can I say.. I'm an idealist. Celeste

cloudboy -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/15/2008 7:34:32 AM)
Well Bita, I'm glad you weighed in here. The strength of your post is a KEEN understanding of the submissive mindset and the psychological aspects of a good M/S or simply good relationship. I'm pretty sensitive to everything you pointed out: not wanting to manipulate someone, not wanting to force kinks, and wanting to find a natural (as opposed to forced or paid for) connection. If someone does not like my thing, I do not try to do it with them. Its also true that to find a good satisfying relationship, it takes a lot time and self understanding ---- and then on top of that some good luck to boot. (Sorry if this summary of what you had to say is lacking.) So, aside from the bigotry, I now realize after reading your views, that I also had a problem with the "Easy Bake" nature of the OP. Anyway, maybe I'm beating a dead horse here, but my theory as to why the OP falls flat is that, as she admitted, sissies are not her thing. When that's true, the advice and insight you get from such a person is usually quite limited and flawed. It would be the equivalent of you opining on Queening or me opining on sounds. We might best just shut up about it no matter how much we might want to "help" or "comment upon" folks engaged in those areas. Lastly, much of everyone's advice is based on some kind of world view, and when you stated, "If there is a fetish, any fetish, that doesn't do it for me, no amount of coercion, manipulating, sharing, trust, passion or lust is going to change my core view of that fetish," I nodded my head. I agree with you on this point. Aakasha, though, is kind of like Frazier Crane and his Radio Show. As he administered advice to a mass audience --- reducing complex problems to soundbites of advice and insight --- AAkasha does the same thing somewhat --- in her phone sex business, on her web site, and class training sessions. When this is her project, she can't help but feel that maybe she can be all things to all people, but that is simply not the case. As a professional, she realizes that a lot of male needs aren't going met out there. She might realize this more than most. But each individual guy needs to find his own way and climb his own ladder. As you point out, aside from paying for it, there aren't any quick fixes or easy bake solutions to other's individual challenges.

undergroundsea -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/15/2008 7:38:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy Thank you for your compliment about my posts. Yes, my friends are in Texas and the woman is a classy inspiration. They are quite likely the couple of whom you are thinking. Cheers, Sea

undergroundsea -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/15/2008 7:45:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha Sissies, sluts and whores -- this is your chance to wear panties for a reason -- and let my girlfriends judge how your ass looks in them! Note: If you are a selfish, self-serving, tightwad sissy, this training is not for you. You seem to suggest that sissies as a group are selfish and self serving. And then you say that your training is not for selfish and self-serving persons. Per the logic in your statements in this thread, no one qualifies for this training program. I find this inconsistency to create confusion about how you really feel. The context and content of your posts and the use of the word tightwad suggests you are looking for sissies who will buy lingerie for you and your girlfriends. Is this assumption correct? If so, I am further confused. If your experience with sissies has been as bad and unerotic as you describe, why would you want to have more of this experience for the sake of lingerie? quote: ORIGINAL: undergroundsea agree that thinking about what would make it interesting for the other party is a good idea. To elaborate, while I think it is a good idea to think about how much or not the other party enjoys a certain activity, I don't agree with what the OP suggests as the solution: retain their interest by buying them clothes. Indeed one can keep another's interest by virtue of their personality and value as a person. I agree with MsC about kink compatibility and about being attractive to the woman who will participate in this kink. Cheers, Sea

undergroundsea -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/15/2008 8:02:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble be your natural self while you continue to improve who you are as a person. Excellent point. Cheers, Sea

chiaThePet -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/15/2008 8:43:09 AM)
So, going to a employment related cocktail party and finger buffet. Present will be a Dominant co-worker whom I would like to catch the eye and attention of. Also present will be scores of upper management types, sniffing for fresh meat for promotion. Do I, wear the shorter, sexier, lowcut little black dress with hot lace lined undergarments subtly whispering "hello", thereby risking the ire and dismissal of the upper echelon? Or, do I stick to the classice A line with simple strand of pearls, thereby risking a possible life changing connection leading to more fulfilling paystubs, but endless wandering hours of pondering what might have been? Solutions? chia* (the pet)

camille65 -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/15/2008 8:55:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chiaThePet So, going to a employment related cocktail party and finger buffet. Present will be a Dominant co-worker whom I would like to catch the eye and attention of. Also present will be scores of upper management types, sniffing for fresh meat for promotion. Do I, wear the shorter, sexier, lowcut little black dress with hot lace lined undergarments subtly whispering "hello", thereby risking the ire and dismissal of the upper echelon? Or, do I stick to the classice A line with simple strand of pearls, thereby risking a possible life changing connection leading to more fulfilling paystubs, but endless wandering hours of pondering what might have been? Solutions? chia* (the pet) I've always loved the look of classically tailored clothing, but then that's just me. In regards to this thread I have seen an astonishing (to me) attitude from many here towards sissies. An astonishingly negative one. Some of it has been given in the guise of gentle advise, however the disguise was weak enough to let the real feelings shine through, and some of it was just flat out. A genuinely sad thread for me to have read. However maybe it needed to be said, maybe some people needed to be told point blank how they are received so that they are aware of it upfront. I know I'd rather know how I am seen by virtue of my kink rather than continue the hope that maybe I just have met a few of the wrong sort of person.

chiaThePet -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/15/2008 9:05:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: camille65 I've always loved the look of classically tailored clothing, but then that's just me. In regards to this thread I have seen an astonishing (to me) attitude from many here towards sissies. An astonishingly negative one. Some of it has been given in the guise of gentle advise, however the disguise was weak enough to let the real feelings shine through, and some of it was just flat out. A genuinely sad thread for me to have read. However maybe it needed to be said, maybe some people needed to be told point blank how they are received so that they are aware of it upfront. I know I'd rather know how I am seen by virtue of my kink rather than continue the hope that maybe I just have met a few of the wrong sort of person. Bingo! Exactly why a little humor was in order. chia* (the pet)

solvr70 -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/15/2008 12:22:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus When you pull up the definition of 'sissy'.. one gets: –noun –noun 1. an effeminate boy or man. 2. a timid or cowardly person. 3. a little girl. hummmm....with that known, how would one such as i, that has great interest in being "encouraged" (avoiding that forced word) to wear Women's leathers like thigh-high black leather boots w/heels, a black leather corset, nipple clamps and perhaps some heavy makeup and wig before a scene be characterized? not that i'm stuck on labels. but without that long explaination, there is no way to make that known in a few words that i have found.[8\|]

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