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Valerie56 -> RE: Solutions for sissies (1/24/2008 12:11:41 PM)
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What an interesting thread.
I am a cross dresser, very submissive. My cross dressing is a very important part of who I am, how I act. I am probably closer to being TG. But I believe there is a big difference between being a sissy and a CD.
I have been on CM for over a year, and my listing was posted as my male self. That got me absolutely nowhere. The other day, I reposted as Valerie, my CD name. It has only been a few days since that posting. I have not had any repsonses yet, but my hopes are high that the right Domme may come along. i evenhave posted in my profiel, No Men or masters, and yet, most of the people who have viewed me are Men. Gee?
I have also spoken with other ladies and Dommes who do in fact enjoy a man n heels and female attire. Some of them find it very arousing and sexual, and at the same time are able to give discipline as well. On the other hand, being a sissy is not something I would reject, but take on as being forced to be a sissy by the Dominant. This to me is forced, something we are not comfortable with. Public humiliatrion as a sissy would be most unccomfortable. At the same time, being a sub, it is my place to please the Dominant at all times. This is my place as I have learned to serve and obey at all times.
As a CD, please understand the goal. That is to fit into society as a female, become that female and be able to go out in public as one. It is about creating something we know we can never really be, because we still have all the male parts.
When I go out, I do fit in as a normal female, and can pass very well. This is because I have spent many years working on my image. i would not ever dare go out in public dressed as a sissy, unless I was ordered to by a Dominant. Then it becomes forced and quite humiliating, which is part of being submissive.
There are many other things I enjoy indulging in, and if and when the time comes for me to meet a Dominant lady, I will share those things.
As for sissies being seflfish, I am not well versed there. I, however have brought many gifts to Mistresses, and also fell prey to those things that I have brought. Example is, I brought my Mistress a new cane, little did I know that i would be the recipient and have the break in time for that instrument. I do believe in bringing gifts, but tributes are a whole other topic. i wil not ever give a gift of cash.
I am not a sissy, I am a Cd, who can go out in public. There have been occasions when I was made to be a sissy serving a Mistress. i rather enjoyed it because it was a forced thing for me to do.
But, when the clothes come off and it becomes play time, I am all male underneath, presenting myself and all of my parts for thier pleasure. If CBT is something a Mistress likes, then by all means use me, after all, that is what I am there for. It is about submitting. The Ladies I know who do enjoy a man who wears female attire are just as proficient in a Dungeon or playroom. They know what they like and the clothes do not make any difference in that regard. That is my belief.
So, i am no farther along now then before. I also was a member of a local BDSM group. Most nights i ended up sitting by myself, no one talked to me, and no one was interested in having any sessions with me. There were many female subs there, and all of the attention was drawn to them. Theese girls weren't sissies, normal submissive women. If I had gone there as a Cd, I would still have probably been sitting around.
This is a difficult environment to meet others, especially Mistresses or Dominant Ladies. It can get downright frustrating at times to.
Not all CD's or sissies are selfish. I do agree the we do indulge ourselves in this particular fetish, but it is a very expensive one as well. We want to look our best just as a Mistress wants to do when buying her outfits to wear, leather, PVC, or rubber.
I also agree with the thread that mentioned making it fun to be a CD or sissy for your Mistress. There are many fun things that can be done together.
These are my thoughts on this thread. I am not here to offend anyone.
vaalerie
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