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Justme696 -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 5:24:27 AM)
I think anyone have there special little protocols, even when you don't know. I love when they call me Sir and sit down on the floor next to me. Just not always...it seems not special anymore afther a while.

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 5:30:21 AM)
I agree. though something luckily dont fade with time

fluffyswitch -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 5:45:03 AM)
i try to place myself lower than them if i can. i'm not sure if he likes it or if he just hasn't noticed. it drives her nuts though, but i find myself doing it anyway.

burningdesires47 -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 6:12:45 AM)
as someone who is not in a D/s relationship right now, and even when I am, that dynamic may not always be there, the "protocols" are what gets me going. I am frequently in charge of the productivity of others or at least myself, and a swift reminder of my expected behavior as a sub is a lot more effective than slowly slipping into place. When he grabs my hair and forces my head back, pressing his lips to mine just a LITTLE too hard, I always gasp, try to pull away just the tiniest bit, then melt into a squishy submissive ball of happy goo. It's not anything that was a conscious decision, and in fact I don't think it's anything that I've ever even discussed with anyone before just now, I guess it's just something that works for me (and it's not exactly a hard button to find or push... even in public, that orgasm the first time it's done to me by someone I'm interested in is truly unmistakable). Incidentally, calling someone Sir or Mistress would be considered a protocol, and one of my faves. It's very hard for me to answer to my name when in a submissive mood, without making me feel.... well, icky is the only word I can come up with. And calling someone by their name when in the same mood, especially someone with whom I am not ALWAYS their sub, can totally kill any possibility of me submitting without swift and severe remedy of the situation (by which I mean, when I decide to submit to someone, I make it explicit that they cannot ask me to call them by their name or it will simply not work--and they need to pick a pet name for me, or any number of pet names, just as long as they don't call me my given name, I'm fine. Which is partially why I have a scene name to begin with).

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 6:17:10 AM)
Oh geee... so many small simple things I enjoy. Hearing "Sir" or "Master"... well that gives me the warm fuzzy feeling. I missing giving somebody praise... such as "Good girl" and etc. I enjoy having somebody knee and all the different positions. Just the sensation of being in control and giving verbal commands. Telling somebody what to do to please me. I miss expressing myself to somebody. In terms of "how sexy and beautiful they are"... I miss calling somebody "my dirty little slut"... I miss giving shape and direction in anothers life. You know that whole molding and shaping aspect and giving somebody a sense of purpose. Added bonus, it gives me an added sense of purpose in life doing this. Ritualistic moments, simple as service oriented things. The Day to Day aspects of 24/7 life. Drink refills, body worship with blow jobs. Feeling a hand holding my cock while I drift off to sleep. So many things. Being able to caress and walk around her, standing or kneeling. Hell, being asked for permission to do certain things. Being asked questions. Shower/Bath rituals... you name it. Too many things to list here. My mind is flooded with a lot of warm and fuzzy things.

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 6:18:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: burningdesires47 as someone who is not in a D/s relationship right now, and even when I am, that dynamic may not always be there, the "protocols" are what gets me going. I am frequently in charge of the productivity of others or at least myself, and a swift reminder of my expected behavior as a sub is a lot more effective than slowly slipping into place. When he grabs my hair and forces my head back, pressing his lips to mine just a LITTLE too hard, I always gasp, try to pull away just the tiniest bit, then melt into a squishy submissive ball of happy goo. It's not anything that was a conscious decision, and in fact I don't think it's anything that I've ever even discussed with anyone before just now, I guess it's just something that works for me (and it's not exactly a hard button to find or push... even in public, that orgasm the first time it's done to me by someone I'm interested in is truly unmistakable). Incidentally, calling someone Sir or Mistress would be considered a protocol, and one of my faves. It's very hard for me to answer to my name when in a submissive mood, without making me feel.... well, icky is the only word I can come up with. And calling someone by their name when in the same mood, especially someone with whom I am not ALWAYS their sub, can totally kill any possibility of me submitting without swift and severe remedy of the situation (by which I mean, when I decide to submit to someone, I make it explicit that they cannot ask me to call them by their name or it will simply not work--and they need to pick a pet name for me, or any number of pet names, just as long as they don't call me my given name, I'm fine. Which is partially why I have a scene name to begin with). Off topic as hell, but if I had more time in my schedule I might try the road trip thing with you :P I have never found anyone who needed the protocol as much as I do. When im topping someone and they use my real name, its over. I cant even start again, its basically ruined the moment. Hence why I go by a pseudonym

Justme696 -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 6:43:10 AM)
What i like also, when they call me Sir/Master in public...outside the play room so to say.

kyraofMists -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 8:02:43 AM)
I love protocols that are meaningful for our relationship and I enjoy watching the protocols of other couples. We have many and I can't think of any that I do not like. However, there are rare times when it is frustrating to follow them. If I had to list one as a favorite it would be the use of hand signals to communicate with him. We have 5 or 6 different hand signals that we use and they are very unobtrusive and not usually noticed by others. Knight's Kyra

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 8:04:14 AM)
Now that is cool

Justme696 -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 8:16:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists I love protocols that are meaningful for our relationship and I enjoy watching the protocols of other couples. We have many and I can't think of any that I do not like. However, there are rare times when it is frustrating to follow them. If I had to list one as a favorite it would be the use of hand signals to communicate with him. We have 5 or 6 different hand signals that we use and they are very unobtrusive and not usually noticed by others. Knight's Kyra Kinda like the baseball ones? In what situations do you use them?

kyraofMists -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 8:26:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Justme696 Kinda like the baseball ones? In what situations do you use them? They are used in all situations when one of the following things needs to be communicated: (the first two are used by him and the others are used by Alandra and me) Get him a drink (though we are allowed to use this in play to ask for a drink) Get ready to leave May I give information May I ask a question May I express an opinion May I be excused They are signals that were made up by him years ago and are used unless we are given the instruction to speak freely. edited to add, not nearly as obvious as the sports signals. Only one hand is needed and it is in a very discreet position so that he can see it out of the corner of his eye. Most people do not even see that we are doing it. Knight's Kyra

geishagurl -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 8:35:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 This is such a lovely thread. Thank you for thinking of it. i'm enjoying every response and it is so great how you warmly validate everyone's posts Thank you, takenbyjohn07, during the night and morning hours, the threads got away from me. I woke up to all kinds of wonderful posts and ideas for others. How exciting it is to read about other's lives. I'd answer each and everyone of you, but that would take up a page of it's own! So I thank you all for your input and hope you continue on. :) I think protocal is wonderful, and for me, a needed aspect in this lifestyle we live. I don't think I'd be happy, as a submissive, without any at all. I would feel as something BIG was missing and don't believe I could be completely content without it. It shows respect towards your One, it shows that he's worth your effort, and for me, it would show my admiration for him. What a wonderful life we weave. :)

Justme696 -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 8:48:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists quote: ORIGINAL: Justme696 Kinda like the baseball ones? In what situations do you use them? They are used in all situations when one of the following things needs to be communicated: (the first two are used by him and the others are used by Alandra and me) Get him a drink (though we are allowed to use this in play to ask for a drink) Get ready to leave May I give information May I ask a question May I express an opinion May I be excused They are signals that were made up by him years ago and are used unless we are given the instruction to speak freely. edited to add, not nearly as obvious as the sports signals. Only one hand is needed and it is in a very discreet position so that he can see it out of the corner of his eye. Most people do not even see that we are doing it. Knight's Kyra that is lovely and efficient thank you for sharing

Evility -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 8:50:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: geishagurl Dominates, what are some protocals you enjoy seeing your submissive do, if you also do not mind sharing? I'm not a dominate but protocol really doesn't do much for me. Nothing at all wrong with them if they suit you as they seem quite popular - just not my cup of tea.

Arrrchibald -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 9:21:19 AM)
Not a fan of protocols for their own sake. I much prefer a sub who knows what I like and then surprises me. Planning around it feels a lot less romantic.

Justme696 -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 9:25:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arrrchibald Not a fan of protocols for their own sake. I much prefer a sub who knows what I like and then surprises me. Planning a around it feels a lot less romantic. mm that is a good point too. Guess some like romance in the lifestyle too

geishagurl -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 9:31:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arrrchibald Not a fan of protocols for their own sake. I much prefer a sub who knows what I like and then surprises me. Planning a around it feels a lot less romantic. How about a little of both? Surely there are some things that you would enjoy as the norm. Perhaps having your coffee/tea ready each morning for you? Taking your shoes off for you each evening and slipping on more comfortible house shoes? Fixing you a refreshing drink after you come home from a hard day's work? Perhaps having a warm towel handed to you after you climb out of the shower? Yes, of course it means much more coming from the heart, but the heart is where it comes from in the first place or she/he would not be doing these little things for you in the first place. For the submissive, it is romantic either way. :)

Arrrchibald -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 10:17:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: geishagurl How about a little of both? Surely there are some things that you would enjoy as the norm. Perhaps having your coffee/tea ready each morning for you? Taking your shoes off for you each evening and slipping on more comfortible house shoes? Fixing you a refreshing drink after you come home from a hard day's work? Perhaps having a warm towel handed to you after you climb out of the shower? Yes, of course it means much more coming from the heart, but the heart is where it comes from in the first place or she/he would not be doing these little things for you in the first place. For the submissive, it is romantic either way. :) That'd be very romantic, but not if I told her ahead of time that she must do these things. I'd rather show my appreciation, to let her know how much I'd like it if she did it again. I like more spontaneity with the stricter harsher commands.

KnightofMists -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 10:19:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Justme696 that is lovely and efficient thank you for sharing It also can be amusing too.... There is often a puzzled look on a person's face that I am conversing with when I turn to Alandra or Kyra and give them permission to go when they has been no verbal request from them. The girls have often recieved compliments with their proactive approach of bringing me a drink etc. The girls correct them by informing that they are only responding to my request. This is when they explain that we using hand signals. They can be rather efficient but I am more gratified when they are unobserved. My goal is to establish effective communication without verbal communication. We are training and learning to watch for non-verbal communication signals.

Justme696 -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/13/2008 10:26:50 AM)
I can imagine the response. I like those subtile gestures. The result of the training which you give, sure will make others jalous.

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